Goal, Goal! Erika Lust Offers Free Porn to USA Women’s World Cup Team

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The World Cup is the biggest thing in Women’s soccer, and the dominant US team is currently 10,000 miles away from the States, in the Land Down Under. To show its support not just for the American team, but for women’s sport in general, ERIKALUST, a sex-positive porn brand, is offering free porn subscriptions and a selected range of 90-minute films. 

Women’s soccer is big business in the US, with a UEFA report estimating it at close to $700 million in annual commercial value. That’s a testament to the growing support for women’s sport. But for the players, so far from the States, the tournament can be an exhausting and lonely time.

As is standard practice during major international sporting tournaments, players are often told to cut out personal distractions to focus solely on their sporting performance, limiting time with their partners – a move which leaves many players full of pent-up sexual frustration.

To help relieve tension, and keep the USA team focused, ERIKALUST is offering to provide free porn subscriptions for the USA, the current World champions.

The unofficial partnership approach was made by founder and new porn pioneer, Erika Lust, who has directed and produced over 300 adult entertainment films, with a focus on the female gaze and using female directors. Erika will personally select 90-minute films for the squad to enjoy, and has personally written to the football associations in an open letter.

Should the offer be accepted, athletes will gain access to a number of ERIKALUST platforms, including Lust CinemaXConfessions and ElseCinema, where they’ll be able to view a number of award-winning erotic films to enjoy during their downtime. 

The films available from Erika’s award winning site are phenomenal feminist porn that I highly recommend, personally. Not just for internationally acclaimed athletes, but for anyone who enjoys porn, and especially, for people who think they don’t enjoy porn. If you’d like a few personal recommendations, I discussed some Barbie inspired films here.

Speaking about the sponsorship offer, Erika Lust said:

“The tournament’s official partners include gambling, fast food, soft drinks, logistics and IT software businesses. Those aren’t particularly relevant or much use to players who are restricted to how much intimacy they can enjoy due to being away from partners or in desperate need of some self-love. As an adult entertainment brand that makes porn that puts female pleasure at the forefront, it makes perfect sense to offer a helping hand to players during the tournament.

“Porn and masturbation are well known for being a great way to release physical and emotional stress. With the weight of expectation placed on these teams, we want to show them our support by becoming the first unofficial porn sponsor. We hope that the respective football associations see the physical and psychological benefits that masturbation and porn can have on the players’ performance.” 

About Erika Lust

Erika Lust is an award-winning indie adult filmmaker who creates sex-positive adult cinema by portraying relatable characters, realistic hot sex and offering a more inclusive and cinematic alternative to the mass produced mainstream porn.

Erika defends the importance of having women, BIPOC, and LGBTQ+ people behind the camera in all key positions and supports burgeoning talent across the globe by producing and financing female and queer guest directors. In addition to this, Erika has built a diverse (online & offline) community of sex-positive creators and artists.

Over the past 20 years, the Erika Lust brand has gone from strength to strength. Erika has directed many adult feature films and series, over 130 short films, and produced around 150 more.

In 2015, Erika gave her essential TEDx talk ‘It’s Time for Porn to Change‘. Her story was featured in the Netflix documentary series ‘Hot Girls Wanted: Turned On (“Women on Top”)‘, directed by Rashida Jones, and ‘Principles of Pleasure‘, directed by Niharika Desai. In 2019, Erika was named one of the BBC 100 Women’s most influential women of the year, and in 2022, her alternative vision of porn was featured in The New York Times and in the BBC Three & HULU series ‘Planet Sex with Cara Delevingne‘.

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Top Ethical Porn Sites For Women to Explore Their Sexuality

Else Cinema by Erika Lust

It’s easy to go online and find porn. What’s not easy, is finding ethical porn, created and produced by women, for women, in what feels like a safe space to consume it. What does that even look or feel like? It can mean something different to everyone but for me, it means not being bombarded with ads, choices that feel more in tune with my desires, consent based films, and the knowledge that performers are paid a living wage.

“Big Porn” just doesn’t offer these things. Let’s be honest, most of us who consume porn have probably done so at least a few times on a free, tube site. I get it, I’ve done it myself in the past, even being part of the industry. Before I knew exactly how those sites worked, I thought somehow, the performers got a share of the ad revenue or were somehow being paid, even though I didn’t personally spend any money on the platform. It’s easy to convince ourselves we aren’t doing something wrong, especially when we’re broke and want a quick fix.

