We may be long past our days of playing with plastic dolls (or not, we don’t judge here) but if you’ve been anywhere these last few months, you’ve definitely seen and heard all about Greta Gerwig’s Barbie movie starring Margot Robbie and Ryan Gosling. I can’t lie–I’m stoked about seeing it and it’s really made me want to channel my inner Barbie. Like most folks with a vulva, I had tons of Barbie dolls growing up, they were one of my favorite toys, though I’ll admit, most of the time I spent playing with them was a lesson in sexuality more than traditional doll play. My Barbie’s were all lesbians or at least bisexual haha. Sorry not sorry Ken.
These days, I am an avid collector of toys of a different variety and while I don’t yet live in my Malibu Dreamhouse, a large number of them are pink! As a sex toy reviewer, pink begins to become a color you see way too often, but when you’re living in a Barbie world, that might not be such a bad thing.
How to Channel Your Inner Barbie in Sexy Ways This Summer
Fun Factory has you covered. Whether you like to play solo or coupled with your favorite Ken, the Volta is one of their hottest toys and yes, it even comes in hot hot pink. Volta is typically known for being an external clitoral toy, but you can switch things up and use it while giving a blow job! Just add some water-based lubricant between the tips, slide it up and down your Ken’s shaft, and focus your attention on the head.
Volta’s tapping tips make vibrations stronger, which boosts arousal and heightens sensitivity. When playing solo, you can spread those tips and press one against your clit while using the other against your vaginal opening, or press them both anywhere you’d like. Go from wild percussion to classic vibration–the patterns are customizable and totally up to you. Your inner Barbie gets to choose wild to mild, girl.
Dolphins are the epitome of cute, so what better way to channel your inner Barbie than with the Fun Factory Diva Dolphin G-Spot vibrator? This cute vibrator is made even better by the fact that it’s battery powered–did someone say girl’s trip? It boasts the most powerful battery vibration out there, so let that inner diva roar and explore! She’s perfect for any way you want to explore, from penetration to pinpoint external stimulation–offering what you have come to expect from Fun Factory, deep rumbling vibrations. Unlike many battery-powered toys, Diva Dolphin keeps the same level of power right until it runs out of juice. You can also upgrade with their Hybrid Kit to charge rechargeable batteries inside the toy.
Sharing really is caring, especially when you’re talking about the Fun Factory Sharevibe in hot pink, complete with a bullet in the bulb. This wearable, vibrating double dildo lets you and your partner get very, very close. Its shorter bulb is designed for G-spot massage and a feeling of deep fullness; just lube it up, slip it in, and get ready to be richly rewarded for giving your partner the business. Even better, the ridge at the base rests against the clit, giving you friction and vibration exactly where you want it. Meanwhile, the receiver gets a smooth, slim shaft with a gentle curve that makes G-spot or prostate play a cinch. Hmmm we always knew Ken was into pegging, didn’t we? Maybe he’s gonna channel his inner Barbie this summer!
We can’t let Ken have all the bootie fun–The Fun Factory Bootie Fem is specially designed for a woman’s behind. This comfy, beginner butt plug was designed for vulva owners to wear during PIV sex. Bootie Fem has an asymmetrical base, so it doesn’t block the vaginal opening. Plus, the tulip tip was cleverly designed to add pressure near the G-spot, giving the strap-on or penis a thrilling squeeze.
Let’s Get Visual With Our Inner Barbie
Erika Lust is my favorite pornographer. Her films seem to jump off the screen with stunning color, stories, and scenes that make you feel as if you’re watching a regular movie–but much sexier.
Milkshake is a fantasy fiction movie, DRIPPING in nostalgia. With the 70’s aesthetic to the setting of an old-school diner, Milkshake leaves taste buds tingling. Director Charis Uster tells a story of a girl who has always dreamed of having a threesome with two men, as she takes a sip of her sweet milkshake – she finally gets to taste her dream. Her milkshake really DID bring the boys to the yard…
Become a Barbie girl, in a Barbie world. Indie adult director Maximus Skaff is back with a conceptual short film accompanied by a poem. Delve into the cotton candy dream world that is ‘Like A Butterfly’, where queer sex dreams come true. Like A Butterfly is a trans love story that shows the transition, similar to how a beautiful butterfly transforms from a cocoon.
No matter how you choose to channel your inner Barbie, I’m sure you’ll have a blast. If you’re like me, you now have the Aqua song stuck in your head, so you’re welcome. Be sure to check out the new film, coming to theaters July 21st, or wait until it’s available digitally (that’s my plan!) but most of all, live out loud, have tons of orgasms, and “Always leave things better than you found them.”
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June is Pride Month and what better time to ramp up your sexual routines? There’s nothing like a bit of stunning erotica to get you in the mood (or even more in the mood) than Ballroom culture, gay sex, BIPOC representation, all featured in Erika Lust’s newest feature film, Catboy. Erika Lust always brings ethical porn to your solo or partnered sex and this film is a fantastic way to have a little Pride and get ready for some steamy sessions. Directed by Xaho and already rated 5 stars it’s sure to please most anyone.
Catboy and all other XConfessions films can be bought alone, or a subscription to XConfessions to watch Catboy and more is $19.95 USD per month. A subscription is a great way to treat yourself as it gets you access to all the films available from XConfessions every month, including any new releases.
Because we all have our own individual tastes, here’s a round-up of some other great movies no matter what your preference:
New Kings on the Block (Dir. Erika Lust) – Features non-binary and trans representation, Drag King culture, and gender discussion. Klappe (Dir. Matt Lambert) – Trans, non-binary, gay sex representation. Club cruising culture. Gender Bender (Dir. Erika Lust), also on Else Cinema here – Queer & Gender play, Kink. Girl Gang (Dir. Charlie Benedetti) – Lesbian sex, Asexual representation.
While you’re watching your chosen hot film (or three) don’t forget to break out an awesome toy from my favorite company, Fun Factory, and have a little Pride while you’re doing it. You can ride a rainbow this month and always with their Rainbow Amor dildo, and feel good knowing 10 percent of all sales are going to Trans Futures Stage!
This limited edition version of the well-loved Amor is the 6-Inch dildo you know and love and includes a super thin base, allowing for extra close contact when worn in a harness. And for lovers of a versatile toy, it suctions to smooth, flat surfaces for riding and grinding. The girthy tip of AMOR stimulates the G-spot or the prostate, and, at 6 inches, most people find AMOR the most comfortable dildo. Instead of stressing about going too deep, the user can wind their hips and bounce around stress-free.
