Sex toys have often been considered a solo adventure, especially for women. Using sex toys as a couple is a conversation that can be awkward for some, but well worth the results. When it comes to our pleasure, being open-minded is not a bad thing.

A few months ago, I learned through experimentation, my husband enjoys having certain toys used on him. There’s never been an issue bringing toys into bed with us, other than lack of toys, but he never expressed interest in having one for himself.

When Sex Toys and Your Man Are a Great Combination

I gave my first hand-job to completion to my husband back in October and added my vibrating bullet to the mix. While using my hand on his shaft, I placed the bullet under his testicles. It was a clear winner. Lots of lube, slippery hand up and down the shaft (paying lots of attention to the head) and a vibrator on his testicles was the perfect combination for ejaculation.

It wasn’t long after the epic hand-job we had our first experience together using a toy, on him, internally.

The same vibrating bullet from our first toy run came into play again. It’s the first time my husband ever had anything larger than a finger inserted in his anus.

After five years of being together and learning he won’t be judged, he was finally able to let go and experience the pleasure he’s desired.

Stepping Up Our Game With a Vibrating Wand

Since our first experiences, we’ve been lucky enough to add more toys to our collection. Being asked to review toys has been a blessing for many reasons, not the least of which is bulking up our collection and learning what toys we do and don’t like.

We have an awesome inflatable that’s become a go-to anytime we break out the toys. I can use it on him or he can use it on me. My favorite is using it to stimulate his p-spot. I love the orgasm this causes and the look of sheer ecstasy on his face.

Recently, we got a new vibrating wand to try. I’ll admit, I was a bit leery as I own a wand already. I wasn’t sure what owning two wands would do for me, but I was willing to try.

We’ve been due a toy night, so last night was the perfect time to test out our newest addition to the toy family.

Hubby requested to be tied up, so who am I to deny such a lovely request?

After trussing him up, I wanted to tease him a bit. He loves to tease me and make me wait and I wanted to return the favor, when he wasn’t able to do anything about it.

Yes, I’m evil.

Starting with our newest toy, the  mushroom head vibrating wand , I turned it on and ran it over his thighs. The first thing I noticed is the strength of the vibrations. Holding it in your hand, it feels like it might be too much. It does have seven different settings and I flipped through them all to test them out.

Now, personally, I’m not a big fan of the changing patterns for myself. It’s frustrating when you’re trying to get off to have the pattern and intensity changed. If we’re playing and not going straight for the O, then it’s awesome. But if I’m using it alone, I go for the single pattern vibration.

Once you place the toy on the body, the vibrations are diffused. Hubby said it felt fantastic across his entire cock and balls. I have to agree, as he was attempting to break the restraints to buck off the bed.

Taking Teasing to Pleasing

I had my fun teasing with the vibrating wand and decided to add oral to the mix. That’s always a winning combination and this time was no different. It wasn’t long before he was ready to come out of the restraints and get down to more fun.

Taking matters into my own hands again, I rode cowgirl for a while before letting him have his way with me.

It was time to let him test the vibrating wand on myself, so I could see just how great it is.

The large surface of the wand’s end covers a lot of area. I love how it covers my entire clit and the area around it, giving good targeted vibrations.

It’s curved shape fits easily in your hand and the curves of your body making it easy to hold while getting the pleasure you desire.

Due to the shape, it’s perfect for holding between your bodies while having missionary sex. It also worked well in doggy and cowgirl.

The Final O

After more orgasms than I can count, it was time to call it a night. Our new toy is an awesome new addition to our toy collection and definitely goes on top. We love that we can both enjoy it and use it in different positions. The curved shape makes it easy to hold without causing discomfort over time to your hand and the large head gives you diffused vibration over your body.

Talking about what you want with your partner makes your time together so much more fun. You’re in for the adventure of a lifetime when you have an open-minded partner. Don’t let societal pressures and expectations stop you from getting everything you both desire.

Originally posted on Medium.





Tztoyz recently contacted me and asked if I would be willing to test their newest product in exchange for an honest review. Well, you guys know me, of course I said yes!

I’ll admit, there were a couple of things I was a bit leery of to start with. It’s been years since I owned a straight up dildo. Lately, I’ve been a lot more interested in toys with more of a bang, so to speak.