But using these tube sites isn’t ethical and more often than not, the performers whose videos and clips are featured on these sites never see a dime of the money made from them.

Research about these sites has taught me a number of things, one being, most of the videos uploaded to these tube sites aren’t even done with the performer’s permission. They’re taken from cam sites, ripped from DVDs, or screen grabbed from fan sites. Some may even be what’s known as revenge porn, videos and photos sent to a significant other at some point, then distributed after a breakup. The bottom line is, they’re not being distributed with consent. Clearly, not ethical porn.

Paying for your porn helps ensure performers are earning a living wage. Moreover, it changes the conversation about porn. How? When you pay for the porn you consume, you have a hand in sponsoring the kind of content you want to see–you’re supporting studios that do the right thing by providing safe spaces for their performers, who understand testing is important, who know conversations about consent mean a more comfortable environment for all, and the continuation of a product you enjoy.

Top Ethical Porn Sites For Women to Explore Their Sexuality

Erika Lust’s Feminist Collection of Ethical Porn Sites

Erika Lust is a pioneer in the porn industry for a reason and she’s created a number of sites to showcase her groundbreaking work. There’s site for just about anyone, from softcore porn to her exemplary XConfessions–where users can write in and disclose their own fantasies and potentially have it made into a film!

Else Cinema–When you’re looking for something else, Else Cinema, also known as The Erika Lust Soft Edition, then look no further. This is the first cinema of erotic movies that offers viewers a sensual experience. More romantic storylines and passionate affairs than your typical porn experience.

Lust Cinema–If you’re looking for porn that is feature-length or in a binge-worthy series with all-star adult performers, Lust Cinema is your answer. This is the adult studio for lovers of cinema and sex, with relatable storylines and realistic sex that’s part of a wider narrative. On Lust Cinema you will also find an extensive catalogue of porn films made by some of the top adult studios in the USA. Whether you’re craving lesbian porn or BDSM sex, expect to find it here starring some of your favorite porn performers.

XConfessions–Completely crowd-sourced erotic cinema: the public’s secret desires are turned into screenplays for Erika Lust and guest directors from around the world. If you’re ready to confess, your secret fantasy might just be their next short film!

The award-winning XConfessions was born in 2013 as the first step of Erika Lust’s mission to create a new wave of adult cinema. XConfessions is now home to a community of filmmakers, artists, performers, and viewers who love sex and film and are looking for a new kind of erotic experience.

Lust also has a non-profit, The Porn Conversation (TPC) which she runs with her partner, whose goal is to provide educational materials to parents, educators, and older teens concerning porn literacy. It’s a fantastic organization I am proud to be an ambassador for.

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Lustery–Founded in 2016 by Spanish filmmaker Paulita Pappel, Lustery started small, but with big ambitions. It germinated within Berlin’s sex-positive community with the goal of capturing the candid intimacy and raw passion of people’s sex lives. The market for the platform grew quickly, fed as much by word of mouth between couples as by an increasingly smut-literate audience hungry for authenticity in their porn. Its goal: To celebrate sex and relationships in their diversity by creating an archive of authentic intimacy and a sex-positive platform for people all around the world.

Side note, Paulita has been featured in a number of films which can be found on Erika Lust’s sites!

Sssh.com–Porn, reimagined. The award-winning site, Sssh, is the premier destination for sex-positive, ethical porn made from a woman’s point of view. Crowd-sourced films are inspired by fantasies and desires shared by their members. Their provocative storylines will challenge your perceptions of explicit sexual content. From cutting edge VR to narrative film, and what most porn sites leave out–written word and auditory stimulation. Sssh has been bringing phenomenal work to the porn industry since 1999, founded by critically acclaimed filmmaker, Angie Rowntree.

Ethical porn means something different to everyone, but the bottom line for most women is, we should be able to have a safe space to consume quality content to explore our sexuality. These sites provide that, while also having a bevy of items to choose from so we never run out of things to consume in the process.

If you’d like to speak further about any of these sites or porn literacy, get in touch!

