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Take Advantage And Shop Early With These Black Friday Deals

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If you’re planning to shop Black Friday deals this holiday season there’s no better time to start than right now. Yes, I’m aware it’s only the first week of November, but some of my favorite companies have already started their sales and I want to share them all with you. But don’t worry, just because the sales began early doesn’t mean they’ll end anytime soon. I don’t want you to miss any deals this year, so here’s the plan. I’ll edit this piece throughout the entire month of November whenever sales are about to happen and announce it on social media, so be sure to follow me everywhere you spend time to keep up.

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Black Friday Deals From My Favorite Adult Companies

Babeland Toys–This company started Black Friday early and has slashed 100s of items on their site already. If you’re in the mood to shop early, head on over to their Black Friday Early Access and get up to 70 percent off their already great prices. Since 1993, Babeland has been providing sex positive education and body safe items for the world. If you’re looking to get your lube on this holiday season, they’re the place to be for all your JO brand lube needs with the best selection right here (over 98 varieties and collections together on this page)

Starship— I love getting started on my holiday shopping early when I can and Starship is getting the party going right now. Now through December 31st, you get bonuses on all gift card purchases (yes, you can use them for yourself or gift them to others). Additionally, through Thanksgiving, they’re offering 30 percent off select Starship branded items online and in stores (tons of locations across the US) just use code EARLYBIRD when you shop. Want more? Spend $250 and you’ll save $50, use code ONESTOP at checkout.

Velvet Co— I love this Mom and Pop company in general, and their thrusting vibrator is still a go-to standard for me on the regular. For years, I wanted a sex machine, but let’s be real, they are bulky and just big. In my current setting, I can’t really use one. But that changed the moment I got my hands on one of their toys. This Black Friday, you can too at a significant savings. The Gratitude Bundle is 40 percent off now through 12/1 and everything else on site is 25 percent off. Beginning 11/27, when you buy the amazing Teddy XL, you get an Energy Ball, free. You can start shopping now.

Lovehoney–Home to so many brands you know and love–Womanizer, We-Vibe, and Arcwave, with unbeatable deals, exclusive offers, and a cascade of savings, get ready to indulge in the joy of giving and receiving with a curated selection of products that cater to every taste and desire.

Shop up to 50 percent off everything at premium brands Womanizer, We-Vibe, and Arcwave NOW through December 4th.

Good Vibes–Previously known as Good Vibrations, this store has been around since the 70s, bringing you high quality items ever since. They’re currently hosting some flash sales, but the big sale begins a bit closer to the holiday and you’ll see Black Friday deals galore then (don’t worry, I’ll update you when they’re ready!)

Fun Factory— When you want the most rumbly motors on the planet, I will always send you to Fun Factory. They are the home of my go-to wand, my favorite insertable vibrator, and some pretty amazing dildos, too. Sustainability is important to this amazing German owned company–as much as pleasure is! Beginning 11/22-29 you’ll save up to 30 percent sitewide on the best this amazing company has to offer, so mark your calendars and get shopping early before your favorite sells out. I have it on good authority VIM will be $118, and the all-new Laya III will be $76.

Love Not War— This sustainable toy company should get more love than it does. With their Power of Love battery, that powers every single toy they provide, and swappable heads, it’s a no brainer their items can’t be beat. Want more? If your battery stops working, they’ll replace it–FREE. That didn’t sell you? Now, their Neo Silicone heads are compatible with silicone lubricant. From 11/23-27 you’ll get a free head when you spend $99, and 2 free heads when you spend $149, also 50 percent off the award winning AMORE bullet vibrator.

Steamy Lit— Love to be naughty and read smut? Steamy Lit has you covered. Their carefully curated subscription boxes begin with a book and can be as simple as that, or as fancy as multiple books including a sex toy. They offer quarterly subscriptions and the deal for Black Friday is really a steal–25 percent off site wide including their merch.

Foria— My go-to for CBD and botanical infused products, Foria is another sustainable company I love to support. This holiday season, if you can shop with a company that promotes saving the planet while treating your body like the temple it is, why wouldn’t you? 11/23-26 60 percent off sitewide! This is their best sale of the year, so don’t miss out.

Happy V— is a progressive Latina-founded vaginal wellness brand that produces 100 percent natural, non-GMO, gluten-free and vegan-friendly essentials. They use clinically proven ingredients at the right dosage made in their own FDA-registered, cGMP facility. Black Friday Deals go from 11/20-27 and give you up to 35 percent off sitewide (20% off sitewide in addition to the 15% off for subscribing to a Quarterly Subscription).

Nose Best Candles— There’s not much better than making your home smell amazing. And this company has you covered. I love supporting small businesses, especially during the holiday season and this company is getting a good piece of my paycheck when this sale starts! Beginning 11/24-27 buy 3 candles and get 1 free! You won’t be disappointed, every candle I’ve purchased from them has not only smelled delicious, they’ve lasted longer than any other brand I’ve used (and trust me, I’ve bought them all from Yankee to Bath and Body).

Betty’s Toy Box— Always one of my favorite places to go to get most anything sexual wellness related. Black Friday Deals/Door Buster sales start now, 11/22 and run through the 27th! You can get 20 percent off the iconic Magic Wand family beginning today, so don’t miss this epic sale. Be sure to check out Betty’s Holiday Guide if you wonder what to buy. And you can use my code DEMI to save 10 percent this season on top of any discounts! Thanks, Betty <3

She Vibe— The home of awesome monster dildos, Uberrime dildos (they’re so pretty!), and a new product I’ll be reviewing soon by Silc Touch ergonomic handle and dildo, and so much more. Save up to 25 percent off using code SANTA now through 11/27. The more you shop, the more you save.

My Plus One— First time vibe customer? Looking for stocking stuffers? On a budget? If you answered yes to any of these questions, then shopping with My Plus One is right for you. Starting November 19th-26th take 30 percent off orders $50 or more (automatically taken at checkout). On Cyber Monday, their entire site is 30 percent off. They’ll have giftable holiday bundles, too. Plus One vibrating bullet is only $15.99 during their Black Friday deals, with super cute packaging.

Eye of Love— Pheromones in perfume were all the rage when I was in high school, they were on every sex shop counter. But they didn’t smell the best and I’ll be honest, I really thought they were a gimmick. Well, times have changed and this company is no joke. Their scents are divine and since I’ve been wearing a couple of their scents, whether it’s a placebo effect or not, my confidence has been boosted. You can give them a shot with a 30 percent discount sitewide from November 24-27 and see what the fuss is all about.

Erika Lust— The home of the absolute best in feminist porn, this holiday season, pay less, moan more! Erika is giving you 50 percent off all plans across all their amazing platforms!

Coconu— Whether you prefer water based or oil based, Coconu has you covered. Save 30 percent using code BF30 sitewide!

This list is not all-inclusive, yet! As I continue to receive updates, I will edit to add them. Deals will be incoming as the month continues. Shop early and often and don’t forget to treat yourself!

If you shop Amazon this holiday season, please consider using my affiliate link here. Also, please clear your cache before shopping any of these links so I get credit. I really appreciate all my readers. By shopping my affiliate links anytime, but especially through the holidays, you help support my work. This article contains many affiliate links, so if you shop and treat yourself, I may earn a small commission.

Black Friday Deals Current as of November 24, 2023.

