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Take Advantage And Shop Early With These Black Friday Deals

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If you’re planning to shop Black Friday deals this holiday season there’s no better time to start than right now. Yes, I’m aware it’s only the first week of November, but some of my favorite companies have already started their sales and I want to share them all with you. But don’t worry, just because the sales began early doesn’t mean they’ll end anytime soon. I don’t want you to miss any deals this year, so here’s the plan. I’ll edit this piece throughout the entire month of November whenever sales are about to happen and announce it on social media, so be sure to follow me everywhere you spend time to keep up.

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Black Friday Deals From My Favorite Adult Companies

Babeland Toys–This company started Black Friday early and has slashed 100s of items on their site already. If you’re in the mood to shop early, head on over to their Black Friday Early Access and get up to 70 percent off their already great prices. Since 1993, Babeland has been providing sex positive education and body safe items for the world. If you’re looking to get your lube on this holiday season, they’re the place to be for all your JO brand lube needs with the best selection right here (over 98 varieties and collections together on this page)

Starship— I love getting started on my holiday shopping early when I can and Starship is getting the party going right now. Now through December 31st, you get bonuses on all gift card purchases (yes, you can use them for yourself or gift them to others). Additionally, through Thanksgiving, they’re offering 30 percent off select Starship branded items online and in stores (tons of locations across the US) just use code EARLYBIRD when you shop. Want more? Spend $250 and you’ll save $50, use code ONESTOP at checkout.

Velvet Co— I love this Mom and Pop company in general, and their thrusting vibrator is still a go-to standard for me on the regular. For years, I wanted a sex machine, but let’s be real, they are bulky and just big. In my current setting, I can’t really use one. But that changed the moment I got my hands on one of their toys. This Black Friday, you can too at a significant savings. The Gratitude Bundle is 40 percent off now through 12/1 and everything else on site is 25 percent off. Beginning 11/27, when you buy the amazing Teddy XL, you get an Energy Ball, free. You can start shopping now.

Lovehoney–Home to so many brands you know and love–Womanizer, We-Vibe, and Arcwave, with unbeatable deals, exclusive offers, and a cascade of savings, get ready to indulge in the joy of giving and receiving with a curated selection of products that cater to every taste and desire.

Shop up to 50 percent off everything at premium brands Womanizer, We-Vibe, and Arcwave NOW through December 4th.

Good Vibes–Previously known as Good Vibrations, this store has been around since the 70s, bringing you high quality items ever since. They’re currently hosting some flash sales, but the big sale begins a bit closer to the holiday and you’ll see Black Friday deals galore then (don’t worry, I’ll update you when they’re ready!)

Fun Factory— When you want the most rumbly motors on the planet, I will always send you to Fun Factory. They are the home of my go-to wand, my favorite insertable vibrator, and some pretty amazing dildos, too. Sustainability is important to this amazing German owned company–as much as pleasure is! Beginning 11/22-29 you’ll save up to 30 percent sitewide on the best this amazing company has to offer, so mark your calendars and get shopping early before your favorite sells out. I have it on good authority VIM will be $118, and the all-new Laya III will be $76.

Love Not War— This sustainable toy company should get more love than it does. With their Power of Love battery, that powers every single toy they provide, and swappable heads, it’s a no brainer their items can’t be beat. Want more? If your battery stops working, they’ll replace it–FREE. That didn’t sell you? Now, their Neo Silicone heads are compatible with silicone lubricant. From 11/23-27 you’ll get a free head when you spend $99, and 2 free heads when you spend $149, also 50 percent off the award winning AMORE bullet vibrator.

Steamy Lit— Love to be naughty and read smut? Steamy Lit has you covered. Their carefully curated subscription boxes begin with a book and can be as simple as that, or as fancy as multiple books including a sex toy. They offer quarterly subscriptions and the deal for Black Friday is really a steal–25 percent off site wide including their merch.

Foria— My go-to for CBD and botanical infused products, Foria is another sustainable company I love to support. This holiday season, if you can shop with a company that promotes saving the planet while treating your body like the temple it is, why wouldn’t you? 11/23-26 60 percent off sitewide! This is their best sale of the year, so don’t miss out.

Happy V— is a progressive Latina-founded vaginal wellness brand that produces 100 percent natural, non-GMO, gluten-free and vegan-friendly essentials. They use clinically proven ingredients at the right dosage made in their own FDA-registered, cGMP facility. Black Friday Deals go from 11/20-27 and give you up to 35 percent off sitewide (20% off sitewide in addition to the 15% off for subscribing to a Quarterly Subscription).

Nose Best Candles— There’s not much better than making your home smell amazing. And this company has you covered. I love supporting small businesses, especially during the holiday season and this company is getting a good piece of my paycheck when this sale starts! Beginning 11/24-27 buy 3 candles and get 1 free! You won’t be disappointed, every candle I’ve purchased from them has not only smelled delicious, they’ve lasted longer than any other brand I’ve used (and trust me, I’ve bought them all from Yankee to Bath and Body).

Betty’s Toy Box— Always one of my favorite places to go to get most anything sexual wellness related. Black Friday Deals/Door Buster sales start now, 11/22 and run through the 27th! You can get 20 percent off the iconic Magic Wand family beginning today, so don’t miss this epic sale. Be sure to check out Betty’s Holiday Guide if you wonder what to buy. And you can use my code DEMI to save 10 percent this season on top of any discounts! Thanks, Betty <3

She Vibe— The home of awesome monster dildos, Uberrime dildos (they’re so pretty!), and a new product I’ll be reviewing soon by Silc Touch ergonomic handle and dildo, and so much more. Save up to 25 percent off using code SANTA now through 11/27. The more you shop, the more you save.

My Plus One— First time vibe customer? Looking for stocking stuffers? On a budget? If you answered yes to any of these questions, then shopping with My Plus One is right for you. Starting November 19th-26th take 30 percent off orders $50 or more (automatically taken at checkout). On Cyber Monday, their entire site is 30 percent off. They’ll have giftable holiday bundles, too. Plus One vibrating bullet is only $15.99 during their Black Friday deals, with super cute packaging.