I have the limited edition Bi Amor, which is the same base version, just in the Bi colors, and it is one of my favorite dildos to use. The size is absolutely perfect, the suction is exceptional, and due to the thinness of the base, it fits well in every harness I have.
Have a little Pride post sex and play
We could all use some soothing and nothing helps rehydrate and help prevent chaffing better than Momotaro Apotheca’s Salve. I can’t say enough wonderful things about their entire line of products and keep them on hand at all times. They’re a queer owned company, which would be a huge selling point for me alone, but honestly, their products speak for themselves.
Their award-winning Salve, a soothing balm for delicate areas smells great and works wonders. With clean hands, simply apply a pea size amount around the vulva or penis after sex, or as often as you chose.
This Pride, take care of yourself with these products and enjoy. But more importantly, be safe out there and have fun!
Get in touch! I offer intimacy and relationship coaching sessions on a limited basis, you can contact me here. If you ever wonder what other toys/wellness items I recommend, I created a page specifically about that.
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When it comes to oral sex, most folks who indulge in it think they have the best moves down pat. I won’t lie, I’ve been with people who swore they were the best cunnilinguists out there, and they went on to prove themselves worthy of the title. Unfortunately, that’s not the case the majority of the time.
Like anything else you engage in with another person, your mileage may vary. There are things you can do for one person that will have them screaming for more; try it with someone else and they may do all they can to squirm away.
I say all this to say, your moves may have worked on a lot of people, but communicating with your partner will always win the day. That’s the problem with getting into a rut, so to speak. Thinking you have a set of moves perfected, then performing them with every lover you have the pleasure of encountering isn’t how you go about making your partners feel amazing.
There are techniques, however, you can learn to add to your repertoire which may lead your partner to explosive orgasms. And the best way to get started, is by memorizing a map.
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Before you begin any project, you should always be sure you know what you’re working with. Every vulva is different, but the main parts are typically in the same place.
Contrary to popular belief, you’re not ‘eating vagina’, as the vagina is internal. That doesn’t mean you should ignore it, though, once things get going.
The key to exceptional oral sex is paying attention to all the parts that feel pleasure. Some people with vulvas love having their labia (minora and majora) stroked, licked, and maybe even squeezed a little. Others don’t care if you do anything other than hold them out of the way while you go to town on the clitoris.
Pro tip: Let’s do away with the trope that the clitoris is difficult to find. It’s not. Although they are all different shapes and sizes, they are all in the same place.
This is why communication is so important. Keep checking in with your partner while you’re going down on them in the beginning. Yes, sounds and movements help clue you in when you’re doing something right (or not), but asking, “Does that feel good?” goes a long way. Not everyone is comfortable making their pleasure known vocally with sounds. Let’s be better about talking through our pleasure (or displeasure).
One of the biggest mistakes people make when eating pussy is going straight for the clitoris. Sure, you want to give this amazing gland a lot of love, but make your way there slowly. And don’t start with the vulva area at all. Begin kissing your partner in all the other places before you make your way to the finish line.
With that said, the clitoris is a pretty amazing thing. What you see is only a small part of the organ itself. The clitoris extends into the body, with a shaft that’s nine to eleven centimeters long! It boasts more nerve endings than a penis, so it makes sense it’s the center of attention.
That also means it’s extra sensitive. Some partners will enjoy direct intense pressure, while others need you to go a little softer. But whatever way your partner enjoys it, do yourself and her a favor and don’t stop when she says, “Don’t stop!”
When your partner tells you not to stop, they’re saying exactly what you’re doing, right that moment, has them on the edge of orgasm. Changing the pressure, the shape of your tongue, or really anything at that moment is a sure fire way to cause them to lose the orgasm.
That’s never a good thing. Unless you’re into edge play, but be sure to discuss that ahead of time!
How to Get Started Giving Oral Sex
Start at the top- No, I don’t mean the top of their pussy. Place soft kisses on their neck, moving downward towards their breasts. Take your time here. There are so many erogenous zones on the breasts you can explore. Be sure to pay equal attention to both mounds!
Keep moving down- At this point, your partner is likely moaning and writhing, so be sure to continue giving pleasure. Teasing is a big part of any kind of foreplay, but you want to show your intentions to please as well. If they’re wearing undies, start kissing their vulva and even licking a bit through the material. It’s a great build up and will leave them wanting more.
The inner thighs are a hot zone for a lot of people, so don’t leave them out. However, if they are ticklish, this may be a no go area until they’re extra turned on. Personally, I’m no longer ticklish at all once I’m raring to go!
The best part- It’s time to remove any barriers and really get down to business (if your partner is okay with this, we’ll talk about this again later). If your partner enjoys sex toys, be sure to have one handy. But don’t try to use it right away, except for some vibration! Most people with vulvas don’t orgasm from penetration alone, but you can always turn it on and buzz your way over the labia and even the clit before giving it all a good tongue lashing.
Forget the alphabet- I see this advice so often and wonder who decided it was a good idea. Spelling the alphabet on your partner’s clit is probably not going to do much for them. It’s incredibly inconsistent. Consistency is important. As mentioned earlier, if they say don’t stop, then don’t stop!
Listening and learning
While you’re licking and sucking your partner’s clitoris, pay attention to how their body is reacting. If you’re not getting much in the way of signs, i.e. they’re not grasping the linens, moving their bottom, breathing faster, etc. then change up what you’re doing.
But most importantly, ask them what they need.
In an ideal world, you will be able to listen and observe your partner’s body as you try different techniques on them, allowing you to see what works and doesn’t.
Some people just won’t like what you’re doing, and that doesn’t mean anything is wrong with them. It just means you need to spend more time getting to know their specific preferences.
If they aren’t sure what they like, try a few different ways to give oral sex and get them to rate how it feels. Don’t take the ratings or directions personally. This is about what they enjoy and isn’t a statement against your sexual prowess.
Some people are quieter than others and may not react much, even when they orgasm. As a result, you may find it near impossible to tell if they are enjoying themselves or not. The only solution is getting some feedback from them. After you go down on them, try asking them about what they enjoyed, what they didn’t enjoy, and what they want you to do differently.