Like a Butterfly Erika Lust XConfessions

Come on Barbie, Let’s Go Party: Sexy Ways to Channel Your Inner Barbie

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male and female dolls lying on one another channeling their inner barbie

We may be long past our days of playing with plastic dolls (or not, we don’t judge here) but if you’ve been anywhere these last few months, you’ve definitely seen and heard all about Greta Gerwig’s Barbie movie starring Margot Robbie and Ryan Gosling. I can’t lie–I’m stoked about seeing it and it’s really made me want to channel my inner Barbie. Like most folks with a vulva, I had tons of Barbie dolls growing up, they were one of my favorite toys, though I’ll admit, most of the time I spent playing with them was a lesson in sexuality more than traditional doll play. My Barbie’s were all lesbians or at least bisexual haha. Sorry not sorry Ken.

These days, I am an avid collector of toys of a different variety and while I don’t yet live in my Malibu Dreamhouse, a large number of them are pink! As a sex toy reviewer, pink begins to become a color you see way too often, but when you’re living in a Barbie world, that might not be such a bad thing.

How to Channel Your Inner Barbie in Sexy Ways This Summer

fun factory pink volta sex toy

Fun Factory has you covered. Whether you like to play solo or coupled with your favorite Ken, the Volta is one of their hottest toys and yes, it even comes in hot hot pink. Volta is typically known for being an external clitoral toy, but you can switch things up and use it while giving a blow job! Just add some water-based lubricant between the tips, slide it up and down your Ken’s shaft, and focus your attention on the head.

Volta’s tapping tips make vibrations stronger, which boosts arousal and heightens sensitivity. When playing solo, you can spread those tips and press one against your clit while using the other against your vaginal opening, or press them both anywhere you’d like. Go from wild percussion to classic vibration–the patterns are customizable and totally up to you. Your inner Barbie gets to choose wild to mild, girl.

fun factory pink diva sex toy

Dolphins are the epitome of cute, so what better way to channel your inner Barbie than with the Fun Factory Diva Dolphin G-Spot vibrator? This cute vibrator is made even better by the fact that it’s battery powered–did someone say girl’s trip? It boasts the most powerful battery vibration out there, so let that inner diva roar and explore! She’s perfect for any way you want to explore, from penetration to pinpoint external stimulation–offering what you have come to expect from Fun Factory, deep rumbling vibrations. Unlike many battery-powered toys, Diva Dolphin keeps the same level of power right until it runs out of juice.  You can also upgrade with their Hybrid Kit to charge rechargeable batteries inside the toy.

fun factory sharevibe pink sex toy

Sharing really is caring, especially when you’re talking about the Fun Factory Sharevibe in hot pink, complete with a bullet in the bulb. This wearable, vibrating double dildo lets you and your partner get very, very close. Its shorter bulb is designed for G-spot massage and a feeling of deep fullness; just lube it up, slip it in, and get ready to be richly rewarded for giving your partner the business. Even better, the ridge at the base rests against the clit, giving you friction and vibration exactly where you want it. Meanwhile, the receiver gets a smooth, slim shaft with a gentle curve that makes G-spot or prostate play a cinch. Hmmm we always knew Ken was into pegging, didn’t we? Maybe he’s gonna channel his inner Barbie this summer!

fun factory bootie fem sex toy

We can’t let Ken have all the bootie fun–The Fun Factory Bootie Fem is specially designed for a woman’s behind. This comfy, beginner butt plug was designed for vulva owners to wear during PIV sex. Bootie Fem has an asymmetrical base, so it doesn’t block the vaginal opening. Plus, the tulip tip was cleverly designed to add pressure near the G-spot, giving the strap-on or penis a thrilling squeeze.

Let’s Get Visual With Our Inner Barbie

Erika Lust is my favorite pornographer. Her films seem to jump off the screen with stunning color, stories, and scenes that make you feel as if you’re watching a regular movie–but much sexier.

Milkshake is a fantasy fiction movie, DRIPPING in nostalgia. With the 70’s aesthetic to the setting of an old-school diner, Milkshake leaves taste buds tingling. Director Charis Uster tells a story of a girl who has always dreamed of having a threesome with two men, as she takes a sip of her sweet milkshake – she finally gets to taste her dream. Her milkshake really DID bring the boys to the yard…

Become a Barbie girl, in a Barbie world. Indie adult director Maximus Skaff is back with a conceptual short film accompanied by a poem. Delve into the cotton candy dream world that is ‘Like A Butterfly’, where queer sex dreams come true. Like A Butterfly is a trans love story that shows the transition, similar to how a beautiful butterfly transforms from a cocoon.

No matter how you choose to channel your inner Barbie, I’m sure you’ll have a blast. If you’re like me, you now have the Aqua song stuck in your head, so you’re welcome. Be sure to check out the new film, coming to theaters July 21st, or wait until it’s available digitally (that’s my plan!) but most of all, live out loud, have tons of orgasms, and “Always leave things better than you found them.”

This article contains affiliate links, so if you treat yourself while shopping, I may earn a small commission. Please, do me a favor and clear your cache before you shop! Thanks 🙂

If you’d like to chat about anything discussed in this article, or sex education in general, get in touch here. For a list of companies I recommend, check out this ultimate list here. For more of my work, you can find me on Medium.

Have a Little Pride in All Your Sex Routines This June and Always

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June is Pride Month and what better time to ramp up your sexual routines? There’s nothing like a bit of stunning erotica to get you in the mood (or even more in the mood) than Ballroom culture, gay sex, BIPOC representation, all featured in Erika Lust’s newest feature film, Catboy. Erika Lust always brings ethical porn to your solo or partnered sex and this film is a fantastic way to have a little Pride and get ready for some steamy sessions. Directed by Xaho and already rated 5 stars it’s sure to please most anyone.

Catboy and all other XConfessions films can be bought alone, or a subscription to XConfessions to watch Catboy and more is $19.95 USD per month. A subscription is a great way to treat yourself as it gets you access to all the films available from XConfessions every month, including any new releases.

Because we all have our own individual tastes, here’s a round-up of some other great movies no matter what your preference:

New Kings on the Block (Dir. Erika Lust) – Features non-binary and trans representation, Drag King culture, and gender discussion.
Klappe (Dir. Matt Lambert) – Trans, non-binary, gay sex representation. Club cruising culture.
Gender Bender (Dir. Erika Lust), also on Else Cinema here – Queer & Gender play, Kink.
Girl Gang (Dir. Charlie Benedetti) – Lesbian sex, Asexual representation.

While you’re watching your chosen hot film (or three) don’t forget to break out an awesome toy from my favorite company, Fun Factory, and have a little Pride while you’re doing it. You can ride a rainbow this month and always with their Rainbow Amor dildo, and feel good knowing 10 percent of all sales are going to Trans Futures Stage!

This limited edition version of the well-loved Amor is the 6-Inch dildo you know and love and includes a super thin base, allowing for extra close contact when worn in a harness. And for lovers of a versatile toy, it suctions to smooth, flat surfaces for riding and grinding. The girthy tip of AMOR stimulates the G-spot or the prostate, and, at 6 inches, most people find AMOR the most comfortable dildo. Instead of stressing about going too deep, the user can wind their hips and bounce around stress-free.

I have the limited edition Bi Amor, which is the same base version, just in the Bi colors, and it is one of my favorite dildos to use. The size is absolutely perfect, the suction is exceptional, and due to the thinness of the base, it fits well in every harness I have.

Have a little Pride post sex and play

We could all use some soothing and nothing helps rehydrate and help prevent chaffing better than Momotaro Apotheca’s Salve. I can’t say enough wonderful things about their entire line of products and keep them on hand at all times. They’re a queer owned company, which would be a huge selling point for me alone, but honestly, their products speak for themselves.

Their award-winning Salve, a soothing balm for delicate areas smells great and works wonders. With clean hands, simply apply a pea size amount around the vulva or penis after sex, or as often as you chose.

This Pride, take care of yourself with these products and enjoy. But more importantly, be safe out there and have fun!