Eye of Love— Pheromones in perfume were all the rage when I was in high school, they were on every sex shop counter. But they didn’t smell the best and I’ll be honest, I really thought they were a gimmick. Well, times have changed and this company is no joke. Their scents are divine and since I’ve been wearing a couple of their scents, whether it’s a placebo effect or not, my confidence has been boosted. You can give them a shot with a 30 percent discount sitewide from November 24-27 and see what the fuss is all about.

Erika Lust— The home of the absolute best in feminist porn, this holiday season, pay less, moan more! Erika is giving you 50 percent off all plans across all their amazing platforms!

Coconu— Whether you prefer water based or oil based, Coconu has you covered. Save 30 percent using code BF30 sitewide!

This list is not all-inclusive, yet! As I continue to receive updates, I will edit to add them. Deals will be incoming as the month continues. Shop early and often and don’t forget to treat yourself!

If you shop Amazon this holiday season, please consider using my affiliate link here. Also, please clear your cache before shopping any of these links so I get credit. I really appreciate all my readers. By shopping my affiliate links anytime, but especially through the holidays, you help support my work. This article contains many affiliate links, so if you shop and treat yourself, I may earn a small commission.

Black Friday Deals Current as of November 24, 2023.

Sex Expert Tips For An Orgasm For Every One of Your Senses

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July 31st is National Orgasm Day. It only comes once a year, so here are some top tips to make it count and heighten orgasmic sensations, from Sexologist and in-house intimacy coordinator at Erika Lust, Avril Louise Clarke, with some commentary from yours truly! An orgasm is the height of natural human sensation. But few of us know that physical touch is only one element of orgasm. In fact, every single one of our senses can be explored, deployed, leveraged, and otherwise stimulated to induce bigger, more explosive, more satisfying orgasms.

Do you want to know how? Let’s talk about it, you know how much I love porn, so let’s discuss its role in how you can achieve more and better O’s!

Come Into View

Your sense of sight is the most easily stimulated. Put the power of your vision to orgasmic use, by working erotic visual stimuli into your sex. That’s a polite way of saying, watch porn. Good porn. Good, ethical porn. You can try something from the XConfessions catalog, like one of the latest releases Dirty Martini Sex Party, and Put Some Lipstick on It, or even a classic like Female Pleasure Circle.

Erotic movies can offer a shortcut to arousal, and provoke fantasies you’d never considered. XConfessions takes anonymously submitted sexual confessions and turns them into cinematic porn. There’s no better way to celebrate National Orgasm Day.

In Good Taste

An orgasm is right on the tip of your tongue, if you want it to be. Taste is highly sensual, and there is a direct erotic connection between food and sex. 

Figs have been associated with sex for millennia, and may have been the original Forbidden Fruit in the Garden of Eden, instead of apples. What’s more, there’s evidence to suggest that the amino acids in figs might contribute to bigger orgasms. Stock up your cupboards. I recently purchased some locally infused fig balsamic vinegar and have been drizzling it on my fruit and even tomatoes, and can’t get enough of it.

Is it enhancing my orgasms? Maybe. It definitely tastes amazing! So I will continue to do it and if it makes an orgasm happen, even better!

Heaven Scent

Smell is our most evocative sense, instantly able to conjure the memory of a former lover or some half-forgotten tryst at the slightest hint of a familiar scent.

The most orgasmic aroma? A scientific study published in the National Library of Medicine proved that jasmine increases your alertness and improves your mood, both of which help you achieve more intensely satisfying orgasms. Whether it’s a candle or incense sticks, jasmine scents are the sexiest. Thanks, science.

Get In Touch With An Orgasm

It’s safe to say that most of us reach orgasm through some sort of physical contact with our erogenous zones. Again, few people know that orgasm can be achieved through stimulation of parts of our bodies other than our genitals. 

Nipple orgasms are not uncommon, anal orgasms are real, and there are countless different types of ways to experience orgasm through physical contact.

Try a Fun Factory VIM wand vibe, it’s like a cheat code for orgasmic satisfaction or reach for the Maya by Love Not War bullet vibe that can be heated up or cooled down for extra sensations.

Aural Sex

Hearing is overlooked as an orgasmic sense, which is a shame, because it can be incredibly visceral. The sound of sex is unmistakable, and the recent explosion in erotic audio proves that there’s demand for dirty talk.

ASMR can invoke a sense of tingling euphoria, and for many of us, it’s incredibly sexy. For the ultimate National Orgasm Day celebration, try combining all your senses, with ERIKA LUST’s ASMR.

Don’t wait for a holiday to enjoy an orgasm, you deserve to do it every single day if that’s your jam. And paying for your porn is sexy, Erika Lust knows this, so right now they’re currently having a 50% off sitewide summer sale across all platforms including the award-winning XConfessions–perfect to heighten those orgasmic sensations.

Love Not War has a site-wide sale beginning on National Orgasm Day, 40 percent off their sustainable vibes, so be sure not to miss that either.

The links contained within this article are affiliate links, so if you treat yourself while shopping, I may earn a small commission.

Special thanks to Avril Louise Clarke for providing input and tips!

Goal, Goal! Erika Lust Offers Free Porn to USA Women’s World Cup Team

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The World Cup is the biggest thing in Women’s soccer, and the dominant US team is currently 10,000 miles away from the States, in the Land Down Under. To show its support not just for the American team, but for women’s sport in general, ERIKALUST, a sex-positive porn brand, is offering free porn subscriptions and a selected range of 90-minute films. 

Women’s soccer is big business in the US, with a UEFA report estimating it at close to $700 million in annual commercial value. That’s a testament to the growing support for women’s sport. But for the players, so far from the States, the tournament can be an exhausting and lonely time.

As is standard practice during major international sporting tournaments, players are often told to cut out personal distractions to focus solely on their sporting performance, limiting time with their partners – a move which leaves many players full of pent-up sexual frustration.