A note about using barriers while giving oral sex
Safer sex is never a bad thing. Folks don’t always consider using a barrier when performing oral sex, it’s not something we think about as often as we do using a condom for penetrative sex. But have you ever tried to use a dental dam? They’re awkward, the shift around, and let’s face it, they aren’t sexy. Let me tell you about Lorals, FDA cleared for STI protection, sexy undies for oral.
Available in black if you want to keep it mysterious and now, sheer if you’re ready to bare it all, Lorals provide a barrier between your body and your partner for any kind of oral sex you want to get into. They protect but they don’t keep you from experiencing the same pleasure you would without being in place. And, if oral while on your period has always been a no-no for you (we don’t judge either way!) Lorals provides a barrier to allow you to feel comfortable for that, too.
The Bottom Line
Orgasm doesn’t have to be the goal when giving oral sex. It’s wonderful if you get there, but unless this is the only sex act you’ll be doing for the night, it’s just a warm up for more. When you go into licking pussy with the idea you must get your partner off, it puts pressure on you both to perform.
Enjoy it for the appetizer it is and make your partner feel good. In the end, your attention and listening to their body and words will take you further than you’ve been before.
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Tomorrow is Valentine’s Day and if you’ve not already booked your dinner date at your favorite restaurant, or that’s just not your jam, don’t worry, I’ve got last minute date ideas for Valentine’s Day for you! Let’s face it, the world is a still a crazy place these days and going out on the busiest date night of the year may not be the sexiest idea ever. Honestly, I would much rather spend the evening at home with my partners than out in public fighting a crowd. So, what can you get into that will make this a night to remember?
5 Creative Date Ideas For Valentine’s Day
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Make it a tapas party! Choose your favorite restaurant to get appetizers from and grab a few of your favorites. Bonus if they also deliver alcohol (if that’s your thing). You can expand on this idea by letting one another choose a couple of things each, then trying something new your partner chose. Or, if you’re brave, you can each order from a different place and see what your lover would choose for you given the opportunity.
The point is to make it fun. Once your choices have arrived, get comfortable and put out your spread! For easier clean-up, make sure to ask for utensils from the restaurant so you don’t have dishes to wash later on and utilize the containers the food arrives in if possible.
You can put on a romantic movie, some sultry music, or just sit and talk. Maybe you want to tease one another about what you’d like to get into later? Now is the perfect time to talk about plans for ramping up the heat once the food has settled.
Plan a short trip away
If it’s in your budget, planning a weekend (or weekday if it’s possible) trip away when it’s not the holiday season is a lovely way to break up the monotony of this time of year. It’s not quite spring, but winter is falling away, and rates for traveling aren’t too steep right now. So, while you and your lover are enjoying a sexy night in, why not browse the travel sites and plan a couple of days away?
You may not be able to travel right away, but sometimes the planning is almost as fun as the trip itself, and planning ahead means you can lock in better rates. Bonus if you can travel on weekdays when others are working, and prices are even lower.
Couples Massage
When thinking of date ideas for Valentine’s Day, or any day honestly, a couples massage always sounds nice. And you don’t have to splurge for a professional. You can do it right at home and get the benefit of a relaxing time and potentially spice things up.
Start by indulging in a good massage medium, like Wicked Sensual Care’s new Massage Cream. It’s available in Sage and Sea Salt, Unscented, and Patchouli and Orange Blossom–and it feels fantastic on your skin. You don’t need a massage table, use what you have. The bed is a great place to give a massage, especially if you’re planning to get naughty and provide a happy ending.
Light some candles, put on some mood music if you’d like, and get started. You don’t need a lot of the oil or cream, just enough to ensure your hands don’t drag across the skin. The point is to smoothly glide. I’ve written a great massage guide here if you’d like more details on how to give an erotic massage.
Have a deep conversation
Life, love, past experiences, they can all be deep topics and maybe not something that sounds sexy but let’s be honest, there’s nothing sexier than being open, honest, and even vulnerable. Whether you’ve been together forever or are just getting started on your journey together, sitting down and having a deep conversation with your lover can bring you closer and be one of the most intimate things you ever do.
Take it outside
If your date is during the day, why not plan a picnic outdoors? Bring a breath of fresh air into your relationship, literally, and enjoy some time outside with your lover. Bonus if you can find some place private to provide some cover–there’s nothing wrong with getting your naughty time started a little early and indulging in a little make-out session while you nibble on more than lunch.
Coming up with date ideas for Valentine’s Day doesn’t have to be difficult and it doesn’t have to be the same old dinner and drinks at your go-to restaurant. With a little forethought and planning, you can turn this evening into something to remember for you and your lover. Something I always remind my clients of is, don’t wait for this heart-filled holiday to show your lover just how much they mean to you. We shouldn’t need a special holiday to remind our partner how much we care. It’s the little things that matter, and we can do that any day of the year.
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There are a ton of brands of lube on the market today, so it can be difficult to know exactly what type you should be using for your adult fun. First, let’s get the shame out of the way, shall we? There shouldn’t be any. I remember the first time I brought up using lube in the bedroom. I hadn’t been married to my first husband for very long and I was pretty young, not quite 21 years old. Back then, I couldn’t express why I was having issues with self lubrication, but now I can tell you it probably had a lot to do with stress. Regardless of why, adding a little wetness from a bottle should never have been an issue, but apparently, according to him, it was.
He made me feel like I shouldn’t need it and even asking about it was a personal affront to him. Guys, don’t do this, ever. If your partner says they want to use lube or even if they don’t, and they break out the bottle during sexy time, go with it. Lube, just like sex toys, is a bonus feature in the bedroom, not something to be shamed about. It enhances things, it doesn’t take away from a damn thing.
It’s 2023 and I really feel like I shouldn’t have to make this statement but using lube is absolutely necessary when doing anything anal, just in case you weren’t aware. The anus is not self lubricating. Just putting that out there.
What types of lube are there?
Water based lube
When you think of using lube, water based lube is what probably comes to mind first. It’s the most basic lube available and literally goes with everything. You can use it with all of your sex toys, it’s compatible with latex condoms, and it’s typically available at your local drugstore. But be aware, not all water based lubes are created equal and there are some ingredients you’re going to want to avoid.
Remember: Your skin is an organ! Any product you use on your body gets absorbed into your body.