The Pornhub Documentary Isn’t About Content Creator Greed

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Recently Netflix released Money Shot: The Pornhub Story, a documentary discussing, among other things, how one website, often referred to as “Big Porn” managed to secure its place online as the go-to site for all things pornographic–using SEO to direct traffic to all its subsidiaries when anyone searched for specific keywords relating to adult content. This Pornhub documentary isn’t, however, just about their meteoric rise, nor is it just about their greed as a company (though that is a large part of it), or lack of morals. It’s about a host of issues that brought together showcase a larger issue within the porn industry.

What it isn’t about is content creator greed. But for some reason, that’s what I keep seeing people harping on across social media.

In case you aren’t aware this is a form of victim blaming and it needs to stop. Adult content creators have been harmed by large companies who behave badly. Not just Pornhub, but other porn production companies, fansites, and more. Sex workers are included in this as well. These folks are out here doing a job and literally just expect to be treated with respect and dignity and oh yeah, be paid for the services they’re providing.

Sounds simple, right? Trust me, it isn’t.

They’re blocked at every turn. Payment processors don’t want to work with them. Clients in the real world and online scam them or flat out refuse to pay for services rendered. Production companies don’t provide safe environments or honor contracts. Companies conduct business in nefarious ways. The Pornhub documentary discussed scenarios where illegal activities were being posted on their site and monetized, which in turn caused legitimate content creators to lose access to being paid for their content.

Yet, PH still made money, a lot of money.

Why is the Pornhub documentary important?

Most people became aware of the scandal surrounding Pornhub due to a campaign that began a couple of years ago by a Evangelical group attempting to shut the site down. While I do not agree with how this came about and know there were a lot of lies and issues surrounding it, I do understand what they were trying to accomplish in theory.

What I have an issue with is what happened in the wake of it. Payment processors pulling their services for legit content creators is a problem. Not just for Pornhub, but for other fansites and porn production companies as well. Adult content creators need legitimate ways to accept payment for services provided. We don’t live in a cash society any longer. These groups claim they want to help sex workers, yet, they put us in a position to be in more danger by taking away the ability to exist online where we are safer.

“If the attack on porn continues on the path that it’s currently on…it’s not just an attack on porn, it’s an attack on women’s sexuality, it’s an attack on queer sexuality, it’s an attack on people being able to express themselves openly, especially online.”

Siri Dahl Money Shot: The Pornhub Story

Adult content creators aren’t being greedy by saying they just want to be paid, they’re expecting what anyone else does when they do their job.

“We’re scared for how this affects freedoms of speech online, sexual expression, and marginalized spaces. The implications are so much broader.”

Gwen Adora

How to Give the Best Oral Sex to Your Partner With a Vulva

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When it comes to oral sex, most folks who indulge in it think they have the best moves down pat. I won’t lie, I’ve been with people who swore they were the best cunnilinguists out there, and they went on to prove themselves worthy of the title. Unfortunately, that’s not the case the majority of the time.

Like anything else you engage in with another person, your mileage may vary. There are things you can do for one person that will have them screaming for more; try it with someone else and they may do all they can to squirm away.

I say all this to say, your moves may have worked on a lot of people, but communicating with your partner will always win the day. That’s the problem with getting into a rut, so to speak. Thinking you have a set of moves perfected, then performing them with every lover you have the pleasure of encountering isn’t how you go about making your partners feel amazing.

There are techniques, however, you can learn to add to your repertoire which may lead your partner to explosive orgasms. And the best way to get started, is by memorizing a map.

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Before you begin any project, you should always be sure you know what you’re working with. Every vulva is different, but the main parts are typically in the same place.

Contrary to popular belief, you’re not ‘eating vagina’, as the vagina is internal. That doesn’t mean you should ignore it, though, once things get going.

The key to exceptional oral sex is paying attention to all the parts that feel pleasure. Some people with vulvas love having their labia (minora and majora) stroked, licked, and maybe even squeezed a little. Others don’t care if you do anything other than hold them out of the way while you go to town on the clitoris.

Pro tip: Let’s do away with the trope that the clitoris is difficult to find. It’s not. Although they are all different shapes and sizes, they are all in the same place.

This is why communication is so important. Keep checking in with your partner while you’re going down on them in the beginning. Yes, sounds and movements help clue you in when you’re doing something right (or not), but asking, “Does that feel good?” goes a long way. Not everyone is comfortable making their pleasure known vocally with sounds. Let’s be better about talking through our pleasure (or displeasure).