To help relieve tension, and keep the USA team focused, ERIKALUST is offering to provide free porn subscriptions for the USA, the current World champions.

The unofficial partnership approach was made by founder and new porn pioneer, Erika Lust, who has directed and produced over 300 adult entertainment films, with a focus on the female gaze and using female directors. Erika will personally select 90-minute films for the squad to enjoy, and has personally written to the football associations in an open letter.

Should the offer be accepted, athletes will gain access to a number of ERIKALUST platforms, including Lust Cinema, XConfessions and ElseCinema, where they’ll be able to view a number of award-winning erotic films to enjoy during their downtime. 

The films available from Erika’s award winning site are phenomenal feminist porn that I highly recommend, personally. Not just for internationally acclaimed athletes, but for anyone who enjoys porn, and especially, for people who think they don’t enjoy porn. If you’d like a few personal recommendations, I discussed some Barbie inspired films here.

Speaking about the sponsorship offer, Erika Lust said:

“The tournament’s official partners include gambling, fast food, soft drinks, logistics and IT software businesses. Those aren’t particularly relevant or much use to players who are restricted to how much intimacy they can enjoy due to being away from partners or in desperate need of some self-love. As an adult entertainment brand that makes porn that puts female pleasure at the forefront, it makes perfect sense to offer a helping hand to players during the tournament.

“Porn and masturbation are well known for being a great way to release physical and emotional stress. With the weight of expectation placed on these teams, we want to show them our support by becoming the first unofficial porn sponsor. We hope that the respective football associations see the physical and psychological benefits that masturbation and porn can have on the players’ performance.” 

About Erika Lust

Erika Lust is an award-winning indie adult filmmaker who creates sex-positive adult cinema by portraying relatable characters, realistic hot sex and offering a more inclusive and cinematic alternative to the mass produced mainstream porn.

Erika defends the importance of having women, BIPOC, and LGBTQ+ people behind the camera in all key positions and supports burgeoning talent across the globe by producing and financing female and queer guest directors. In addition to this, Erika has built a diverse (online & offline) community of sex-positive creators and artists.

Over the past 20 years, the Erika Lust brand has gone from strength to strength. Erika has directed many adult feature films and series, over 130 short films, and produced around 150 more.

In 2015, Erika gave her essential TEDx talk ‘It’s Time for Porn to Change‘. Her story was featured in the Netflix documentary series ‘Hot Girls Wanted: Turned On (“Women on Top”)‘, directed by Rashida Jones, and ‘Principles of Pleasure‘, directed by Niharika Desai. In 2019, Erika was named one of the BBC 100 Women’s most influential women of the year, and in 2022, her alternative vision of porn was featured in The New York Times and in the BBC Three & HULU series ‘Planet Sex with Cara Delevingne‘.

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Come on Barbie, Let’s Go Party: Sexy Ways to Channel Your Inner Barbie

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We may be long past our days of playing with plastic dolls (or not, we don’t judge here) but if you’ve been anywhere these last few months, you’ve definitely seen and heard all about Greta Gerwig’s Barbie movie starring Margot Robbie and Ryan Gosling. I can’t lie–I’m stoked about seeing it and it’s really made me want to channel my inner Barbie. Like most folks with a vulva, I had tons of Barbie dolls growing up, they were one of my favorite toys, though I’ll admit, most of the time I spent playing with them was a lesson in sexuality more than traditional doll play. My Barbie’s were all lesbians or at least bisexual haha. Sorry not sorry Ken.

These days, I am an avid collector of toys of a different variety and while I don’t yet live in my Malibu Dreamhouse, a large number of them are pink! As a sex toy reviewer, pink begins to become a color you see way too often, but when you’re living in a Barbie world, that might not be such a bad thing.

How to Channel Your Inner Barbie in Sexy Ways This Summer

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Fun Factory has you covered. Whether you like to play solo or coupled with your favorite Ken, the Volta is one of their hottest toys and yes, it even comes in hot hot pink. Volta is typically known for being an external clitoral toy, but you can switch things up and use it while giving a blow job! Just add some water-based lubricant between the tips, slide it up and down your Ken’s shaft, and focus your attention on the head.

Volta’s tapping tips make vibrations stronger, which boosts arousal and heightens sensitivity. When playing solo, you can spread those tips and press one against your clit while using the other against your vaginal opening, or press them both anywhere you’d like. Go from wild percussion to classic vibration–the patterns are customizable and totally up to you. Your inner Barbie gets to choose wild to mild, girl.

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Dolphins are the epitome of cute, so what better way to channel your inner Barbie than with the Fun Factory Diva Dolphin G-Spot vibrator? This cute vibrator is made even better by the fact that it’s battery powered–did someone say girl’s trip? It boasts the most powerful battery vibration out there, so let that inner diva roar and explore! She’s perfect for any way you want to explore, from penetration to pinpoint external stimulation–offering what you have come to expect from Fun Factory, deep rumbling vibrations. Unlike many battery-powered toys, Diva Dolphin keeps the same level of power right until it runs out of juice.  You can also upgrade with their Hybrid Kit to charge rechargeable batteries inside the toy.

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Sharing really is caring, especially when you’re talking about the Fun Factory Sharevibe in hot pink, complete with a bullet in the bulb. This wearable, vibrating double dildo lets you and your partner get very, very close. Its shorter bulb is designed for G-spot massage and a feeling of deep fullness; just lube it up, slip it in, and get ready to be richly rewarded for giving your partner the business. Even better, the ridge at the base rests against the clit, giving you friction and vibration exactly where you want it. Meanwhile, the receiver gets a smooth, slim shaft with a gentle curve that makes G-spot or prostate play a cinch. Hmmm we always knew Ken was into pegging, didn’t we? Maybe he’s gonna channel his inner Barbie this summer!

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We can’t let Ken have all the bootie fun–The Fun Factory Bootie Fem is specially designed for a woman’s behind. This comfy, beginner butt plug was designed for vulva owners to wear during PIV sex. Bootie Fem has an asymmetrical base, so it doesn’t block the vaginal opening. Plus, the tulip tip was cleverly designed to add pressure near the G-spot, giving the strap-on or penis a thrilling squeeze.