Ingredients to Avoid: Parabens (synthetic preservative that mimics estrogen), Glycerin (can cause yeast infections and UTIs if you are prone to them, if not, then this is fine. It is widely used in lubricants so it’s difficult to avoid), benzocaine (a numbing agent, we’ll talk more about this later), Propylene glycol (this is an ingredient in antifreeze!), Nonoxynol-9 (this is a spermicide that can lead to BV in some women, as it kills the good bacteria in your vagina).
My favorite water based lubricants also have ingredients that moisturize and don’t leave a sticky residue. Since they are water based, they don’t always have a ton of staying power, but the good news is, adding just a few drops of water reactivates the lube and you’re good to go!
Demeter’s Water Based Lube Recommendations
Gleam by Velvet Co–Formulated using purely sea-kelp-based glycerin, this top-selling lubricant is designed to provide a silky smooth, and comforting glide with no sticky or tacky residue. Sea kelp based glycerol is excellent for skin that is prone to dry irritating conditions. The sea kelp provides Omega 3 which soothes and softens, reducing sensitivity.
Sliquid Naturals Satin–Moisturizes with aloe, carageenan, and vitamin E, it doubles as a long-lasting lube. You can use it daily for relief from vaginal dryness. Cruelty free and vegan.
Sliquid Naturals Sassy–Formulated for anal play, but definitely can be used for any type of play, this extra cushiony water based lube is never tested on animals and vegan. No scent, no taste, glycerin-free and paraben-free.
Pros of Water Based Lube:
It doesn’t stain your sheets
Washes off easily in water
Compatible with sex toys/condoms
Cons of Water Based Lube:
May not be thick enough/long-lasting enough for anal/long sex sessions.
Some people find it to be too sticky.
Silicone based lube
If you have sensitive skin or you really enjoy having sex in the shower, silicone lube is a great option for you. One of the pros of water based lube is that it washes away easily with water, but that’s a con if you’re having a good time in the bath or shower–but with silicone lube, that’s not a problem. It stays put and has the added bonus of leaving your skin feeling pretty amazing. It’s also compatible with latex condoms. It is not, however, compatible with your silicone sex toys, as it can erode them and cause damage, leaving them susceptible to bacteria, which is never a good thing.
Silicone lube is also fantastic for anal play, but remember, if you’re going to be incorporating a toy, be sure it’s not a silicone one (or cover it with a condom just to be on the safe side).
Demeter’s Silicone Lube Recommendations
Wicked Sensual Care Ultra–Sensuous and long lasting, it feels silky smooth on your skin. Paraben free. Never sticky. No aftertaste. Vegan no animal by products or testing, Made in the USA, glycerin free, Propylene glycol free. Use code DEMI to get 10 percent off when shopping at Betty’s.
JO Premium Original–Their original silicone lubricant, paraben and glycerin free, buttery smooth with a soft finish, won’t wash away easily in water, and compatible with most toys. This lube is condom friendly (not with polyurethane) and is FDA licensed. Use code DEMI10 to receive 10 percent off anything you purchase from the JO store when you shop.
Pros of Silicone Lube:
Good for sensitive skin
Long lasting
Made with high quality ingredients
Safe to use with most condoms
Cons of silicone lube:
Not safe to use with most silicone sex toys
Hybrid Lubes
So is there an in-between? Of course there is. If you really like the pros of water based lubes but also want some staying power of silicone lubes–but you want to be able to use it with your silicone toys, then hybrid lube is going to be your new best friend. It’s really the best of both worlds. You can use it with toys, condoms, in the shower, the tub, for anal, not have to worry about re-applying very often, and for the most part it doesn’t stain (though it can, so I would still recommend putting down something like The Layer or Liberator Throw just in case)
Demeter’s Hybrid Lube Recommendations
Wicked Sensual Care Hybrid–A water and silicone hybrid, unscented and flavor free, super silky water based lube that is easy to clean as well as toy and latex friendly, blended in harmony with a rich bodied silicone that lasts and lasts. This fusion hybrid lube is an excellent choice for all types of play. Use code DEMI to get 10 percent off when shopping at Betty’s.
Sliquid Silk–Sliquid is one of my favorite lubes, so it’s no wonder their hybrid makes the list. A water and silicone mix, glycerin free and paraben free, hypoallergenic and non-toxic. Uniquely blended to emulate your body’s own natural lubrication. Use code DEMI to get 10 percent off when shopping at Betty’s.
Pros of Hybrid Lube:
Best of both worlds (all the pros of water and silicone based lubes)
Safe for use with all your sex toys
Safe for use with latex condoms
Long lasting (washes off easier in water than regular silicone lube, but not as easy as regular water based lube)
Cons of Hybrid Lube:
Not quite as long lasting as straight silicone lube
Doesn’t wash off as easily as water based lube
Oil based lubes with and without CBD
I’ll admit, oil based lube wasn’t even on my radar until a couple of years ago, unless you counted baby oil. Let’s not talk about that (don’t use baby oil as lube). We live and learn, right?
Then I was introduced to Foria and I’ve never looked back. Their CBD infused oil based lubricant and arousal oils have been a game changer for me and I am happy to tell everyone I know about them. For those who would rather not have CBD in their oil, they have a line of botanical infused oils as well, CBD free. Today, they’ve announced the release of a study with astounding results surrounding their melts product, a fast acting CBD suppository, designed to help lubricate and ease tension.
95% of women found that Foria’s Intimacy Melts (fast-acting CBD suppositories designed to help lubricate and ease tension) increased internal glide during penetration
92% of participants experienced increased pleasure while using Intimacy Melts
The study also found a statistically significant improvement in participants’ ability to achieve relaxation during sex following the use of the Intimacy Melts
I can personally attest to these results. I’ve been using the melts for over a year now and can’t imagine not using them on a regular basis. One thing to note with any oil based lubricant is, they’re not compatible with latex condoms. In theory, lambskin should be okay with oil based lube, but always check the packaging of the condom to be sure.
Demeter’s Oil Based Lube Recommendations
Foria Sex Oil with CBD–With just two clean ingredients – 400mg broad-spectrum CBD and organic coconut oil – it’s designed to provide all-natural lubrication, ease discomfort, enhance arousal, and assist with penetration both vaginally and anally.
Coconu Oil Based Lube–Coconu is a natural, coconut oil-based lubricant that’s silky smooth, non-sticky and safe for toys. If you want natural ingredients, no parabens, petroleum or glycerin, then Coconu is the right choice for you.