Get in touch! I offer intimacy and relationship coaching sessions on a limited basis, you can contact me here. If you ever wonder what other toys/wellness items I recommend, I created a page specifically about that.

This article contains affiliate links. If you subscribe to Erika Lust’s ethical porn subscription sites or purchase any items from Fun Factory or Momotaro Apotheca from my links, I will earn a small commission, but it won’t cost you anything more. Thanks for supporting my work <3

xoxo Demi

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FUN FACTORY VIM Review–It’s Out of This World

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There are a lot of wands on the market today, but the most well known will always be the Magic Wand–so much so, most people refer to almost every wand as a Magic Wand. This is known as a “generic trademark”, something we all commonly do, such as calling all facial tissues Kleenex, all copy machines Xerox, etc. It’s a bad habit we should probably break, but I’ll admit, I’m guilty of doing it myself! But after using the Fun Factory VIM, I may just start referring to all wands as a VIM.

What is the FUN FACTORY VIM?

It’s no secret FUN FACTORY is one of my favorite companies, for good reason. Their toys are well made, they’re an ethical company, and they’re great to work with–and VIM is no different. The FUN FACTORY VIM is the world’s first weighted rumble wand–but what does that mean, exactly? The motor is uniquely weighted, so it provides rumbling vibration no matter what speed you choose, unlike other wands that may be buzzy at lower levels of vibration. Some users never reach the top levels on a wand, they find them to be too much, so they may not get the rumbling tones some users know and love.

Don’t fret, if you’re sensitive and enjoy lower settings, you will love VIM and be able to get that rumble even at the very first level of fun. FUN FACTORY is well known for their rumbling toys, and this wand is no different in that regard, but note, this motor is new and not featured in any of their other items.

Speaking of levels, let’s talk about the settings. Going back to that ever popular Magic Wand, the original has two settings, low and Jesus Roosevelt Christ. Now, I’m not really that sensitive, but I’ll admit, it’s a rare occasion that I can hit JRC on my original MW. I would love to have somewhere in between. I also own a mini Magic Wand and was oh so thankful for the upgrade to more choices in settings. But with the FUN FACTORY VIM, the choices became even more amazing.

The toy’s thudding vibration is unique and travels below the surface for deeper pleasure. Which really surprised me. I’ve found with other wands, and trust me, I own a number of them beyond the MW, even when I press them hard against my body, I don’t really get much sensation beyond the surface, but with VIM, the vibration goes deeper and really travels to the clitoral nerves beneath, giving sensations I haven’t felt before except when I’ve used internal G-spot toys coupled with clitoral stimulation. It’s pretty awesome.

The FUN FACTORY VIM is programmed for you with three settings, Deep Orgasm (press the + button six times), Intense Orgasm (press the + button seven times), and Edging Program (press the + button eight times). Or you can use + button to increase the speed from one-five.

What are the programs like?

Deep Orgasm–is a rumbly program that starts with light vibration and builds up to the maximum setting. Really, it does all the work for you. This would be great for when you’re not in a hurry and want to romance yourself, but not engage in edging.

Intense Orgasm–Want a quickie? This is fast and powerful. And let me tell you, it’s no joke. I made the “mistake” of trying this setting first, and I made a huge mess! I thought I would cum quickly, but I also thought I wouldn’t squirt. I kept my panties on, and let’s just say, they had to go in the laundry and I ended up having to change the sheets on my bed because I didn’t prepare properly. But I did it again immediately!

Edging–Builds in intensity and then drops off, again and again, reaching higher heights until you climax. I tried this setting for about an hour, teasing myself until I couldn’t stand it any longer. It was a lot of fun and I could see this being even more exciting to use with a partner.

Settings one-five–As you’d expect, they go from gentle rumbling vibrations to powerful. The lowest setting is probably the most gentle vibration I’ve ever felt from a wand, yet, it is still rumbling not buzzy at all. And it is absolutely the quietest wand I’ve ever used. According to FUN FACTORY it is 50 percent quieter than the leading wand on the market. I did a test video and posted it on You Tube, through all the settings so you can hear and will share it here. Setting five is quite intense, and so far, I haven’t been able to use it for more than a few seconds directly on my clit, but I do enjoy it when I’m using the wand as a massager on other parts of my body!

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Fun Factory VIM

What comes with FUN FACTORY VIM

You’ll notice my photo has some extra goodies, but I received a special box since I agreed to test VIM in exchange for providing an honest review. If you order your own, you’ll get VIM, a magnetic charging cable (no block), a Yes/No/Maybe List to fill out with your partner, a booklet with operating instructions, care directions, and a flirt or dare game to inspire your play.

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Using the FUN FACTORY VIM

The FUN FACTORY VIM comes in two beautiful colors, Sunrise Orange or Midnight Blue. I was a little sad I didn’t get the blue, as it’s my favorite color, but the orange is truly stunning, and I’ll be frank, I really won’t ever have to worry about losing it! Not that it’s ever going in the toy cabinet, it gets to live on the table next to my bed for all time.

One of the coolest features I wasn’t even sure would be pertinent to me at first are the grooves in the head of VIM. Why? They hold lube so perfectly. I’ll admit, I’ve never really used lube with a wand before. Typically, I use my wands over my clothing. They just vibrate so powerfully, I find I can’t use them directly on my clit, so I don’t need to use lube. But since VIM has these built in channels or grooves on the head, I decided I would give it a shot.

Since VIM also has a much lower setting than traditional wands, I knew using it without the clothing barrier would go over much better, well, after my initial trial on goddess mode aka the Intense Orgasm program. Since VIM is made of body safe silicone, be sure you’re not using a silicone based lubricant. You can choose something like Coconu’s Water Based lubricant or even an oil based product like Foria’s Awaken Arousal Oil with CBD to enhance your sensations even further. Just be sure if you plan to use a latex condom later on, you’re aware oil based products are not compatible with condoms.

My preferred way of using VIM I’ve found is on the Deep Orgasm program setting. It’s nice to treat yourself and take some time coming to your orgasm over time, but not necessarily edging yourself–unless that’s your thing. It’s not really mine, but to each their own. I like engaging in edging with a partner, just not so much on my own, which sadly, I am more often than not these days.

I found VIM fits quite nicely in two of the three pockets of my Liberator Pulse, so I can slip it in whichever one I choose, push the mount against the head of my bed and have a totally hands-free experience. This is great for me because I have some mobility issues and even though VIM is really light-weight (34 percent lighter than the average wand), sometimes, my hands don’t want to cooperate and my arms get tired even at the beginning of playtime, and that’s never fun. Plus, it’s hot to grind on the toy to get off.

For the most part though, I hold VIM in both hands, and press down hard, taking full advantage of the bendable head, and allow the rumbling vibrations to travel throughout my body. Bonus, those vibrations do not travel down the handle at all. They stay focused in the head and to your body, where they belong.

Want a quickie? VIM has you covered. As I briefly mentioned earlier, the Intense Orgasm program will bring you to your knees, and for me, is a guaranteed way to squirt, no internal stimulation necessary! Although I tried it later, using my favorite FUN FACTORY vibrator, Big Boss, in my vagina and VIM on my clitoris and holy fuck. I’m pretty sure my neighbors heard that screaming orgasm. I’m glad I prepped for that session, because I didn’t have any more clean sheets.

You can get your very own FUN FACTORY VIM direct from the company for $169 with free shipping. If you shop using my links, you’ll not only get a quality product, you’ll also be supporting my work and I’ll earn a small commission.

This article contains affiliate links to other companies as well, and I may earn a small commission if you treat yourself to their products. If you shop at Betty’s Toy Box (Liberator Link) and use my code DEMI, you’ll get 10 percent off your entire order.

