I’m Demeter Delune, a sex positive educator, spicy toy reviewer, pleasure advocate, intimacy/relationship coach, GFE provider, Professional Dominatrix, and freelance writer. Whew, that’s a mouthful! I’ve been doing most of this for about 15 years. I’m so glad you’re here, let me tell you a little about the philosophies behind what I do.

We all have a philosophy whether we realize it or not. So what’s the philosophy of Demeter Delune? There’s a lot to who I am, I carry a lot of titles because I do a lot of things, but I try to keep things as simple as possible.

Real Sex Education should be accessible to everyone–

What we’re taught in school about sex is not pleasure based. In fact, I’ll go so far as to say, pleasure is not even mentioned. Sex shouldn’t just be about procreation or abstinence. Not everyone is trying to get pregnant nor prevent pregnancy. Sex is pleasurable, or at least, it should be. Personally, I went years having bad sex, meh sex, and sex I didn’t want to have because I was never taught about pleasure, consent, or speaking up for what I desired. I want to change that and provide a place to have those conversations, share my stories, and build a knowledge base for others.

Sex Toys and sexual wellness items are tools–

One of the things that makes me sad to read or hear comes from men (mostly), and that’s about sex toys being their competition in the bedroom. How they don’t think think they can compete with something motorized. It’s not a competition, guys. Sex toys, lube, and other accoutrements we can bring into the bedroom are tools–no different than using a laptop to write versus pen and paper. I also hear many people worry if they use lube their partner will think poorly of them for being unable to get wet enough on their own. This couldn’t be further from the truth. Lube is an amazing invention and no one should ever be shamed for using it. Sex can be so much better when we stop worrying about what others will think about what we bring to bed (or wherever) with us, when we strip away the shame society has conditioned us to think we must carry, and I wholeheartedly believe this is one of my callings–to help others bring more pleasure into their lives by informing them about the best sex toys, sexual wellness items, and pleasure tools on the market today to help strip away that shame and societal conditioning one step at a time.

Pleasure Advocacy is in everything I do–

Whether I’m sharing a personal story or telling you about the latest sex toy I’ve discovered, advocating for my own pleasure, and helping you learn to speak up for your own is in everything I do. One of my core beliefs is, as long as it’s Safe, Sane, and Consensual, you should go for it. I am very kink friendly and don’t believe in yucking someone elses yum. It doesn’t have to be something I am interested in, in order for me to have a conversation with you about it. Just keep it legal and we’re all good. This extends to my intimacy and relationship coaching, GFE work, and Professional Domme clients as well. There isn’t much on the list of what we can’t talk about, just reach out!

I’m a sex expert, but I don’t know everything–

The definition of an expert is: A person with a high degree of skill in or knowledge of a certain subject. I qualify in spades, but I don’t pretend I can answer every question or solve every problem. However, what I can promise you is, I will do my level best to point you in the right direction if I’m unable to help. 

Contact Demeter Delune:

If you want to know more about any of the services I provide such as freelance writing, intimacy/relationship coaching, sex toy consultations, GFE, or Professional Dominatrix sessions, please don’t hesitate to reach out! You can contact me at demeterdelune@gmail.com to set up a consultation via chat or video.