Pros of Oil Based Lube:
Can also be used as massage oil
Long lasting
Can help ease tension (if it contains CBD)
Cons of Oil Based Lube:
Staining
Can’t be used with condoms
Flavored Lubes
When giving oral, flavored lubes can really up your game. They not only add lubrication but making your partner taste even more delicious can encourage you to go for broke. Companies like Wicked Sensual Care have so many varieties to choose from–don’t limit yourself to only using one, you can mix and match multiple flavors to create a combination that tickles your fancy. One of my favorites is combining brown sugar and peach–it tastes like peach cobbler!
Demeter’s Flavored Lube Recommendations
Wicked Sensual Care Mango–Any of the flavored lubes in Wicked Sensual Care’s line are great, but the Mango is probably my favorite overall. Use code DEMI to receive 10 percent off your order.
JO Sweet and Bubbly–This set features Champagne and Chocolate Covered Strawberry, which you can combine for a real treat. Use code DEMI10 to receive 10 percent off your order.
JO Champagne and Red Velvet Cake–Featuring a Champagne and Red Velvet Cake, can be used separately or together for a different take on sweet and bubbly. Part of their 20 year anniversary collection. Use code DEMI10 to receive 10 percent off your order.
Bonus Lube Recommendation
Pulse is a lube warming system I just adore. When you purchase your warmer, you can choose water based, oil based, and/or massage oil. How cool is that? As much as I love my bottles of different lubes for various purposes, one of the best things I ever did for myself was invest in this system. When using lube, it can be a shock to your body when it’s cold–almost as much as rolling over into the wet spot! I don’t use it all the time, but when I want to treat myself, especially during self-care sessions, I definitely reach for the lube from Pulse.
When should you be using lube?
Whenever the hell you want to.
Beyond that, using lube every time you have sex can make things slicker, more fun, and just plain sexier. Something I learned only a few years ago when I got into sex education was using lube more frequently while giving oral (and receiving!) can be so fun and make things go down a lot easier. Pun fully intended.
Using lube when you’re masturbating is also fantastic, whether you’re incorporating toys into your play or not. Wetter is always better and when you’re engaging in solo play, why not romance yourself? The stress of the day can cause vaginal dryness, but that doesn’t mean you’re not turned on, so adding lubricant can aid in bringing you pleasure instead of focusing on anxiety about whether you’re really in the mood or not.
There are many reasons why our bodies may not produce enough natural lubrication. Let’s do away with the idea that just because we aren’t wet doesn’t mean we aren’t sexually excited, because that simply may not be the case. Certain medications, stress, and illness can all lead to lack of lubrication–all things that using lube can easily correct.
We need to change the narrative around using lube. There’s no reason to be ashamed about it, using lube is normal and does nothing but add to the fun.
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Butts are great. We all have them and if you do things right when it comes to preparation, booty play can be truly orgasmic. Time, lube, and patience are your three amigos. Personally, I like to add toys to the mix any time the opportunity arises. When it comes to anal play, butt plugs are one of my favorite ways to do this. Butt plugs don’t have to be gendered by any means, but let’s face it, there are a lot of male centered versions on the market that target the p-spot. While that’s awesome, where are plugs for vulva owners? Don’t worry, Fun Factory has entered the chat with the Bootie Fem.
What is the Fun Factory Bootie Fem?
Bootie Fem is a specially designed butt plug, just for vulva owners. The tulip design is not only pretty, it’s practical–providing a lube channel for easier insertion. It’s perfect for beginners to anal play with its slim design, measuring just 1.14 inches at its widest point, and has an asymmetrical base making it comfortable to wear during vaginal penetration.
Specs of the Bootie Fem/What’s in the Box
The Bootie Fem is a discreet, medical grade silicone butt plug by Fun Factory. It’s available in two colors, rose and dark taupe (which I would call purple) and one size only. It’s non-porous, hypoallergenic, and easy to clean. You can boil it if you’d like and dry, or just wash with soap and water. It comes in a recyclable box, with the toy, instructions for use, and some fun suggestions/games for you and your partner if you’d like to try.
This is considered a beginner butt plug as it’s on the small side, 3.34 inches in length and only 1.14 inches at its widest point. But don’t let that stop you from grabbing one if you’re a more advanced anal enthusiast. The shape of this plug does something intriguing for PiV (penis in vagina) play (or any type of insertion in vagina) because of its design.
What it’s Like Using the Fun Factory Bootie Fem
Let’s get to why you’re really here. How is using this pretty butt plug any different than a traditional plug? That’s exactly what I wanted to know when I was first approached. I’ll admit, I’m a sucker for a gimmick, but only if it actually does what it says it will. So, does the Bootie Fem really temporarily change the shape of the vaginal canal for PiV sex? Can it guide your partner’s penis or a dildo to your g-spot?
Yes, yes it can.
Not everyone enjoys g-spot stimulation, but thankfully I am one of those people who absolutely does. It’s one of the surest ways to make me squirt, which is something else I’m a huge fan of. Using this adorable little butt plug was a no brainer for me if that was on the table, so of course I said yes to receiving one in exchange for an honest review.
I don’t currently have a local partner but that doesn’t mean I can’t enjoy using a butt plug during masturbation and also incorporate a dildo for some PiV fun, so that’s exactly what I did. Thanks to Betty’s Toy Box, I have a lovely sex stool that makes it much easier to accomplish this feat.
Using lube is 100 percent required when engaging in anal play. Since the Bootie Fem is a silicone toy, you’ll want to use a water based or hybrid lube–I like Sliquid Sassy because it’s thick and water based, but their Silk (hybrid) is great too and safe to use with all Fun Factory toys.
The lube channels in the top of the tulip design of the Bootie Fem are great, they capture the lube and make it easier for you to slide the plug into place. If you’re new to butt play especially, take some time to relax first. Romance yourself. And hey, having an orgasm (or three) beforehand never hurt anyone.
I decided to go all in for my first play session with this toy and incorporate a dildo (I used the Limba Flex in medium), my magic wand mini, and the plug. Go big or go home, right? After inserting the Bootie Fem, I was ready to ride the Limba which I’d already attached to my sex stool ahead of time. I love that the base of the plug is asymmetrical, that’s definitely been an issue in the past with other butt plugs and vaginal penetration. It doesn’t stop it from happening, it just makes it a little more of a pain in the ass–pun intended.