Let’s Get Visual With Our Inner Barbie

Erika Lust is my favorite pornographer. Her films seem to jump off the screen with stunning color, stories, and scenes that make you feel as if you’re watching a regular movie–but much sexier.

Milkshake is a fantasy fiction movie, DRIPPING in nostalgia. With the 70’s aesthetic to the setting of an old-school diner, Milkshake leaves taste buds tingling. Director Charis Uster tells a story of a girl who has always dreamed of having a threesome with two men, as she takes a sip of her sweet milkshake – she finally gets to taste her dream. Her milkshake really DID bring the boys to the yard…

Become a Barbie girl, in a Barbie world. Indie adult director Maximus Skaff is back with a conceptual short film accompanied by a poem. Delve into the cotton candy dream world that is ‘Like A Butterfly’, where queer sex dreams come true. Like A Butterfly is a trans love story that shows the transition, similar to how a beautiful butterfly transforms from a cocoon.

No matter how you choose to channel your inner Barbie, I’m sure you’ll have a blast. If you’re like me, you now have the Aqua song stuck in your head, so you’re welcome. Be sure to check out the new film, coming to theaters July 21st, or wait until it’s available digitally (that’s my plan!) but most of all, live out loud, have tons of orgasms, and “Always leave things better than you found them.”

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If you’d like to chat about anything discussed in this article, or sex education in general, get in touch here. For a list of companies I recommend, check out this ultimate list here. For more of my work, you can find me on Medium.

Have a Little Pride in All Your Sex Routines This June and Always

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June is Pride Month and what better time to ramp up your sexual routines? There’s nothing like a bit of stunning erotica to get you in the mood (or even more in the mood) than Ballroom culture, gay sex, BIPOC representation, all featured in Erika Lust’s newest feature film, Catboy. Erika Lust always brings ethical porn to your solo or partnered sex and this film is a fantastic way to have a little Pride and get ready for some steamy sessions. Directed by Xaho and already rated 5 stars it’s sure to please most anyone.

Catboy and all other XConfessions films can be bought alone, or a subscription to XConfessions to watch Catboy and more is $19.95 USD per month. A subscription is a great way to treat yourself as it gets you access to all the films available from XConfessions every month, including any new releases.

Because we all have our own individual tastes, here’s a round-up of some other great movies no matter what your preference:

New Kings on the Block (Dir. Erika Lust) – Features non-binary and trans representation, Drag King culture, and gender discussion.
Klappe (Dir. Matt Lambert) – Trans, non-binary, gay sex representation. Club cruising culture.
Gender Bender (Dir. Erika Lust), also on Else Cinema here – Queer & Gender play, Kink.
Girl Gang (Dir. Charlie Benedetti) – Lesbian sex, Asexual representation.

While you’re watching your chosen hot film (or three) don’t forget to break out an awesome toy from my favorite company, Fun Factory, and have a little Pride while you’re doing it. You can ride a rainbow this month and always with their Rainbow Amor dildo, and feel good knowing 10 percent of all sales are going to Trans Futures Stage!

This limited edition version of the well-loved Amor is the 6-Inch dildo you know and love and includes a super thin base, allowing for extra close contact when worn in a harness. And for lovers of a versatile toy, it suctions to smooth, flat surfaces for riding and grinding. The girthy tip of AMOR stimulates the G-spot or the prostate, and, at 6 inches, most people find AMOR the most comfortable dildo. Instead of stressing about going too deep, the user can wind their hips and bounce around stress-free.

I have the limited edition Bi Amor, which is the same base version, just in the Bi colors, and it is one of my favorite dildos to use. The size is absolutely perfect, the suction is exceptional, and due to the thinness of the base, it fits well in every harness I have.

Have a little Pride post sex and play

We could all use some soothing and nothing helps rehydrate and help prevent chaffing better than Momotaro Apotheca’s Salve. I can’t say enough wonderful things about their entire line of products and keep them on hand at all times. They’re a queer owned company, which would be a huge selling point for me alone, but honestly, their products speak for themselves.

Their award-winning Salve, a soothing balm for delicate areas smells great and works wonders. With clean hands, simply apply a pea size amount around the vulva or penis after sex, or as often as you chose.

This Pride, take care of yourself with these products and enjoy. But more importantly, be safe out there and have fun!

Get in touch! I offer intimacy and relationship coaching sessions on a limited basis, you can contact me here. If you ever wonder what other toys/wellness items I recommend, I created a page specifically about that.

This article contains affiliate links. If you subscribe to Erika Lust’s ethical porn subscription sites or purchase any items from Fun Factory or Momotaro Apotheca from my links, I will earn a small commission, but it won’t cost you anything more. Thanks for supporting my work <3

xoxo Demi

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Top Ethical Porn Sites For Women to Explore Their Sexuality

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It’s easy to go online and find porn. What’s not easy, is finding ethical porn, created and produced by women, for women, in what feels like a safe space to consume it. What does that even look or feel like? It can mean something different to everyone but for me, it means not being bombarded with ads, choices that feel more in tune with my desires, consent based films, and the knowledge that performers are paid a living wage.

“Big Porn” just doesn’t offer these things. Let’s be honest, most of us who consume porn have probably done so at least a few times on a free, tube site. I get it, I’ve done it myself in the past, even being part of the industry. Before I knew exactly how those sites worked, I thought somehow, the performers got a share of the ad revenue or were somehow being paid, even though I didn’t personally spend any money on the platform. It’s easy to convince ourselves we aren’t doing something wrong, especially when we’re broke and want a quick fix.

But using these tube sites isn’t ethical and more often than not, the performers whose videos and clips are featured on these sites never see a dime of the money made from them.

Research about these sites has taught me a number of things, one being, most of the videos uploaded to these tube sites aren’t even done with the performer’s permission. They’re taken from cam sites, ripped from DVDs, or screen grabbed from fan sites. Some may even be what’s known as revenge porn, videos and photos sent to a significant other at some point, then distributed after a breakup. The bottom line is, they’re not being distributed with consent. Clearly, not ethical porn.