If You’re Looking For the Best Rabbit Vibrator Compare These

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Fun Factory Lady Bi
Fun Factory Miss Bi

Rabbit vibrators are one of the most recognizable sex toys available. This is owing in part to their coverage on shows like Sex and the City as far back as the late 90s. If you watched the show, you may remember the episode, The Turtle and the Hare where Miranda lends Charlotte her rabbit. While clearly, they couldn’t show exactly what happened, it was pretty obvious based on the fact that Charlotte didn’t want to leave the house, a grand time was had. I guess you could say she found the best rabbit vibrator for her.

Sex toys in general have come a long way since 1998, thankfully. And we have a lot more choices now, which can sometimes be overwhelming. If you’re looking for the best rabbit vibrator out there, you may find multiple choices even within one company, but don’t worry, I’m going to narrow down the choices for you and help you out.

Which is the Best Rabbit Vibrator? Miss Bi or Lady Bi?

Fun Factory has some of the best sex toys on the market, hands down. Their powerful, rumbly motors, ergonomic handles, and easy to navigate controls make their toys well worth owning. So it stands to reason, if you’re looking for the best rabbit vibrator, they’re a great choice. But which one should you choose? Well, it depends on your body and how you like to receive your pleasure. Let’s break down the specifications of each of their rabbit vibrators so you can decide for yourself.

Fun Factory Miss Bi Specifications

  • Two strong motors for customizable sensations
  • Designed to hug the clit & G-spot
  • Flexible clitoral arm adapts to any body
  • Girthy in the right places
  • Save your favorite vibration setting

One thing I hear a lot from folks when they’re talking about rabbit vibrators is they want to be able to control the vibrations separately, from the internal arm and the clitoral arm. Fun Factory has you covered. Personally, I enjoy more vibrations internally and a little less on my clit, so being able to adjust these vibrations my way makes all the difference.

I also love how flexible the clitoral arm is and the width. Too often this piece on a rabbit is so narrow it gives pinpoint vibrations to my clit and that is just not the kind of stimulation I need. It’s too much and takes me out of the headspace I need to be in. The shape of the clitoral arm allows the rumbling vibration to be dispersed which is a much better feeling.

The base is super-girthy, too, to please your sensitive vaginal opening. With minimal stroking, rubbing, or thrusting, you can get maximum pleasure. One thing I do hear a lot is how “short” Miss Bi is. Fun Factory based the length on tester feedback. People stated they craved more girth, a shorter length, and a pronounced G-spot curve. And, it’s anal safe. That clitoral arm? Feels pretty damn fantastic tickling the perineum.

Right now, when you add Miss Bi to your cart, you’ll see a 20 percent discount through 3/29/2023 when you buy from Fun Factory.

Fun Factory Lady Bi Specifications

  • Two super-strong, rumbling motors
  • Hits the clit and the a-spot, getting you extra turned on and lubed up
  • Designed to satisfy the size queen who wants it all
  • Firm-yet-flexible silicone for perfect pressure
  • Easy-control (even with lube hands!) loop handle

Calling size queens! If you want a longer insertable length, Lady Bi may be the better choice for you. If you want to be wetter, more turned on, and to experience deeper sensations than ever before, then you want a long, strong vibe that’s going to hit your a-spot, the area close to the cervix that has been shown to increase arousal. Obviously all bodies are different, so this vibe may not hit that spot for you, and angles do matter.

Like the Miss Bi, the Lady Bi also has two powerful, rumbling motors, in a design that’s long and firm, for size lovers who crave dual stimulation. Need firmer pressure on your clit to get you where you’re going? They adapted their signature FlexiFUN Technology™ to make Lady Bi flexible-but-not-too-flexible, so you can enjoy a more intense pressure from a shaft that adapts to your motion. Plus, the length gives you more options for play, whether that means vibrating the arousal-triggering a-spot or simply having greater mobility.

If you want to know more about A-spot stimulation and how it can work for you, I highly recommend reading up on it from my dear friend, Cy over on her blog at Super Smash Cache. She is the A-spot Queen.

Comparing the Lady Bi and Miss Bi side by side

Rabbit vibrator
Power TypeMovementDimensionsBattery LifeCharging Time
Miss BiUSB rechargeable with included charger6 speeds and 6 patternsInsertable length: 3.15 in External vibrator length: 1.38 in
30-60 min6-8 hours
Lady BiUSB rechargeable with included charger6 speeds and 6 patternsInsertable length: 4.5 in
External vibrator length: 1.97 in		30-60 min6-8 hours

Final Thoughts

So which is the best rabbit vibrator? That’s up to you and your body. Personally, I enjoy them both depending on what kind of pleasure I am seeking that day. The Lady Bi feels fantastic when I want a deeper penetration and to make myself squirt more easily. The Miss Bi is perfect when I want more girth at the vaginal opening and a more dispersed rumbling vibration across my entire clit. Plus, I have found it’s really fun to use anally, too. You can also use Lady Bi anally, they’re both anal safe.

This article contains affiliate links, so when you treat yourself while shopping at Fun Factory, I may earn a small commission. Right now, through 3/29/2023 when you add Miss Bi to your cart, you’ll receive 20 percent off.

Womanizer Classic 2 Review–A Popular Classic Is Renewed

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Womanizer Classic 2

The ever popular Womanizer Classic has gotten an upgrade, now the Classic 2, read on to see how Womanizer took one of their iconic designs and made it even better.

The Womanizer Classic is one of the most popular toys in Womanizer’s line of iconic toys and I was excited to see it get an upgrade. The Classic 2 is an updated version of the original can be considered an essential to your bedroom. If you’re new to clitoral stimulators, this toy is a pressure wave stimulator, using Womanizer’s patented Pleasure Air technology, the same as their Starlet 3 that I recently reviewed. However, this model is a much nicer toy and the price point and added features reflect that.

What’s improved from the Classic to the Classic 2?

The size is approximately the same, both models are what’s considered full size pressure wave toys with comfortable handles and a sleek design. The Classic 2 now has 10 intensity levels, an increase from 8 in the previous model. The new model comes in two colors, Black and Bordeaux, whereas the original only came in one color. It comes with two stimulation heads, medium and small (in a separate pouch) and you are welcome to order other sizes direct from Womanizer.

What are the specs of the Classic 2?

ColorsRun TimeCharge TimeHead MaterialBody MaterialsWeightDimensions
Black, Bordeaux180 min120 minSiliconeFull soft touch surface & silicone buttons118 g148 mm x 48 mm x 35 mm

Manufacturer Warranty: 5 years

Box includes: Womanizer Classic 2 clitoral simulator, additional stimulation head, cotton storage pouch, USB charging cable (AC adapter not included), quick start guide, safety instructions

It charges with the included USB charging cable and note, the LED light is in the clitoral stimulating head, and will come on and flash when charging. 120 minutes to charge, 180 minutes of use.

There are three round control buttons. The ON/OFF button is near the bottom of the toy, and sits flush with the surface. The other two buttons are located in the middle of the body. These (+) and (–) buttons sit a bit above the surface of the toy. The (–) is smaller than the (+) button. There’s a tiny gap between them. All three buttons take firm pressure to press down and make a loud click sound.

What are the features?

Pleasure Air Technology, unique to all Womanizer products, means your clitoris is stimulated without direct contact. Gentle air vibrations suck and massage at the same time, giving you an experience unlike any other toy you’ve experienced. Since this product has this technology, this also means there’s no vibration transfer. This is great for anyone with limited hand mobility or general mobility issues. It’s also helpful for those who’ve found the intensity of other clitoral stimulators on the market to be too much.

To turn the Classic 2 on, press and hold the ON/OFF button for two seconds. Increase intensity by tapping the (+), decrease by tapping the (-). Turn it off by pressing the ON/OFF button again for two seconds.