Slowly sliding onto the dildo, I could tell a little difference in how it felt entering my body once compared to normal. I wouldn’t say it was a huge change, but it was enough to notice. I chose the Limba Flex because it’s guaranteed to hit my g-spot when I thrust in and out during masturbation, so I knew it would be a great dildo to use for this experiment. It was definitely a great choice, thanks to the plug pressing against my canal and guiding the dildo towards my g-spot even more, and being hands-free, I was able to use the wand to stimulate my clit and get the full range of pleasure I was hoping for.
I won’t lie. I had my first orgasm pretty damn quickly with all the stimulation I had going on but I wasn’t anywhere near ready to stop. Having the ability to ride the dildo as hard and fast as I wanted to allowed me to not only control the depth and pressure at which I was being pounded, it also let me edge myself with the wand. And, I could even hold it on my clit and make an orgasm go on and on long after it could have been over. When I have a feeling of fullness and I’m being made to squirt, adding a clitoral orgasm to the mix just puts me over the top, so this play session was really just beyond and I can’t find anything to complain about.
Pros and Cons of the Bootie Fem
You’ve read all the pros of this cute little butt plug and to be fair the only con I can come up with is personal–I would love for Fun Factory to offer it in a larger size at some point. I love that it’s for beginners and am glad they’re offering this discreet size at launch, but I think there are others out there, like me, who love anal play and would really enjoy the option to have a larger size available. It would also be nice to have less feminine color options available as well. Just because someone has a vulva doesn’t mean they identify as female and these colors are pretty feminine. Otherwise, this toy is pretty damn perfect.
If you’re ready to get your Bootie Fem, head on over to Fun Factory and grab yours today. Right now, they’re 20 percent off, along with a ton of other items during their Valentine’s Day Sale, going on now through February 14th. Links in this post are affiliate links, so if you treat yourself to anything while you shop, I may earn a small commission at no additional cost to you.
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When we think of pleasure, often the Playboy name comes to mind. It’s always surprised me that they’ve never dived into the sex toy side of the industry. In November, one of my favorite PR firms asked if I would be interested in receiving a box of goodies from the launch of of a brand new line of pleasure products ahead of this announcement. Let me tell you, it’s been hard keeping it a secret!
As of today, I no longer have to keep it hush-hush!
Lovers announces sex toy line collaboration with Playboy
Playboy, the iconic lifestyle brand synonymous with bold desire and freedom of expression, officially launches Playboy Pleasure, its highly anticipated, first foray into the Sex Toy space, available exclusively at Lovers and LoversStores.com.
Lovers is a female-founded, PLBY Group-owned Sexual Wellness brand and retailer helping people reach their greatest pleasure potential. Playboy Pleasure’s inclusive, ‘for everyone’ line of 34 high-end Sex Toys and Sexual Wellness products includes Thrusters, G-Spot & Rabbit Vibrators, Wands, Kegel Balls, Cock Rings, Strokers, Anal Toys, Prostate Massagers, Lubricants, and Sex Toy Cleaner with on-trend jewel tones and pastel colors, along with shimmering, pearlescent colors & packaging.
Playboy Pleasure Sex Toys, each discreetly adorned with the iconic Rabbit Head Design, evoke the freedom to play, and boast a variety of innovative, avant-garde features. The collection includes Vibrators with heating, tapping and thrusting functions, along with massaging rings, a spinning Anal Plug, multi-motor Cock Rings, toys with flickering tongues & a first-of-its-kind flapper shaft for the G-Spot, ergonomic features, and more!
The collection ranges in price from $26-$200.
Photo by author, created in Canva
I was lucky to receive a plethora of these new products in a gift box from Lovers ahead of today’s announcement, and though I won’t use today’s announcement to review them individually, I will give you some highlights.
Photo by Playboy, used with permission
The Palm is made of velvet-smooth silicone and offers two ways to play in one innovative toy. Shaped to fit comfortably in your hand and against your body, the wider end delivers a focused tapping sensation, while the tapered end provides powerful vibrations. Designed for a variety of positions, you can hold Palm against you, or place it beneath you and grind. Two independent motors deliver 10 speeds and rhythms for a combination of pleasure.
Photo by Playboy used with permission
Rapid Rabbit is one of the most unique looking toys I’ve seen in awhile — and that’s saying something. At first glance, it looks like a traditional rabbit vibrator, then you notice it has an extra bit, plus the shaft is a lot longer than most. The elongated shaft is for deeper penetration and A-spot stimulation, while the extra bit, their unique flapper shaft, can be used internally for g-spot stimulation, or externally.
Add focus to your g-spot with the 10 flapping speeds and rhythms. Complete the triad of pleasure with the 7 powerful clitoral sensations in the external stimulator. Made of velvet-smooth silicone, discover new pleasures with this unique Rabbit Vibrator.
Don’t worry, if this all seems too much, don’t worry, the next toy in this new line is a little more ‘traditional rabbit’ and may be more up your alley.
Photo by Playboy used with permission
Thumper, such a perfect name for a rabbit vibrator! Especially when you learn it does just that — once you insert this vibe and press it against your g-spot, even firmly, it thumps away for targeted stimulation. Easy-to-use controls allow you to explore the features independently — just vibration or just tapping — or experience the best of both worlds when you use them together. The external bunny arm stimulates the clitoris with 10 powerful vibration speeds and rhythms.
Photo by Playboy used with permission
Petal is not only beautiful, but I love that it can be used anywhere you’d like oral-like pleasure. It’s a unique vibrator made of velvet-smooth silicone that delivers the ultimate combination of intense vibrations and precise stimulation from its flicking tongue. Ideal for clitoral, vaginal, and anal play, place the rose head where you want to feel it most and explore its 9 speeds and patterns, or try the stem!
Photo by Playboy used with permission
The Spinning Tail Teaser(far right in green) is a vibrating butt plug with a textured, twirling design. Not only is it aesthetically pleasing, but it also rotates in a circular motion, for added fullness and stimulation — its weight and shape add to this feeling as well. Explore 7 vibrating speeds and rhythms hands-free thanks to a simple remote control.
As of today’s launch, there are 34 products in the initial collection and they can all be found exclusively in Lovers Stores online and in person. Beginning January 19–22, shoppers can enjoy 20 percent off sitewide* with code ALL20, which includes this Playboy Pleasure collection. All of the toys in the Playboy Pleasure line boast a 5 year warranty. *Standard exclusions apply.