Paying for your porn helps ensure performers are earning a living wage. Moreover, it changes the conversation about porn. How? When you pay for the porn you consume, you have a hand in sponsoring the kind of content you want to see–you’re supporting studios that do the right thing by providing safe spaces for their performers, who understand testing is important, who know conversations about consent mean a more comfortable environment for all, and the continuation of a product you enjoy.

Top Ethical Porn Sites For Women to Explore Their Sexuality

Erika Lust’s Feminist Collection of Ethical Porn Sites

Erika Lust is a pioneer in the porn industry for a reason and she’s created a number of sites to showcase her groundbreaking work. There’s site for just about anyone, from softcore porn to her exemplary XConfessions–where users can write in and disclose their own fantasies and potentially have it made into a film!

Else Cinema–When you’re looking for something else, Else Cinema, also known as The Erika Lust Soft Edition, then look no further. This is the first cinema of erotic movies that offers viewers a sensual experience. More romantic storylines and passionate affairs than your typical porn experience.

Lust Cinema–If you’re looking for porn that is feature-length or in a binge-worthy series with all-star adult performers, Lust Cinema is your answer. This is the adult studio for lovers of cinema and sex, with relatable storylines and realistic sex that’s part of a wider narrative. On Lust Cinema you will also find an extensive catalogue of porn films made by some of the top adult studios in the USA. Whether you’re craving lesbian porn or BDSM sex, expect to find it here starring some of your favorite porn performers.

XConfessions–Completely crowd-sourced erotic cinema: the public’s secret desires are turned into screenplays for Erika Lust and guest directors from around the world. If you’re ready to confess, your secret fantasy might just be their next short film!

The award-winning XConfessions was born in 2013 as the first step of Erika Lust’s mission to create a new wave of adult cinema. XConfessions is now home to a community of filmmakers, artists, performers, and viewers who love sex and film and are looking for a new kind of erotic experience.

Lust also has a non-profit, The Porn Conversation (TPC) which she runs with her partner, whose goal is to provide educational materials to parents, educators, and older teens concerning porn literacy. It’s a fantastic organization I am proud to be an ambassador for.

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Lustery–Founded in 2016 by Spanish filmmaker Paulita Pappel, Lustery started small, but with big ambitions. It germinated within Berlin’s sex-positive community with the goal of capturing the candid intimacy and raw passion of people’s sex lives. The market for the platform grew quickly, fed as much by word of mouth between couples as by an increasingly smut-literate audience hungry for authenticity in their porn. Its goal: To celebrate sex and relationships in their diversity by creating an archive of authentic intimacy and a sex-positive platform for people all around the world.

Side note, Paulita has been featured in a number of films which can be found on Erika Lust’s sites!

Sssh.com–Porn, reimagined. The award-winning site, Sssh, is the premier destination for sex-positive, ethical porn made from a woman’s point of view. Crowd-sourced films are inspired by fantasies and desires shared by their members. Their provocative storylines will challenge your perceptions of explicit sexual content. From cutting edge VR to narrative film, and what most porn sites leave out–written word and auditory stimulation. Sssh has been bringing phenomenal work to the porn industry since 1999, founded by critically acclaimed filmmaker, Angie Rowntree.

Ethical porn means something different to everyone, but the bottom line for most women is, we should be able to have a safe space to consume quality content to explore our sexuality. These sites provide that, while also having a bevy of items to choose from so we never run out of things to consume in the process.

If you’d like to speak further about any of these sites or porn literacy, get in touch!

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FUN FACTORY VIM Review–It’s Out of This World

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There are a lot of wands on the market today, but the most well known will always be the Magic Wand–so much so, most people refer to almost every wand as a Magic Wand. This is known as a “generic trademark”, something we all commonly do, such as calling all facial tissues Kleenex, all copy machines Xerox, etc. It’s a bad habit we should probably break, but I’ll admit, I’m guilty of doing it myself! But after using the Fun Factory VIM, I may just start referring to all wands as a VIM.

What is the FUN FACTORY VIM?

It’s no secret FUN FACTORY is one of my favorite companies, for good reason. Their toys are well made, they’re an ethical company, and they’re great to work with–and VIM is no different. The FUN FACTORY VIM is the world’s first weighted rumble wand–but what does that mean, exactly? The motor is uniquely weighted, so it provides rumbling vibration no matter what speed you choose, unlike other wands that may be buzzy at lower levels of vibration. Some users never reach the top levels on a wand, they find them to be too much, so they may not get the rumbling tones some users know and love.

Don’t fret, if you’re sensitive and enjoy lower settings, you will love VIM and be able to get that rumble even at the very first level of fun. FUN FACTORY is well known for their rumbling toys, and this wand is no different in that regard, but note, this motor is new and not featured in any of their other items.

Speaking of levels, let’s talk about the settings. Going back to that ever popular Magic Wand, the original has two settings, low and Jesus Roosevelt Christ. Now, I’m not really that sensitive, but I’ll admit, it’s a rare occasion that I can hit JRC on my original MW. I would love to have somewhere in between. I also own a mini Magic Wand and was oh so thankful for the upgrade to more choices in settings. But with the FUN FACTORY VIM, the choices became even more amazing.

The toy’s thudding vibration is unique and travels below the surface for deeper pleasure. Which really surprised me. I’ve found with other wands, and trust me, I own a number of them beyond the MW, even when I press them hard against my body, I don’t really get much sensation beyond the surface, but with VIM, the vibration goes deeper and really travels to the clitoral nerves beneath, giving sensations I haven’t felt before except when I’ve used internal G-spot toys coupled with clitoral stimulation. It’s pretty awesome.

The FUN FACTORY VIM is programmed for you with three settings, Deep Orgasm (press the + button six times), Intense Orgasm (press the + button seven times), and Edging Program (press the + button eight times). Or you can use + button to increase the speed from one-five.

What are the programs like?