One of the biggest mistakes people make when eating pussy is going straight for the clitoris. Sure, you want to give this amazing gland a lot of love, but make your way there slowly. And don’t start with the vulva area at all. Begin kissing your partner in all the other places before you make your way to the finish line.

With that said, the clitoris is a pretty amazing thing. What you see is only a small part of the organ itself. The clitoris extends into the body, with a shaft that’s nine to eleven centimeters long! It boasts more nerve endings than a penis, so it makes sense it’s the center of attention.

Nerdy Science Note: The clitoris wasn’t mapped until 2005.

That also means it’s extra sensitive. Some partners will enjoy direct intense pressure, while others need you to go a little softer. But whatever way your partner enjoys it, do yourself and her a favor and don’t stop when she says, “Don’t stop!”

When your partner tells you not to stop, they’re saying exactly what you’re doing, right that moment, has them on the edge of orgasm. Changing the pressure, the shape of your tongue, or really anything at that moment is a sure fire way to cause them to lose the orgasm.

That’s never a good thing. Unless you’re into edge play, but be sure to discuss that ahead of time!

How to Get Started Giving Oral Sex

  1. Start at the top- No, I don’t mean the top of their pussy. Place soft kisses on their neck, moving downward towards their breasts. Take your time here. There are so many erogenous zones on the breasts you can explore. Be sure to pay equal attention to both mounds!
  2. Keep moving down- At this point, your partner is likely moaning and writhing, so be sure to continue giving pleasure. Teasing is a big part of any kind of foreplay, but you want to show your intentions to please as well. If they’re wearing undies, start kissing their vulva and even licking a bit through the material. It’s a great build up and will leave them wanting more.

The inner thighs are a hot zone for a lot of people, so don’t leave them out. However, if they are ticklish, this may be a no go area until they’re extra turned on. Personally, I’m no longer ticklish at all once I’m raring to go!

  1. The best part- It’s time to remove any barriers and really get down to business (if your partner is okay with this, we’ll talk about this again later). If your partner enjoys sex toys, be sure to have one handy. But don’t try to use it right away, except for some vibration! Most people with vulvas don’t orgasm from penetration alone, but you can always turn it on and buzz your way over the labia and even the clit before giving it all a good tongue lashing.
  2. Forget the alphabet- I see this advice so often and wonder who decided it was a good idea. Spelling the alphabet on your partner’s clit is probably not going to do much for them. It’s incredibly inconsistent. Consistency is important. As mentioned earlier, if they say don’t stop, then don’t stop!

Listening and learning

While you’re licking and sucking your partner’s clitoris, pay attention to how their body is reacting. If you’re not getting much in the way of signs, i.e. they’re not grasping the linens, moving their bottom, breathing faster, etc. then change up what you’re doing.

But most importantly, ask them what they need.

In an ideal world, you will be able to listen and observe your partner’s body as you try different techniques on them, allowing you to see what works and doesn’t.

Some people just won’t like what you’re doing, and that doesn’t mean anything is wrong with them. It just means you need to spend more time getting to know their specific preferences.

If they aren’t sure what they like, try a few different ways to give oral sex and get them to rate how it feels. Don’t take the ratings or directions personally. This is about what they enjoy and isn’t a statement against your sexual prowess.

Some people are quieter than others and may not react much, even when they orgasm. As a result, you may find it near impossible to tell if they are enjoying themselves or not. The only solution is getting some feedback from them. After you go down on them, try asking them about what they enjoyed, what they didn’t enjoy, and what they want you to do differently.

A note about using barriers while giving oral sex

Safer sex is never a bad thing. Folks don’t always consider using a barrier when performing oral sex, it’s not something we think about as often as we do using a condom for penetrative sex. But have you ever tried to use a dental dam? They’re awkward, the shift around, and let’s face it, they aren’t sexy. Let me tell you about Lorals, FDA cleared for STI protection, sexy undies for oral.

Available in black if you want to keep it mysterious and now, sheer if you’re ready to bare it all, Lorals provide a barrier between your body and your partner for any kind of oral sex you want to get into. They protect but they don’t keep you from experiencing the same pleasure you would without being in place. And, if oral while on your period has always been a no-no for you (we don’t judge either way!) Lorals provides a barrier to allow you to feel comfortable for that, too.