If you’re as excited as I am about this launch and decide to order something from this exceptional line of products, feel free to check them out using my links beginning on the 19th so you can save 20 percent off! I know it’s hard to wait, but it’s so worth it. Just bookmark the links and set a reminder.
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Shopping for a sex toy can be fun and exciting, but it can also be overwhelming. There are so many options on the market today, it can be difficult to decide just which one to choose. Thinking back, a vibrator was the first sex toy I was ever gifted, so a beginners guide to vibrators seemed like the perfect choice to break down.
The Classic Vibrator
The first vibrator I owned was a classic vibrator. My girlfriend at the time sold sex toys and gifted it to me. Back then, there weren’t a lot of options, especially compared to today. It was leopard print and took D batteries! It was hefty, unwieldy, and bulky.
These vibrators are long, perfectly straight, and typically comprised of a hard ABS plastic exterior. Kind of ouchy if you’re not careful. But, being so simple and cheap relative to other vibrators, it is a perfect starting point for those just starting to explore vibrator play. A classic vibrator like this is sold in novelty stores more often than not, but it’s still a valid choice and if you want penetration, it works.
For those who are new to vibrators in general, here are a few tips to get you started:
Use your other hand to stimulate other parts of your body to complement the vibrator.
Change vibrator intensities and angles periodically.
Take your time and don’t use high-intensities just to orgasm quickly.
Once comfortable with the classic vibrator, you can move on to the more sophisticated vibrator types.
The Rabbit Vibrator
Most experts agree that the rabbit vibrator is the best vibrator for women, hands down. But just why is that the case? Although I can orgasm from penetration alone, most women can not and need clitoral stimulation. A rabbit vibrator provides the ability for users to get dual stimulation which can potentially give you a blended orgasm. What’s not to love about that?
For most women, getting off effectively is a matter of stimulating multiple regions at once. Most commonly, this means vaginal stimulation and clitoral stimulation. The original rabbit vibrator made that possible by adding a set of “rabbit ears” towards the base end of a vibrator.
These rabbit ears were designed to stimulate the clitoris while the bulk of the vibrator is inserted vaginally. Today, vibrator designs have evolved to the point where many rabbit vibrators don’t have rabbit ears anymore. As long as a vibrator has these 3 defining characteristics, consumers consider it a rabbit:
A longer end to be inserted vaginally for internal stimulation.
A shorter end to stimulate the clitoris externally.
The ability for both ends to be used simultaneously.
A rabbit vibrator frees up your second hand to use elsewhere such as your nipples or breasts, or even your anus. In this case, a rabbit vibrator allows you to take your pleasure up one more notch!
No beginners guide to vibrators would be complete without a discussion about bullet vibrators. It’s a very common vibrator used by many, called a bullet due to their shape. Not all mini vibrators are bullets but most bullets are mini. What makes this category of vibrators so great comes down to 3 key reasons:
1. Portable and discrete enough to take anywhere– Mini vibrators are called such for an obvious reason–they are small. While other vibrators are typically 6 inches long, mini vibrators are always smaller, ranging anywhere from 3 to 5 inches. Mini vibrators are the perfect vibrators to take on the go. It will fit nicely in any purse, or even right in your pocket if necessary. Not only that, but the look of a mini vibrator is a lot subtler than a regular vibrator, allowing it to blend in with the rest of your belongings. Some companies even design them to look like a tube of lipstick!
2. Quiet enough to avoid detection– A big problem with using a vibrator outside your home isn’t just taking it to places other than your bedroom, but also avoiding detection from those around you while using it. Luckily, the mini vibrator is perfectly equipped for that. Most mini vibrators only make as much sound as a soft whisper.
3. Simple and intuitive to use– It gives you all the benefits of a classic vibrator in a much smaller variety– and typically just one button to cycle through various vibration speeds. With no protruding elements, you don’t have to worry about getting the right angle or orientation for proper usage.
Even though you may know exactly where your g-spot is, unfortunately this doesn’t guarantee you can effectively stimulate it manually. It isn’t the easiest spot to reach but no worries, a great g-spot vibrator can help you get there.
Everyone’s body is different, so if your g-spot is located farther up along the anterior vaginal wall, and/or your fingers are simply short, then it may not be physically possible to reach your g-spot on your own. Also, you may not have the strength to apply ample pressure to your g-spot from such an awkward angle. For me, pressure is key so using a toy or having a partner stimulate my g-spot is the only thing that works for me.
Although the g-spot is a highly sensitive region just like the clitoris is, you do have to apply slightly more pressure to truly stimulate it. Unlike your clitoris, where someone could literally blow on it and you will feel a faint pleasing sensation, you must press down on your g-spot very well to activate the pleasure sensations in that region. So why include g-spot stimulators in a beginners guide to vibrators? Even though stimulating this area might be considered a more advanced technique than manual masturbation, the benefits are well worth the effort and made much easier with the use of a vibrator.
From a purely physical standpoint, using a g-spot vibrator gives you much more leverage to not just hit your g-spot, but to hit it effectively. The curved or emphasized vibrator head, which is the defining feature of the g-spot vibrator, plays a very important role. This unique shape targets your g-spot–some models even incorporate a thumping motion within the head that taps your g-spot, making it even more effective. Others are self-propelled or thrusters that do all the work for you.
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Nanci Prime Thruster (pre-configured model only comes with thruster)
Most people think of an egg vibrator as something just a few inches in length and shaped like, you guessed it, an egg. The cool thing about egg vibrators is, not only can you take it wherever you go, you can use it just about anywhere as well. They’re typically even smaller than a bullet or mini vibrator. Even cooler, and the biggest reason I had to include it in a beginners guide to vibrators is, most of these on the market today are controllable by a mobile app! You can hand over control to your partner in a public or private setting which can lead to some spicy fun.
The rounded (or oval) egg shape means you can fully insert the vibrator into your vagina without it slipping out. Or if the egg vibrator is designed to be placed against your vulva inside your underwear, the non-phallic shape allows for a more comfortable and less noticeable fit. Once your egg vibrator is firmly in place, you can handle the rest through a separate remote control. This adds to the discrete nature of the device as well, as using a remote-control is infinitely subtler than having to reach under your clothing to change vibrator frequencies or intensities.