This medical grade silicone, realistic dildo is the real deal, though. It measures a whopping 8.6 inches total length (which includes the ‘eggs’ as they’re labeled), with an insertable length of 6.3 inches.

That was my second concern. This is a lot bigger than what I prefer. But I figured hey, I’m in control of this bad boy, I don’t have to use the whole thing!

The Look and Feel of a Realistic Dildo

Unlike a lot of so called realistic dildos on the market, this item looks and feels like the real thing. It’s soft, yet has a hard core, has realistic veins, is well shaped, and even has balls…I mean, ‘eggs’.

And it has a suction cup, which doubles as a base for your strap-on needs.

The suction cup has good grip. I tested it first, without actually playing with the toy, by wetting the cup just a bit, and sticking it to the wall in my bathroom. It stayed where I placed it for 30 minutes before sliding down the wall.

Then, came the REAL test.

Would it hold up to actual use?

Yes, yes it does.

After washing with mild soap and warm water, it was time to do the actual testing. Be sure to have lots of silicone safe lube on hand.

Doggy style seemed like the perfect position to test my new friend. Thankfully, my bed is against a wall and isn’t impeded by a headboard!

Be sure to attach your new friend to the surface of your choice before coating it in lube; makes things much less slippery! Learn from my mistakes, folks.

This position allowed me to control the depth of insertion and be hands free so I could use a vibrating toy on other sensitive areas.

Worked like a charm.

The toy stayed where it was placed with no issues and felt just like the real thing.

Clean-up is easy, just wash well with mild soap and warm water. I like easy. Hell, I am easy.

Not one to keep my toys to myself, the next time I took out this large and in charge boy, I did it with my husband. We’ve been having a lot of fun recently toying (pun intended) with the idea of adding a third body to the mix. What better way to try it out than without the actual body?

The Bottom Line

We’ve learned this giant is a vaginal only toy for me, I’ve not quite worked up the nerve to insert it anally. Yet. Trust me, it will likely happen. I love how realistic it feels, especially when we’re using it together. It gives you a great idea of how it would feel to be double penetrated.


Tztoyz provided this item to me in exchange for an honest review. Links are affiliate links, so not only do you get a quality item, you help support my writing in the process!


This wearable g spot vibrator has it all. It’s waterproof, with a 60 degree curved design to fit perfectly in your vagina for g-spot stimulation. With 10 vibration modes, you’re sure to find the pattern you need. And it comes with a remote control.

Made of medical soft silicone material, it’s safe and non-toxic while also being odorless and skin friendly.

No batteries required! It charges with USB charging, cable included, and takes approximately 2 hours to charge fully. It does come with a bit of a charge so you can wash and wear.

After cleaning with warm water and mild soap, I added a bit of silicone safe lubricant and slid it inside. I handed my husband the remote and laid back to enjoy some good vibrations!

How Does the Wearable G Spot Vibrator Feel?

Oh boy! There are lower frequencies for those who are sensitive, but I preferred the higher ones, since this is for internal stimulation. The outer part sits on the outside of the vagina, depending on your shape you may get some clitoral stimulation too.

The description on Best Vibe’s site states this is a 3 in 1 toy, to stimulate the g-spot, clitoris, and anus. This is really going to depend on the shape of your body. For me, there really wasn’t a lot of clitoral stimulation at all, as the piece on the vibrator that’s supposed to cover the clitoris doesn’t.

I did enjoy the rumbling vibrations internally, which gave me some stimulation anally while being penetrated. Although, admittedly, it’s no different than using any other type of penetrative toy in that regard.

Overall, it’s a fun toy for couple’s play or playing alone. It does get slippery, so I would recommend using the least amount of lube possible for best results.

The Bottom Line

After testing this wearable g spot vibrator initially, then going back to it a couple of times since, I admit, it’s sat unused in my toy drawer. Although it is fun and novel, it does not pack enough punch to be in my regular rotation. If a wearable is intriguing to you, then I would highly recommend it. However, if you just enjoy using your sex toys when you’re in bed, this isn’t going to be the toy for you.

I give it 3 out of 5 stars.


Best Vibe provided this toy to me, free of charge, in exchange for an honest review.