The Bottom Line

Orgasm doesn’t have to be the goal when giving oral sex. It’s wonderful if you get there, but unless this is the only sex act you’ll be doing for the night, it’s just a warm up for more. When you go into licking pussy with the idea you must get your partner off, it puts pressure on you both to perform.

Enjoy it for the appetizer it is and make your partner feel good. In the end, your attention and listening to their body and words will take you further than you’ve been before.

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Planet Sex Started Good Conversations But Missed an Important One About Sex Work

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Yesterday I watched the documentary Planet Sex with Cara Delevingne on Hulu in its entirety. For the most part, it was sex positive and well done. I had a few moments where I didn’t agree with the way certain points were presented but that’s to be expected with anything–we are never going to agree with everything someone else thinks. I was surprised when I got to the end however and nothing had been mentioned about sex work

Episode four of this documentary is titled Pornucopia and would have been the perfect opportunity to bring sex work into the conversation if they were afraid to do an entire episode about it, though let’s be honest, a full 45 minutes could have been filmed about it with no issue.

The episode discusses how pornography can be problematic, but does a good job of showing the viewer how certain corners of the industry are working to change that–showcasing people like filmmaker Erika Lust, who creates ethical films that aren’t coming from the traditional cis, white, male gaze. Each film is accompanied by footage of the consent meetings (yes, they have those!), where the performers sit down before shoots and talk about what they do and don’t like, what turns them on, and what will bring them to orgasm. Because yes, porn performers should experience pleasure, too.

And yes, they are a kind of sex worker, but those words are never uttered during this episode. I appreciate the comment by Erika Lust concerning support for performers. She says what we all in the sex work industry (and porn industry) have been saying for years. Pay for your porn. Follow your favorite creators on their social media and other platforms. Listen to what they have to say about which companies are treating them properly.

How Could Planet Sex Have Discussed Sex Work?

This documentary went all over the world to talk about sex, so it makes sense to me they could easily have traveled to places where sex work is legal. Even here in the United States, in parts of Nevada, there are brothels where it’s legal, though don’t get me started on my thoughts on how the government needs to get their sticky fingers out of that.

Since the pandemic began, scores of people have started accounts on sites like OnlyFans and SextPanther where they publish their own adult content and share it across social media, marketing themselves as adult content creators. It’s sex work and porn wrapped up in one in a way. Not what you think of as traditional sex work? That’s okay, it doesn’t have to look like one thing because it isn’t a monolith.

Sex work encompasses a variety of things. Adult fan sites, cam models, Professional domming, financial domming, professional submissives, pornography actors, and more. Anyone who creates content for the sexual gratification of others can be considered a sex worker.

So why would the creators of this documentary seem to intentionally avoid discussing sex work altogether? Why not use this huge platform to have this important conversation that’s been at the heart of so many discussions across headlines everywhere lately? Were they afraid of backlash?

As a sex worker I’m always concerned about being outed to my community. It’s one of the reasons I use a pseudonym. I’ve been outed before and had it used against me in a custody case years ago, and that was only rumors and photographs, no real evidence. Had my ex-husband been granted any real proof of my sex work I could have lost a lot more.

Where I live, sex work isn’t completely illegal, depending on what you do. I can create adult content the way I currently do–I’m an online content creator, I have an OnlyFans account (and I publish content on other adult fan sites), I sext with clients on SextPanther, I video chat at times, clients send me money for findom purposes. I haven’t met a client in person recently, but it is something I offer under the helm of my ProDomme services. I don’t have sex with my clients, I’m no longer a full-service sex worker (FSSW) but I have been in the past.

There are ways around the solicitation laws, that’s why most sex workers refer to themselves as escorts. They aren’t encouraging clients to solicit them for sex. What happens between two consenting adults is between them–the client is paying for their time, period.

These are all topics Planet Sex could have brought up with real world sex workers in their documentary. For discretion purposes, they could have offered to hide their real identities as they did the owners of the sexual wellness company, Mauj. There are plenty of sex workers who would have been happy to talk to journalists willing to allow us to tell our stories.

If Cara Delevingne or the producers of Planet Sex would like to add to their documentary or if anyone else has one in the pipeline and want to interview real world sex workers and tell our stories, I’m right here–ready and willing to openly speak about my experiences as a sex worker, a woman, and a parent who has dealt with the stigma surrounding sex work. And I’m sure there are thousands more standing in the wings ready to tell their stories, too.

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