But don’t worry, the Classic 2 has more than one setting, in fact, it boasts 10 intensity levels, so you’re sure to find the right fit for you. Whether you prefer gentle or OMG, you can cycle through and find a level that’s sure to please you. Once you have and you’ve experienced the pleasure you seek, there’s even an Afterglow setting (briefly tap the ON/OFF button), which automatically puts the Classic 2 on its lowest setting, allowing you to ride the waves without feeling the most intense setting you may have wanted before you hit the high notes.

How well does it perform?

In reading other reviews of the Classic and the Classic 2 one thing I noticed is some people with sensitive clits saying the original was already too intense for them and being concerned that adding more intensity levels wasn’t going to help them any. I’m impressed that Womanizer added a lower setting when they revamped the Classic 2, so people with sensitive clits could enjoy more settings, instead of feeling like they weren’t getting something new with this improved toy.

Too often, I feel like toy companies are going for more intensity instead of understanding you can add more without necessarily making everything a jackhammer. Don’t get me wrong, I don’t want every toy to feel “weak” so to speak, but an understanding that every body is different is important.

The new Afterglow feature is nice for multiple reasons. Whether you have a sensitive clit or not, once you’ve orgasmed the first time, your clit can get a little sensitive and if you’re going for more than one O, it’s nice to slow things down a bit and that feature helps. You can also use it to edge yourself and make things last, and ramp things up for an even bigger finish.

Overall, I really enjoyed this toy and it’s definitely become a staple in my rotation of clitoral stimulators. I love the materials the body is constructed of, the matte finish is nice, it doesn’t get slippery if your hand has lube on it (which mine usually does!) and that’s a really nice touch.

Final Thoughts

I recently reviewed the Womanizer Starlet 3 and created this chart to compare it with the Classic 2. Price wise, there’s a pretty significant gap. They’re similar toys in so far as what they do, but luxury definitely wins the day. If you can afford to save for the Classic 2, I highly recommend it. But if you want a more affordable option, you won’t be disappointed with the Starlet 3 until the Classic 2 becomes available for your budget.


Classic 2 The Essential Clitoral StimulatorStarlet 3 Compact Sized Clitoral Stimulator
ColorsBlack, BordeauxTurquoise, indigo, violet, pink, gray
Intensity levels106
materialFull soft touch surface & silicone buttonsABS & silicone head
Charging time12030
Run time18030
Special featuresAfterglowNone
Water resistanceWaterproof (IPX7)Waterproof (IPX7)

Thank you to Betty’s Toy Box for providing the Classic 2 in exchange for an honest review. The links contained in this article are affiliate links, so if you treat yourself while shopping, I’ll earn a small commission. Use my code DEMI while shopping at Betty’s and save 10 percent on your entire order. Shipping is free when you spend $69.

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Womanizer Starlet 3 Review—Affordable Clitoral Stimulation

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Womanizer Starlet 3 used with permission from Wow-Tech

Womanizer is one of the most recognizable sex toy companies on the planet. Their Womanizer Starlet 3 is a new version of a toy you’ll probably recognize—it’s the original Womanizer Pleasure Air Technology combined with five new vivid product colors and two more intensity levels, while being IPX7 Waterproof and USB rechargeable as well as being one of the most affordable clitoral stimulation toys on the market. Betty’s Toy Box provided this item to me in exchange for an honest review.

What are the specs of the Womanizer Starlet 3?

ColorsRun TimeCharge TimeHead MaterialBody MaterialsWeightDimensions
Turquoise, Indigo, Violet, Pink, Gray30min30minbody-safe siliconeABS plastic made without phthalates, BPA or latex80g117mm x 46mm x 47mm
chart by author

Manufacturer Warranty: 5 years

Box includes: Womanizer Starlet 3 clitoral simulator, USB charging cable (AC adapter not included), quick start guide, safety instructions

It charges with the included USB charging cable and note, the LED light is in the clitoral stimulating head, and will come on and flash when charging. 30 minutes to charge, 30 minutes of use.

There are two buttons. It’s not rocket science. + turns it on and increases intensity – decreases intensity and also turns it off. Easy peasy.

What are the features of the Womanizer Starlet 3?

Pleasure Air Technology, unique to all Womanizer products, means your clitoris is stimulated without direct contact. Gentle air vibrations suck and massage at the same time, giving you an experience unlike any other toy you’ve experienced. There’s also the beauty of “set it and forget it”. What does that mean? Just settle this toy onto your clitoris and ride the waves of pleasure. This is great for anyone with limited hand mobility or general mobility issues. It’s also helpful for those who’ve found the intensity of other clitoral stimulators on the market to be too much. But don’t worry, the Starlet 3 has more than one setting, in fact, it boasts six intensity levels, so you’re sure to find the right fit for you. Whether you prefer gentle or OMG.

It’s small and handy, with an ergonomic fit for the palm of your hand. Good things really do come in small packages—it’s small enough to fit between two bodies during playtime, too. Since the Starlet 3 is waterproof, you can take your party to the shower, bath, or even the pool and not worry about ruining the fun.

What you really want to know—How does the Womanizer Starlet 3 perform?

I love how easy the Starlet 3 is to use so let me start with that. A lot of sex toys have multiple buttons so one of the first things I do before settling in to use them is get acquainted with all the bells and whistles. Honestly, there’s not much to doing that with this toy, there are two buttons, a plus and minus and they do exactly what you think they would. The plus button is the on button, press it for two seconds and the toy powers on at its lowest setting. Press it again up to six times to cycle through the intensity levels. The minus button will cycle down through the intensity levels, or press it for two seconds to power off.

The silicone head is fairly large and the toy only comes with one, however, you can order other sizes direct from Womanizer if you’d like. Most people find it fits their body, and Womanizer chose to include only one in an effort to make this clitoral stimulator affordable, along with not providing their usual storage bag. What I like about the larger head is the ability to cover a larger surface beyond just my clitoris, but your mileage may vary. All bodies are different.

Although using lubricant is not required, I highly recommend it. You won’t need much, but I’ve found just a bit of water-based lube allows the Pleasure Air Technology to work even better. Wicked Simply Aqua is my favorite to pair with this toy, it’s vegan and paraben free. Just add a few drops to your body and get ready to ride the waves of pleasure.

I was able to orgasm with this toy fairly easily and found I didn’t need to get to the highest level of intensity. The Starlet 3 doesn’t have the added bonus of Afterglow or Smart Silence like it’s more expensive counterparts, the Classic 2 or Premium 2, but it’s also a lot more inexpensive. I also found the body a little slippery (it’s the shinier ABS plastic, versus the more matte “Soft Touch” of the Classic 2) compared to the Classic 2, which I’m also reviewing soon, but again, the price difference between the two is pretty significant.

Overall, it’s a good toy for the price and if you’re in the market for your first clitoral stimulator I would recommend it. I would give it 4 out of 5 stars.

Pros of the Starlet 3Cons of the Starlet 3
InexpensiveNo storage bag
Multiple color choicesSlippery handle
6 intensity levelsOnly one clitoral head
Easy to operateShort battery life
chart by author

Final Thoughts

There are a lot of clitoral stimulators on the market, even within the Womanizer line of toys. Are there better options than the Starlet 3? Yes, however, there are clearly worse options too. For the price point you won’t find a better choice. If you have a bigger budget, and desire more luxury and more options, I would recommend the Womanizer Classic 2, which I’ll be reviewing in a couple of days. But if you would rather have something economical that does the job, you can’t go wrong with the Starlet 3.