Deep Orgasm–is a rumbly program that starts with light vibration and builds up to the maximum setting. Really, it does all the work for you. This would be great for when you’re not in a hurry and want to romance yourself, but not engage in edging.

Intense Orgasm–Want a quickie? This is fast and powerful. And let me tell you, it’s no joke. I made the “mistake” of trying this setting first, and I made a huge mess! I thought I would cum quickly, but I also thought I wouldn’t squirt. I kept my panties on, and let’s just say, they had to go in the laundry and I ended up having to change the sheets on my bed because I didn’t prepare properly. But I did it again immediately!

Edging–Builds in intensity and then drops off, again and again, reaching higher heights until you climax. I tried this setting for about an hour, teasing myself until I couldn’t stand it any longer. It was a lot of fun and I could see this being even more exciting to use with a partner.

Settings one-five–As you’d expect, they go from gentle rumbling vibrations to powerful. The lowest setting is probably the most gentle vibration I’ve ever felt from a wand, yet, it is still rumbling not buzzy at all. And it is absolutely the quietest wand I’ve ever used. According to FUN FACTORY it is 50 percent quieter than the leading wand on the market. I did a test video and posted it on You Tube, through all the settings so you can hear and will share it here. Setting five is quite intense, and so far, I haven’t been able to use it for more than a few seconds directly on my clit, but I do enjoy it when I’m using the wand as a massager on other parts of my body!

Box with VIM and other items
Fun Factory VIM

What comes with FUN FACTORY VIM

You’ll notice my photo has some extra goodies, but I received a special box since I agreed to test VIM in exchange for providing an honest review. If you order your own, you’ll get VIM, a magnetic charging cable (no block), a Yes/No/Maybe List to fill out with your partner, a booklet with operating instructions, care directions, and a flirt or dare game to inspire your play.

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Using the FUN FACTORY VIM

The FUN FACTORY VIM comes in two beautiful colors, Sunrise Orange or Midnight Blue. I was a little sad I didn’t get the blue, as it’s my favorite color, but the orange is truly stunning, and I’ll be frank, I really won’t ever have to worry about losing it! Not that it’s ever going in the toy cabinet, it gets to live on the table next to my bed for all time.

One of the coolest features I wasn’t even sure would be pertinent to me at first are the grooves in the head of VIM. Why? They hold lube so perfectly. I’ll admit, I’ve never really used lube with a wand before. Typically, I use my wands over my clothing. They just vibrate so powerfully, I find I can’t use them directly on my clit, so I don’t need to use lube. But since VIM has these built in channels or grooves on the head, I decided I would give it a shot.

Since VIM also has a much lower setting than traditional wands, I knew using it without the clothing barrier would go over much better, well, after my initial trial on goddess mode aka the Intense Orgasm program. Since VIM is made of body safe silicone, be sure you’re not using a silicone based lubricant. You can choose something like Coconu’s Water Based lubricant or even an oil based product like Foria’s Awaken Arousal Oil with CBD to enhance your sensations even further. Just be sure if you plan to use a latex condom later on, you’re aware oil based products are not compatible with condoms.

My preferred way of using VIM I’ve found is on the Deep Orgasm program setting. It’s nice to treat yourself and take some time coming to your orgasm over time, but not necessarily edging yourself–unless that’s your thing. It’s not really mine, but to each their own. I like engaging in edging with a partner, just not so much on my own, which sadly, I am more often than not these days.

I found VIM fits quite nicely in two of the three pockets of my Liberator Pulse, so I can slip it in whichever one I choose, push the mount against the head of my bed and have a totally hands-free experience. This is great for me because I have some mobility issues and even though VIM is really light-weight (34 percent lighter than the average wand), sometimes, my hands don’t want to cooperate and my arms get tired even at the beginning of playtime, and that’s never fun. Plus, it’s hot to grind on the toy to get off.

For the most part though, I hold VIM in both hands, and press down hard, taking full advantage of the bendable head, and allow the rumbling vibrations to travel throughout my body. Bonus, those vibrations do not travel down the handle at all. They stay focused in the head and to your body, where they belong.

Want a quickie? VIM has you covered. As I briefly mentioned earlier, the Intense Orgasm program will bring you to your knees, and for me, is a guaranteed way to squirt, no internal stimulation necessary! Although I tried it later, using my favorite FUN FACTORY vibrator, Big Boss, in my vagina and VIM on my clitoris and holy fuck. I’m pretty sure my neighbors heard that screaming orgasm. I’m glad I prepped for that session, because I didn’t have any more clean sheets.

You can get your very own FUN FACTORY VIM direct from the company for $169 with free shipping. If you shop using my links, you’ll not only get a quality product, you’ll also be supporting my work and I’ll earn a small commission.

This article contains affiliate links to other companies as well, and I may earn a small commission if you treat yourself to their products. If you shop at Betty’s Toy Box (Liberator Link) and use my code DEMI, you’ll get 10 percent off your entire order.

If You’re Looking For the Best Rabbit Vibrator Compare These

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Fun Factory Lady Bi
Fun Factory Miss Bi

Rabbit vibrators are one of the most recognizable sex toys available. This is owing in part to their coverage on shows like Sex and the City as far back as the late 90s. If you watched the show, you may remember the episode, The Turtle and the Hare where Miranda lends Charlotte her rabbit. While clearly, they couldn’t show exactly what happened, it was pretty obvious based on the fact that Charlotte didn’t want to leave the house, a grand time was had. I guess you could say she found the best rabbit vibrator for her.

Sex toys in general have come a long way since 1998, thankfully. And we have a lot more choices now, which can sometimes be overwhelming. If you’re looking for the best rabbit vibrator out there, you may find multiple choices even within one company, but don’t worry, I’m going to narrow down the choices for you and help you out.

Which is the Best Rabbit Vibrator? Miss Bi or Lady Bi?

Fun Factory has some of the best sex toys on the market, hands down. Their powerful, rumbly motors, ergonomic handles, and easy to navigate controls make their toys well worth owning. So it stands to reason, if you’re looking for the best rabbit vibrator, they’re a great choice. But which one should you choose? Well, it depends on your body and how you like to receive your pleasure. Let’s break down the specifications of each of their rabbit vibrators so you can decide for yourself.