Everyone that owns sex toys should own a good wand so there’s no way I was going to leave them out of a beginners guide to vibrators. In fact, I would go so far as to say no sex toy collection is complete without one, regardless of your level of experience. Wands look almost identical to a typical personal massage device that is used for back pain and other ailments–in fact, the most famous of these vibrators started out its life for that exact purpose.
Wands consist of a uniform rod with a large soft, semi-flexible head at the end. This obviously means it is fairly useless when it comes to vaginal penetration, but that’s not what they’re designed to do. But hey, there are attachments you can purchase from many manufacturers to add to the head that will allow for penetration.
Magic Wand Rechargeable Photo courtesy of LovehoneyMagic Wand Mini Photo courtesy of Lovehoney
Unlike most vibrators, a clitoral vibrator’s main attachment is an open-ended tip at the end of the shaft of the device. This open end is maybe only an inch or so in diameter, perfect for using on your small, but highly sensitive clitoris. Instead of focusing on vibrations in general, this vibrator literally aims to suck or pulsate on your clitoris. Just like how (most) people give oral sex!
The different levels of pleasure are directly related to the intensity level you are using. At lower intensities, it will feel more like playful foreplay–as if someone were trying to take as long as possible to get you to orgasm. However, at higher intensities, you can orgasm right away, just like with using a wand vibrator at the highest setting. The best way to use your clitoral vibrator though, is to find a setting somewhere in the middle.
Pro Tip — make sure your vibrator is sealed tight! Using a drop of lube on your clitoris helps maintain your seal.
This is very important to ensure that you are stimulated the way the device was intended. Without the vibrator tip being completely sealed off, the suction won’t have as much effect, if any at all. To make sure you are using your clitoral vibrator properly, you may need to practice a few times at first. I found, using a mirror can be useful to get things lined up just right, especially if your anatomy is shaped like mine. I have meatier bits so at times, moving my outer lips out of the way and getting to my clit can be difficult.
Womanizer Premium 2 at LovehoneyWomanizer Pro40 at Lovehoney
While most people knowingly associate the vibrator with amazing sexual pleasure, different vibrators can provide vastly different sensations. Each of these highlighted seven vibrator types have their own unique attributes that make them a staple of anyone’s sex toy collection. Even if you have a personal preference as to your favorite vibrator type (I’ll never not own a wand), don’t limit yourself to just that vibrator. Your body can become used to the same vibrations and movements and potentially cause issues achieving orgasm during sex–and during solo play. Try a few different vibrators and mix it up. You’ll experience pleasure in no time.
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Sex can get messy, especially when one partner is a squirter and a sex blanket can fix that with ease. I can’t tell you how many sets of sheets, mattress covers, and mattresses, among other things, I ruined before I finally found ways to protect the surfaces I have sex on. One of the first items I was introduced to was a simple medical item, a washable chux pad. They were placed on the bed when I had my children, but I never considered using them during sex. Fairly inexpensive and washable, but they’re not exactly pretty. If you’re using them with your regular partner, you may care more about function than fashion, but if you want something that’s a little prettier and more discreet, I’ve found something that works just as well to fit the bill.
So, What to Do? Get a Sex Blanket!
Recently, the makers of The Layer reached out and asked if I would be interested in trying their product. The Layer is a woman owned and operated company, and their product is made in the USA. Just like a chux pad, The Layer lays on top of your sheets and under you when you’re ready to have some adult fun, and nothing gets through! It’s also the perfect size and shape to put on the couch, or anywhere you’re having fun. It’s round, so no worries about which way you place it! It’s always the right way. One side is luxurious soft, organic cotton fleece, the other is waterproof magic. It’s not noisy, we’ll leave the sounds up to you. It absorbs all sexy-time messes, even menstrual blood. Because it’s not white, like chux pads, there’s no worry of stains showing. It’s a sex blanket but it’s functional for all sorts of things not related to sex as well and I always love a multi-use product.
The Layer is super thin and 40 inches in diameter, so it fits easily in a night table, an overnight bag, or even in your glove compartment. They also sell an attractive clutch for discretion and cleanliness, perfect for that hot date. It’s been tested to withstand over 300 washings and is 100 percent eco-friendly. You can machine or hand wash in warm water, no bleach, no fabric softener, and medium tumble dry.
Real World Experience With This Awesome Sex Blanket
It’s all well and good for a company to tell you how well this sex blanket works, but using it in the real world is what we really want. I’m a prolific squirter and I love using lube. My husband also thinks it’s great to make me squirt as much as humanly possible. In fact, I believe he’s made it his life’s goal to dehydrate me every single time we have sex. As I’m sure you’ve heard, no one wants to sleep in the wet spot. It’s cold, it’s uncomfortable, and it sucks.
The day we received The Layer in the mail, we knew we’d be trying it out that night. I couldn’t believe how thin it was and honestly, wasn’t sure how much liquid it would hold. I’ve soaked through chux pads before, so I was a bit leery this thin sex blanket would handle what I could dish out. But I was definitely willing to try. I told the hubby ahead of time he was free to attempt to make as much of a mess as he wanted. Because we’ve definitely had to have conversations before about holding back to keep the mess down, which sucks! But in our current living situation, only being able to do laundry on a limited basis and owning two sets of sheets, we’ve got to be careful.
Getting Down to Business
So we broke out the lube and some toys and got busy. Really busy. I was concerned The Layer may not be wide enough to accommodate everything we got into. We were all over the place! But we managed to stay on the blanket for the most part, and when we didn’t, we weren’t making too much of a mess. We used our current favorite sex oil, Foria’s Intimacy Sex Oil with CBD, which typically doesn’t stain anyway and definitely didn’t show on The Layer. After a couple of hours of intense, super wet play, it was time to see if this sex blanket lived up to its promises.
I slowly pulled it down to the end of the bed, almost expecting to see at least a tiny bit of moisture underneath. Much to my delight and surprise, the sheets were bone dry! The Layer totally lived up to the hype and kept every bit of liquid ensconced in it’s comfy fibers where it belongs. No one slept in the wet spot that night, and they’ll never have to again.
Final Thoughts
We love The Layer and know you will too. If you go to their website, and sign up for their newsletter, you’ll get a code for 10 percent off your order immediately. This isn’t an affiliate link, but I was given my Layer in exchange for my honest review. I recommend it to anyone who wants to keep the surfaces where they have sex clean and dry.
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