This article contains affiliate links. If you treat yourself while shopping, I’ll earn a small commission. Thanks to Betty’s Toy Box for providing the Womanizer Starlet 3 in exchange for an honest review. Use my code DEMI to receive 10 percent off your entire order at Betty’s, where you’ll receive free shipping on orders over $69.

How to Give the Best Oral Sex to Your Partner With a Vulva

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When it comes to oral sex, most folks who indulge in it think they have the best moves down pat. I won’t lie, I’ve been with people who swore they were the best cunnilinguists out there, and they went on to prove themselves worthy of the title. Unfortunately, that’s not the case the majority of the time.

Like anything else you engage in with another person, your mileage may vary. There are things you can do for one person that will have them screaming for more; try it with someone else and they may do all they can to squirm away.

I say all this to say, your moves may have worked on a lot of people, but communicating with your partner will always win the day. That’s the problem with getting into a rut, so to speak. Thinking you have a set of moves perfected, then performing them with every lover you have the pleasure of encountering isn’t how you go about making your partners feel amazing.

There are techniques, however, you can learn to add to your repertoire which may lead your partner to explosive orgasms. And the best way to get started, is by memorizing a map.

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Before you begin any project, you should always be sure you know what you’re working with. Every vulva is different, but the main parts are typically in the same place.

Contrary to popular belief, you’re not ‘eating vagina’, as the vagina is internal. That doesn’t mean you should ignore it, though, once things get going.

The key to exceptional oral sex is paying attention to all the parts that feel pleasure. Some people with vulvas love having their labia (minora and majora) stroked, licked, and maybe even squeezed a little. Others don’t care if you do anything other than hold them out of the way while you go to town on the clitoris.

Pro tip: Let’s do away with the trope that the clitoris is difficult to find. It’s not. Although they are all different shapes and sizes, they are all in the same place.

This is why communication is so important. Keep checking in with your partner while you’re going down on them in the beginning. Yes, sounds and movements help clue you in when you’re doing something right (or not), but asking, “Does that feel good?” goes a long way. Not everyone is comfortable making their pleasure known vocally with sounds. Let’s be better about talking through our pleasure (or displeasure).

One of the biggest mistakes people make when eating pussy is going straight for the clitoris. Sure, you want to give this amazing gland a lot of love, but make your way there slowly. And don’t start with the vulva area at all. Begin kissing your partner in all the other places before you make your way to the finish line.

With that said, the clitoris is a pretty amazing thing. What you see is only a small part of the organ itself. The clitoris extends into the body, with a shaft that’s nine to eleven centimeters long! It boasts more nerve endings than a penis, so it makes sense it’s the center of attention.

Nerdy Science Note: The clitoris wasn’t mapped until 2005.

That also means it’s extra sensitive. Some partners will enjoy direct intense pressure, while others need you to go a little softer. But whatever way your partner enjoys it, do yourself and her a favor and don’t stop when she says, “Don’t stop!”

When your partner tells you not to stop, they’re saying exactly what you’re doing, right that moment, has them on the edge of orgasm. Changing the pressure, the shape of your tongue, or really anything at that moment is a sure fire way to cause them to lose the orgasm.

That’s never a good thing. Unless you’re into edge play, but be sure to discuss that ahead of time!

How to Get Started Giving Oral Sex

  1. Start at the top- No, I don’t mean the top of their pussy. Place soft kisses on their neck, moving downward towards their breasts. Take your time here. There are so many erogenous zones on the breasts you can explore. Be sure to pay equal attention to both mounds!
  2. Keep moving down- At this point, your partner is likely moaning and writhing, so be sure to continue giving pleasure. Teasing is a big part of any kind of foreplay, but you want to show your intentions to please as well. If they’re wearing undies, start kissing their vulva and even licking a bit through the material. It’s a great build up and will leave them wanting more.

The inner thighs are a hot zone for a lot of people, so don’t leave them out. However, if they are ticklish, this may be a no go area until they’re extra turned on. Personally, I’m no longer ticklish at all once I’m raring to go!

  1. The best part- It’s time to remove any barriers and really get down to business (if your partner is okay with this, we’ll talk about this again later). If your partner enjoys sex toys, be sure to have one handy. But don’t try to use it right away, except for some vibration! Most people with vulvas don’t orgasm from penetration alone, but you can always turn it on and buzz your way over the labia and even the clit before giving it all a good tongue lashing.
  2. Forget the alphabet- I see this advice so often and wonder who decided it was a good idea. Spelling the alphabet on your partner’s clit is probably not going to do much for them. It’s incredibly inconsistent. Consistency is important. As mentioned earlier, if they say don’t stop, then don’t stop!

Listening and learning

While you’re licking and sucking your partner’s clitoris, pay attention to how their body is reacting. If you’re not getting much in the way of signs, i.e. they’re not grasping the linens, moving their bottom, breathing faster, etc. then change up what you’re doing.

But most importantly, ask them what they need.

In an ideal world, you will be able to listen and observe your partner’s body as you try different techniques on them, allowing you to see what works and doesn’t.

Some people just won’t like what you’re doing, and that doesn’t mean anything is wrong with them. It just means you need to spend more time getting to know their specific preferences.

If they aren’t sure what they like, try a few different ways to give oral sex and get them to rate how it feels. Don’t take the ratings or directions personally. This is about what they enjoy and isn’t a statement against your sexual prowess.

Some people are quieter than others and may not react much, even when they orgasm. As a result, you may find it near impossible to tell if they are enjoying themselves or not. The only solution is getting some feedback from them. After you go down on them, try asking them about what they enjoyed, what they didn’t enjoy, and what they want you to do differently.

A note about using barriers while giving oral sex

Safer sex is never a bad thing. Folks don’t always consider using a barrier when performing oral sex, it’s not something we think about as often as we do using a condom for penetrative sex. But have you ever tried to use a dental dam? They’re awkward, the shift around, and let’s face it, they aren’t sexy. Let me tell you about Lorals, FDA cleared for STI protection, sexy undies for oral.

Available in black if you want to keep it mysterious and now, sheer if you’re ready to bare it all, Lorals provide a barrier between your body and your partner for any kind of oral sex you want to get into. They protect but they don’t keep you from experiencing the same pleasure you would without being in place. And, if oral while on your period has always been a no-no for you (we don’t judge either way!) Lorals provides a barrier to allow you to feel comfortable for that, too.

The Bottom Line

Orgasm doesn’t have to be the goal when giving oral sex. It’s wonderful if you get there, but unless this is the only sex act you’ll be doing for the night, it’s just a warm up for more. When you go into licking pussy with the idea you must get your partner off, it puts pressure on you both to perform.

Enjoy it for the appetizer it is and make your partner feel good. In the end, your attention and listening to their body and words will take you further than you’ve been before.

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Why You Should Be Using Lube and Which Types

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There are a ton of brands of lube on the market today, so it can be difficult to know exactly what type you should be using for your adult fun. First, let’s get the shame out of the way, shall we? There shouldn’t be any. I remember the first time I brought up using lube in the bedroom. I hadn’t been married to my first husband for very long and I was pretty young, not quite 21 years old. Back then, I couldn’t express why I was having issues with self lubrication, but now I can tell you it probably had a lot to do with stress. Regardless of why, adding a little wetness from a bottle should never have been an issue, but apparently, according to him, it was.

He made me feel like I shouldn’t need it and even asking about it was a personal affront to him. Guys, don’t do this, ever. If your partner says they want to use lube or even if they don’t, and they break out the bottle during sexy time, go with it. Lube, just like sex toys, is a bonus feature in the bedroom, not something to be shamed about. It enhances things, it doesn’t take away from a damn thing.

It’s 2023 and I really feel like I shouldn’t have to make this statement but using lube is absolutely necessary when doing anything anal, just in case you weren’t aware. The anus is not self lubricating. Just putting that out there.