Fun Factory Miss Bi Specifications

  • Two strong motors for customizable sensations
  • Designed to hug the clit & G-spot
  • Flexible clitoral arm adapts to any body
  • Girthy in the right places
  • Save your favorite vibration setting

One thing I hear a lot from folks when they’re talking about rabbit vibrators is they want to be able to control the vibrations separately, from the internal arm and the clitoral arm. Fun Factory has you covered. Personally, I enjoy more vibrations internally and a little less on my clit, so being able to adjust these vibrations my way makes all the difference.

I also love how flexible the clitoral arm is and the width. Too often this piece on a rabbit is so narrow it gives pinpoint vibrations to my clit and that is just not the kind of stimulation I need. It’s too much and takes me out of the headspace I need to be in. The shape of the clitoral arm allows the rumbling vibration to be dispersed which is a much better feeling.

The base is super-girthy, too, to please your sensitive vaginal opening. With minimal stroking, rubbing, or thrusting, you can get maximum pleasure. One thing I do hear a lot is how “short” Miss Bi is. Fun Factory based the length on tester feedback. People stated they craved more girth, a shorter length, and a pronounced G-spot curve. And, it’s anal safe. That clitoral arm? Feels pretty damn fantastic tickling the perineum.

Right now, when you add Miss Bi to your cart, you’ll see a 20 percent discount through 3/29/2023 when you buy from Fun Factory.

Fun Factory Lady Bi Specifications

  • Two super-strong, rumbling motors
  • Hits the clit and the a-spot, getting you extra turned on and lubed up
  • Designed to satisfy the size queen who wants it all
  • Firm-yet-flexible silicone for perfect pressure
  • Easy-control (even with lube hands!) loop handle

Calling size queens! If you want a longer insertable length, Lady Bi may be the better choice for you. If you want to be wetter, more turned on, and to experience deeper sensations than ever before, then you want a long, strong vibe that’s going to hit your a-spot, the area close to the cervix that has been shown to increase arousal. Obviously all bodies are different, so this vibe may not hit that spot for you, and angles do matter.

Like the Miss Bi, the Lady Bi also has two powerful, rumbling motors, in a design that’s long and firm, for size lovers who crave dual stimulation. Need firmer pressure on your clit to get you where you’re going? They adapted their signature FlexiFUN Technology™ to make Lady Bi flexible-but-not-too-flexible, so you can enjoy a more intense pressure from a shaft that adapts to your motion. Plus, the length gives you more options for play, whether that means vibrating the arousal-triggering a-spot or simply having greater mobility.

If you want to know more about A-spot stimulation and how it can work for you, I highly recommend reading up on it from my dear friend, Cy over on her blog at Super Smash Cache. She is the A-spot Queen.

Comparing the Lady Bi and Miss Bi side by side

Rabbit vibrator
Power TypeMovementDimensionsBattery LifeCharging Time
Miss BiUSB rechargeable with included charger6 speeds and 6 patternsInsertable length: 3.15 in External vibrator length: 1.38 in
30-60 min6-8 hours
Lady BiUSB rechargeable with included charger6 speeds and 6 patternsInsertable length: 4.5 in
External vibrator length: 1.97 in		30-60 min6-8 hours

Final Thoughts

So which is the best rabbit vibrator? That’s up to you and your body. Personally, I enjoy them both depending on what kind of pleasure I am seeking that day. The Lady Bi feels fantastic when I want a deeper penetration and to make myself squirt more easily. The Miss Bi is perfect when I want more girth at the vaginal opening and a more dispersed rumbling vibration across my entire clit. Plus, I have found it’s really fun to use anally, too. You can also use Lady Bi anally, they’re both anal safe.

This article contains affiliate links, so when you treat yourself while shopping at Fun Factory, I may earn a small commission. Right now, through 3/29/2023 when you add Miss Bi to your cart, you’ll receive 20 percent off.

The Pornhub Documentary Isn’t About Content Creator Greed

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Recently Netflix released Money Shot: The Pornhub Story, a documentary discussing, among other things, how one website, often referred to as “Big Porn” managed to secure its place online as the go-to site for all things pornographic–using SEO to direct traffic to all its subsidiaries when anyone searched for specific keywords relating to adult content. This Pornhub documentary isn’t, however, just about their meteoric rise, nor is it just about their greed as a company (though that is a large part of it), or lack of morals. It’s about a host of issues that brought together showcase a larger issue within the porn industry.

What it isn’t about is content creator greed. But for some reason, that’s what I keep seeing people harping on across social media.

In case you aren’t aware this is a form of victim blaming and it needs to stop. Adult content creators have been harmed by large companies who behave badly. Not just Pornhub, but other porn production companies, fansites, and more. Sex workers are included in this as well. These folks are out here doing a job and literally just expect to be treated with respect and dignity and oh yeah, be paid for the services they’re providing.

Sounds simple, right? Trust me, it isn’t.

They’re blocked at every turn. Payment processors don’t want to work with them. Clients in the real world and online scam them or flat out refuse to pay for services rendered. Production companies don’t provide safe environments or honor contracts. Companies conduct business in nefarious ways. The Pornhub documentary discussed scenarios where illegal activities were being posted on their site and monetized, which in turn caused legitimate content creators to lose access to being paid for their content.

Yet, PH still made money, a lot of money.

Why is the Pornhub documentary important?

Most people became aware of the scandal surrounding Pornhub due to a campaign that began a couple of years ago by a Evangelical group attempting to shut the site down. While I do not agree with how this came about and know there were a lot of lies and issues surrounding it, I do understand what they were trying to accomplish in theory.

What I have an issue with is what happened in the wake of it. Payment processors pulling their services for legit content creators is a problem. Not just for Pornhub, but for other fansites and porn production companies as well. Adult content creators need legitimate ways to accept payment for services provided. We don’t live in a cash society any longer. These groups claim they want to help sex workers, yet, they put us in a position to be in more danger by taking away the ability to exist online where we are safer.

“If the attack on porn continues on the path that it’s currently on…it’s not just an attack on porn, it’s an attack on women’s sexuality, it’s an attack on queer sexuality, it’s an attack on people being able to express themselves openly, especially online.”

Siri Dahl Money Shot: The Pornhub Story

Adult content creators aren’t being greedy by saying they just want to be paid, they’re expecting what anyone else does when they do their job.

“We’re scared for how this affects freedoms of speech online, sexual expression, and marginalized spaces. The implications are so much broader.”

Gwen Adora

Womanizer Classic 2 Review–A Popular Classic Is Renewed

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Womanizer Classic 2

The ever popular Womanizer Classic has gotten an upgrade, now the Classic 2, read on to see how Womanizer took one of their iconic designs and made it even better.

The Womanizer Classic is one of the most popular toys in Womanizer’s line of iconic toys and I was excited to see it get an upgrade. The Classic 2 is an updated version of the original can be considered an essential to your bedroom. If you’re new to clitoral stimulators, this toy is a pressure wave stimulator, using Womanizer’s patented Pleasure Air technology, the same as their Starlet 3 that I recently reviewed. However, this model is a much nicer toy and the price point and added features reflect that.

What’s improved from the Classic to the Classic 2?

The size is approximately the same, both models are what’s considered full size pressure wave toys with comfortable handles and a sleek design. The Classic 2 now has 10 intensity levels, an increase from 8 in the previous model. The new model comes in two colors, Black and Bordeaux, whereas the original only came in one color. It comes with two stimulation heads, medium and small (in a separate pouch) and you are welcome to order other sizes direct from Womanizer.

What are the specs of the Classic 2?

ColorsRun TimeCharge TimeHead MaterialBody MaterialsWeightDimensions
Black, Bordeaux180 min120 minSiliconeFull soft touch surface & silicone buttons118 g148 mm x 48 mm x 35 mm

Manufacturer Warranty: 5 years

Box includes: Womanizer Classic 2 clitoral simulator, additional stimulation head, cotton storage pouch, USB charging cable (AC adapter not included), quick start guide, safety instructions

It charges with the included USB charging cable and note, the LED light is in the clitoral stimulating head, and will come on and flash when charging. 120 minutes to charge, 180 minutes of use.

There are three round control buttons. The ON/OFF button is near the bottom of the toy, and sits flush with the surface. The other two buttons are located in the middle of the body. These (+) and (–) buttons sit a bit above the surface of the toy. The (–) is smaller than the (+) button. There’s a tiny gap between them. All three buttons take firm pressure to press down and make a loud click sound.

What are the features?

Pleasure Air Technology, unique to all Womanizer products, means your clitoris is stimulated without direct contact. Gentle air vibrations suck and massage at the same time, giving you an experience unlike any other toy you’ve experienced. Since this product has this technology, this also means there’s no vibration transfer. This is great for anyone with limited hand mobility or general mobility issues. It’s also helpful for those who’ve found the intensity of other clitoral stimulators on the market to be too much.

To turn the Classic 2 on, press and hold the ON/OFF button for two seconds. Increase intensity by tapping the (+), decrease by tapping the (-). Turn it off by pressing the ON/OFF button again for two seconds.

But don’t worry, the Classic 2 has more than one setting, in fact, it boasts 10 intensity levels, so you’re sure to find the right fit for you. Whether you prefer gentle or OMG, you can cycle through and find a level that’s sure to please you. Once you have and you’ve experienced the pleasure you seek, there’s even an Afterglow setting (briefly tap the ON/OFF button), which automatically puts the Classic 2 on its lowest setting, allowing you to ride the waves without feeling the most intense setting you may have wanted before you hit the high notes.

How well does it perform?

In reading other reviews of the Classic and the Classic 2 one thing I noticed is some people with sensitive clits saying the original was already too intense for them and being concerned that adding more intensity levels wasn’t going to help them any. I’m impressed that Womanizer added a lower setting when they revamped the Classic 2, so people with sensitive clits could enjoy more settings, instead of feeling like they weren’t getting something new with this improved toy.

Too often, I feel like toy companies are going for more intensity instead of understanding you can add more without necessarily making everything a jackhammer. Don’t get me wrong, I don’t want every toy to feel “weak” so to speak, but an understanding that every body is different is important.

The new Afterglow feature is nice for multiple reasons. Whether you have a sensitive clit or not, once you’ve orgasmed the first time, your clit can get a little sensitive and if you’re going for more than one O, it’s nice to slow things down a bit and that feature helps. You can also use it to edge yourself and make things last, and ramp things up for an even bigger finish.

Overall, I really enjoyed this toy and it’s definitely become a staple in my rotation of clitoral stimulators. I love the materials the body is constructed of, the matte finish is nice, it doesn’t get slippery if your hand has lube on it (which mine usually does!) and that’s a really nice touch.

Final Thoughts

I recently reviewed the Womanizer Starlet 3 and created this chart to compare it with the Classic 2. Price wise, there’s a pretty significant gap. They’re similar toys in so far as what they do, but luxury definitely wins the day. If you can afford to save for the Classic 2, I highly recommend it. But if you want a more affordable option, you won’t be disappointed with the Starlet 3 until the Classic 2 becomes available for your budget.


Classic 2 The Essential Clitoral StimulatorStarlet 3 Compact Sized Clitoral Stimulator
ColorsBlack, BordeauxTurquoise, indigo, violet, pink, gray
Intensity levels106
materialFull soft touch surface & silicone buttonsABS & silicone head
Charging time12030
Run time18030
Special featuresAfterglowNone
Water resistanceWaterproof (IPX7)Waterproof (IPX7)

Thank you to Betty’s Toy Box for providing the Classic 2 in exchange for an honest review. The links contained in this article are affiliate links, so if you treat yourself while shopping, I’ll earn a small commission. Use my code DEMI while shopping at Betty’s and save 10 percent on your entire order. Shipping is free when you spend $69.

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