What types of lube are there?

Water based lube

When you think of using lube, water based lube is what probably comes to mind first. It’s the most basic lube available and literally goes with everything. You can use it with all of your sex toys, it’s compatible with latex condoms, and it’s typically available at your local drugstore. But be aware, not all water based lubes are created equal and there are some ingredients you’re going to want to avoid.

Remember: Your skin is an organ! Any product you use on your body gets absorbed into your body.

Ingredients to Avoid: Parabens (synthetic preservative that mimics estrogen), Glycerin (can cause yeast infections and UTIs if you are prone to them, if not, then this is fine. It is widely used in lubricants so it’s difficult to avoid), benzocaine (a numbing agent, we’ll talk more about this later), Propylene glycol (this is an ingredient in antifreeze!), Nonoxynol-9 (this is a spermicide that can lead to BV in some women, as it kills the good bacteria in your vagina).

My favorite water based lubricants also have ingredients that moisturize and don’t leave a sticky residue. Since they are water based, they don’t always have a ton of staying power, but the good news is, adding just a few drops of water reactivates the lube and you’re good to go!

Demeter’s Water Based Lube Recommendations

Gleam by Velvet Co–Formulated using purely sea-kelp-based glycerin, this top-selling lubricant is designed to provide a silky smooth, and comforting glide with no sticky or tacky residue. Sea kelp based glycerol is excellent for skin that is prone to dry irritating conditions. The sea kelp provides Omega 3 which soothes and softens, reducing sensitivity.

Sliquid Naturals Satin–Moisturizes with aloe, carageenan, and vitamin E, it doubles as a long-lasting lube. You can use it daily for relief from vaginal dryness. Cruelty free and vegan.

Sliquid Naturals Sassy–Formulated for anal play, but definitely can be used for any type of play, this extra cushiony water based lube is never tested on animals and vegan. No scent, no taste, glycerin-free and paraben-free.

Pros of Water Based Lube:

  • It doesn’t stain your sheets
  • Washes off easily in water
  • Compatible with sex toys/condoms

Cons of Water Based Lube:

  • May not be thick enough/long-lasting enough for anal/long sex sessions.
  • Some people find it to be too sticky.

Silicone based lube

If you have sensitive skin or you really enjoy having sex in the shower, silicone lube is a great option for you. One of the pros of water based lube is that it washes away easily with water, but that’s a con if you’re having a good time in the bath or shower–but with silicone lube, that’s not a problem. It stays put and has the added bonus of leaving your skin feeling pretty amazing. It’s also compatible with latex condoms. It is not, however, compatible with your silicone sex toys, as it can erode them and cause damage, leaving them susceptible to bacteria, which is never a good thing.

Silicone lube is also fantastic for anal play, but remember, if you’re going to be incorporating a toy, be sure it’s not a silicone one (or cover it with a condom just to be on the safe side).

Demeter’s Silicone Lube Recommendations

Wicked Sensual Care Ultra–Sensuous and long lasting, it feels silky smooth on your skin. Paraben free. Never sticky. No aftertaste. Vegan no animal by products or testing, Made in the USA, glycerin free, Propylene glycol free. Use code DEMI to get 10 percent off when shopping at Betty’s.

JO Premium Original–Their original silicone lubricant, paraben and glycerin free, buttery smooth with a soft finish, won’t wash away easily in water, and compatible with most toys. This lube is condom friendly (not with polyurethane) and is FDA licensed. Use code DEMI10 to receive 10 percent off anything you purchase from the JO store when you shop.

Pros of Silicone Lube:

  • Good for sensitive skin
  • Long lasting
  • Made with high quality ingredients
  • Safe to use with most condoms

Cons of silicone lube:

  • Not safe to use with most silicone sex toys

Hybrid Lubes

So is there an in-between? Of course there is. If you really like the pros of water based lubes but also want some staying power of silicone lubes–but you want to be able to use it with your silicone toys, then hybrid lube is going to be your new best friend. It’s really the best of both worlds. You can use it with toys, condoms, in the shower, the tub, for anal, not have to worry about re-applying very often, and for the most part it doesn’t stain (though it can, so I would still recommend putting down something like The Layer or Liberator Throw just in case)

Demeter’s Hybrid Lube Recommendations

Wicked Sensual Care Hybrid–A water and silicone hybrid, unscented and flavor free, super silky water based lube that is easy to clean as well as toy and latex friendly, blended in harmony with a rich bodied silicone that lasts and lasts. This fusion hybrid lube is an excellent choice for all types of play. Use code DEMI to get 10 percent off when shopping at Betty’s.

Sliquid Silk–Sliquid is one of my favorite lubes, so it’s no wonder their hybrid makes the list. A water and silicone mix, glycerin free and paraben free, hypoallergenic and non-toxic. Uniquely blended to emulate your body’s own natural lubrication. Use code DEMI to get 10 percent off when shopping at Betty’s.

Pros of Hybrid Lube:

  • Best of both worlds (all the pros of water and silicone based lubes)
  • Safe for use with all your sex toys
  • Safe for use with latex condoms
  • Long lasting (washes off easier in water than regular silicone lube, but not as easy as regular water based lube)

Cons of Hybrid Lube:

  • Not quite as long lasting as straight silicone lube
  • Doesn’t wash off as easily as water based lube

Oil based lubes with and without CBD

I’ll admit, oil based lube wasn’t even on my radar until a couple of years ago, unless you counted baby oil. Let’s not talk about that (don’t use baby oil as lube). We live and learn, right?

Then I was introduced to Foria and I’ve never looked back. Their CBD infused oil based lubricant and arousal oils have been a game changer for me and I am happy to tell everyone I know about them. For those who would rather not have CBD in their oil, they have a line of botanical infused oils as well, CBD free. Today, they’ve announced the release of a study with astounding results surrounding their melts product, a fast acting CBD suppository, designed to help lubricate and ease tension.

  • 95% of women found that Foria’s Intimacy Melts (fast-acting CBD suppositories designed to help lubricate and ease tension) increased internal glide during penetration
  • 92% of participants experienced increased pleasure while using Intimacy Melts
  • The study also found a statistically significant improvement in participants’ ability to achieve relaxation during sex following the use of the Intimacy Melts

I can personally attest to these results. I’ve been using the melts for over a year now and can’t imagine not using them on a regular basis. One thing to note with any oil based lubricant is, they’re not compatible with latex condoms. In theory, lambskin should be okay with oil based lube, but always check the packaging of the condom to be sure.

Demeter’s Oil Based Lube Recommendations

Foria Sex Oil with CBD–With just two clean ingredients – 400mg broad-spectrum CBD and organic coconut oil – it’s designed to provide all-natural lubrication, ease discomfort, enhance arousal, and assist with penetration both vaginally and anally.

Coconu Oil Based Lube–Coconu is a natural, coconut oil-based lubricant that’s silky smooth, non-sticky and safe for toys. If you want natural ingredients, no parabens, petroleum or glycerin, then Coconu is the right choice for you.

Pros of Oil Based Lube:

  • Can also be used as massage oil
  • Long lasting
  • Can help ease tension (if it contains CBD)

Cons of Oil Based Lube:

  • Staining
  • Can’t be used with condoms

Flavored Lubes

When giving oral, flavored lubes can really up your game. They not only add lubrication but making your partner taste even more delicious can encourage you to go for broke. Companies like Wicked Sensual Care have so many varieties to choose from–don’t limit yourself to only using one, you can mix and match multiple flavors to create a combination that tickles your fancy. One of my favorites is combining brown sugar and peach–it tastes like peach cobbler!

Demeter’s Flavored Lube Recommendations

Wicked Sensual Care Mango–Any of the flavored lubes in Wicked Sensual Care’s line are great, but the Mango is probably my favorite overall. Use code DEMI to receive 10 percent off your order.

JO Sweet and Bubbly–This set features Champagne and Chocolate Covered Strawberry, which you can combine for a real treat. Use code DEMI10 to receive 10 percent off your order.

JO Champagne and Red Velvet Cake–Featuring a Champagne and Red Velvet Cake, can be used separately or together for a different take on sweet and bubbly. Part of their 20 year anniversary collection. Use code DEMI10 to receive 10 percent off your order.

Bonus Lube Recommendation

Pulse is a lube warming system I just adore. When you purchase your warmer, you can choose water based, oil based, and/or massage oil. How cool is that? As much as I love my bottles of different lubes for various purposes, one of the best things I ever did for myself was invest in this system. When using lube, it can be a shock to your body when it’s cold–almost as much as rolling over into the wet spot! I don’t use it all the time, but when I want to treat myself, especially during self-care sessions, I definitely reach for the lube from Pulse.

When should you be using lube?

Whenever the hell you want to.

Beyond that, using lube every time you have sex can make things slicker, more fun, and just plain sexier. Something I learned only a few years ago when I got into sex education was using lube more frequently while giving oral (and receiving!) can be so fun and make things go down a lot easier. Pun fully intended.

Using lube when you’re masturbating is also fantastic, whether you’re incorporating toys into your play or not. Wetter is always better and when you’re engaging in solo play, why not romance yourself? The stress of the day can cause vaginal dryness, but that doesn’t mean you’re not turned on, so adding lubricant can aid in bringing you pleasure instead of focusing on anxiety about whether you’re really in the mood or not.

There are many reasons why our bodies may not produce enough natural lubrication. Let’s do away with the idea that just because we aren’t wet doesn’t mean we aren’t sexually excited, because that simply may not be the case. Certain medications, stress, and illness can all lead to lack of lubrication–all things that using lube can easily correct.

We need to change the narrative around using lube. There’s no reason to be ashamed about it, using lube is normal and does nothing but add to the fun.

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Why the Fun Factory Bootie Fem is My New Favorite Butt Plug

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Butts are great. We all have them and if you do things right when it comes to preparation, booty play can be truly orgasmic. Time, lube, and patience are your three amigos. Personally, I like to add toys to the mix any time the opportunity arises. When it comes to anal play, butt plugs are one of my favorite ways to do this. Butt plugs don’t have to be gendered by any means, but let’s face it, there are a lot of male centered versions on the market that target the p-spot. While that’s awesome, where are plugs for vulva owners? Don’t worry, Fun Factory has entered the chat with the Bootie Fem.

What is the Fun Factory Bootie Fem?

Bootie Fem is a specially designed butt plug, just for vulva owners. The tulip design is not only pretty, it’s practical–providing a lube channel for easier insertion. It’s perfect for beginners to anal play with its slim design, measuring just 1.14 inches at its widest point, and has an asymmetrical base making it comfortable to wear during vaginal penetration.

Specs of the Bootie Fem/What’s in the Box

The Bootie Fem is a discreet, medical grade silicone butt plug by Fun Factory. It’s available in two colors, rose and dark taupe (which I would call purple) and one size only. It’s non-porous, hypoallergenic, and easy to clean. You can boil it if you’d like and dry, or just wash with soap and water. It comes in a recyclable box, with the toy, instructions for use, and some fun suggestions/games for you and your partner if you’d like to try.

This is considered a beginner butt plug as it’s on the small side, 3.34 inches in length and only 1.14 inches at its widest point. But don’t let that stop you from grabbing one if you’re a more advanced anal enthusiast. The shape of this plug does something intriguing for PiV (penis in vagina) play (or any type of insertion in vagina) because of its design.

What it’s Like Using the Fun Factory Bootie Fem

Let’s get to why you’re really here. How is using this pretty butt plug any different than a traditional plug? That’s exactly what I wanted to know when I was first approached. I’ll admit, I’m a sucker for a gimmick, but only if it actually does what it says it will. So, does the Bootie Fem really temporarily change the shape of the vaginal canal for PiV sex? Can it guide your partner’s penis or a dildo to your g-spot?

Yes, yes it can.

Not everyone enjoys g-spot stimulation, but thankfully I am one of those people who absolutely does. It’s one of the surest ways to make me squirt, which is something else I’m a huge fan of. Using this adorable little butt plug was a no brainer for me if that was on the table, so of course I said yes to receiving one in exchange for an honest review.

Plus, I really enjoy anal play.

I don’t currently have a local partner but that doesn’t mean I can’t enjoy using a butt plug during masturbation and also incorporate a dildo for some PiV fun, so that’s exactly what I did. Thanks to Betty’s Toy Box, I have a lovely sex stool that makes it much easier to accomplish this feat.

Using lube is 100 percent required when engaging in anal play. Since the Bootie Fem is a silicone toy, you’ll want to use a water based or hybrid lube–I like Sliquid Sassy because it’s thick and water based, but their Silk (hybrid) is great too and safe to use with all Fun Factory toys.

The lube channels in the top of the tulip design of the Bootie Fem are great, they capture the lube and make it easier for you to slide the plug into place. If you’re new to butt play especially, take some time to relax first. Romance yourself. And hey, having an orgasm (or three) beforehand never hurt anyone.

I decided to go all in for my first play session with this toy and incorporate a dildo (I used the Limba Flex in medium), my magic wand mini, and the plug. Go big or go home, right? After inserting the Bootie Fem, I was ready to ride the Limba which I’d already attached to my sex stool ahead of time. I love that the base of the plug is asymmetrical, that’s definitely been an issue in the past with other butt plugs and vaginal penetration. It doesn’t stop it from happening, it just makes it a little more of a pain in the ass–pun intended.

Slowly sliding onto the dildo, I could tell a little difference in how it felt entering my body once compared to normal. I wouldn’t say it was a huge change, but it was enough to notice. I chose the Limba Flex because it’s guaranteed to hit my g-spot when I thrust in and out during masturbation, so I knew it would be a great dildo to use for this experiment. It was definitely a great choice, thanks to the plug pressing against my canal and guiding the dildo towards my g-spot even more, and being hands-free, I was able to use the wand to stimulate my clit and get the full range of pleasure I was hoping for.

I won’t lie. I had my first orgasm pretty damn quickly with all the stimulation I had going on but I wasn’t anywhere near ready to stop. Having the ability to ride the dildo as hard and fast as I wanted to allowed me to not only control the depth and pressure at which I was being pounded, it also let me edge myself with the wand. And, I could even hold it on my clit and make an orgasm go on and on long after it could have been over. When I have a feeling of fullness and I’m being made to squirt, adding a clitoral orgasm to the mix just puts me over the top, so this play session was really just beyond and I can’t find anything to complain about.

Pros and Cons of the Bootie Fem

You’ve read all the pros of this cute little butt plug and to be fair the only con I can come up with is personal–I would love for Fun Factory to offer it in a larger size at some point. I love that it’s for beginners and am glad they’re offering this discreet size at launch, but I think there are others out there, like me, who love anal play and would really enjoy the option to have a larger size available. It would also be nice to have less feminine color options available as well. Just because someone has a vulva doesn’t mean they identify as female and these colors are pretty feminine. Otherwise, this toy is pretty damn perfect.

If you’re ready to get your Bootie Fem, head on over to Fun Factory and grab yours today. Right now, they’re 20 percent off, along with a ton of other items during their Valentine’s Day Sale, going on now through February 14th. Links in this post are affiliate links, so if you treat yourself to anything while you shop, I may earn a small commission at no additional cost to you.

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