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FUN FACTORY VIM Review–It’s Out of This World

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There are a lot of wands on the market today, but the most well known will always be the Magic Wand–so much so, most people refer to almost every wand as a Magic Wand. This is known as a “generic trademark”, something we all commonly do, such as calling all facial tissues Kleenex, all copy machines Xerox, etc. It’s a bad habit we should probably break, but I’ll admit, I’m guilty of doing it myself! But after using the Fun Factory VIM, I may just start referring to all wands as a VIM.

What is the FUN FACTORY VIM?

It’s no secret FUN FACTORY is one of my favorite companies, for good reason. Their toys are well made, they’re an ethical company, and they’re great to work with–and VIM is no different. The FUN FACTORY VIM is the world’s first weighted rumble wand–but what does that mean, exactly? The motor is uniquely weighted, so it provides rumbling vibration no matter what speed you choose, unlike other wands that may be buzzy at lower levels of vibration. Some users never reach the top levels on a wand, they find them to be too much, so they may not get the rumbling tones some users know and love.

Don’t fret, if you’re sensitive and enjoy lower settings, you will love VIM and be able to get that rumble even at the very first level of fun. FUN FACTORY is well known for their rumbling toys, and this wand is no different in that regard, but note, this motor is new and not featured in any of their other items.

Speaking of levels, let’s talk about the settings. Going back to that ever popular Magic Wand, the original has two settings, low and Jesus Roosevelt Christ. Now, I’m not really that sensitive, but I’ll admit, it’s a rare occasion that I can hit JRC on my original MW. I would love to have somewhere in between. I also own a mini Magic Wand and was oh so thankful for the upgrade to more choices in settings. But with the FUN FACTORY VIM, the choices became even more amazing.

The toy’s thudding vibration is unique and travels below the surface for deeper pleasure. Which really surprised me. I’ve found with other wands, and trust me, I own a number of them beyond the MW, even when I press them hard against my body, I don’t really get much sensation beyond the surface, but with VIM, the vibration goes deeper and really travels to the clitoral nerves beneath, giving sensations I haven’t felt before except when I’ve used internal G-spot toys coupled with clitoral stimulation. It’s pretty awesome.

The FUN FACTORY VIM is programmed for you with three settings, Deep Orgasm (press the + button six times), Intense Orgasm (press the + button seven times), and Edging Program (press the + button eight times). Or you can use + button to increase the speed from one-five.

What are the programs like?

Deep Orgasm–is a rumbly program that starts with light vibration and builds up to the maximum setting. Really, it does all the work for you. This would be great for when you’re not in a hurry and want to romance yourself, but not engage in edging.

Intense Orgasm–Want a quickie? This is fast and powerful. And let me tell you, it’s no joke. I made the “mistake” of trying this setting first, and I made a huge mess! I thought I would cum quickly, but I also thought I wouldn’t squirt. I kept my panties on, and let’s just say, they had to go in the laundry and I ended up having to change the sheets on my bed because I didn’t prepare properly. But I did it again immediately!

Edging–Builds in intensity and then drops off, again and again, reaching higher heights until you climax. I tried this setting for about an hour, teasing myself until I couldn’t stand it any longer. It was a lot of fun and I could see this being even more exciting to use with a partner.

Settings one-five–As you’d expect, they go from gentle rumbling vibrations to powerful. The lowest setting is probably the most gentle vibration I’ve ever felt from a wand, yet, it is still rumbling not buzzy at all. And it is absolutely the quietest wand I’ve ever used. According to FUN FACTORY it is 50 percent quieter than the leading wand on the market. I did a test video and posted it on You Tube, through all the settings so you can hear and will share it here. Setting five is quite intense, and so far, I haven’t been able to use it for more than a few seconds directly on my clit, but I do enjoy it when I’m using the wand as a massager on other parts of my body!

Box with VIM and other items
Fun Factory VIM

What comes with FUN FACTORY VIM

You’ll notice my photo has some extra goodies, but I received a special box since I agreed to test VIM in exchange for providing an honest review. If you order your own, you’ll get VIM, a magnetic charging cable (no block), a Yes/No/Maybe List to fill out with your partner, a booklet with operating instructions, care directions, and a flirt or dare game to inspire your play.

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Using the FUN FACTORY VIM

The FUN FACTORY VIM comes in two beautiful colors, Sunrise Orange or Midnight Blue. I was a little sad I didn’t get the blue, as it’s my favorite color, but the orange is truly stunning, and I’ll be frank, I really won’t ever have to worry about losing it! Not that it’s ever going in the toy cabinet, it gets to live on the table next to my bed for all time.

One of the coolest features I wasn’t even sure would be pertinent to me at first are the grooves in the head of VIM. Why? They hold lube so perfectly. I’ll admit, I’ve never really used lube with a wand before. Typically, I use my wands over my clothing. They just vibrate so powerfully, I find I can’t use them directly on my clit, so I don’t need to use lube. But since VIM has these built in channels or grooves on the head, I decided I would give it a shot.

Since VIM also has a much lower setting than traditional wands, I knew using it without the clothing barrier would go over much better, well, after my initial trial on goddess mode aka the Intense Orgasm program. Since VIM is made of body safe silicone, be sure you’re not using a silicone based lubricant. You can choose something like Coconu’s Water Based lubricant or even an oil based product like Foria’s Awaken Arousal Oil with CBD to enhance your sensations even further. Just be sure if you plan to use a latex condom later on, you’re aware oil based products are not compatible with condoms.

My preferred way of using VIM I’ve found is on the Deep Orgasm program setting. It’s nice to treat yourself and take some time coming to your orgasm over time, but not necessarily edging yourself–unless that’s your thing. It’s not really mine, but to each their own. I like engaging in edging with a partner, just not so much on my own, which sadly, I am more often than not these days.

I found VIM fits quite nicely in two of the three pockets of my Liberator Pulse, so I can slip it in whichever one I choose, push the mount against the head of my bed and have a totally hands-free experience. This is great for me because I have some mobility issues and even though VIM is really light-weight (34 percent lighter than the average wand), sometimes, my hands don’t want to cooperate and my arms get tired even at the beginning of playtime, and that’s never fun. Plus, it’s hot to grind on the toy to get off.

For the most part though, I hold VIM in both hands, and press down hard, taking full advantage of the bendable head, and allow the rumbling vibrations to travel throughout my body. Bonus, those vibrations do not travel down the handle at all. They stay focused in the head and to your body, where they belong.

Want a quickie? VIM has you covered. As I briefly mentioned earlier, the Intense Orgasm program will bring you to your knees, and for me, is a guaranteed way to squirt, no internal stimulation necessary! Although I tried it later, using my favorite FUN FACTORY vibrator, Big Boss, in my vagina and VIM on my clitoris and holy fuck. I’m pretty sure my neighbors heard that screaming orgasm. I’m glad I prepped for that session, because I didn’t have any more clean sheets.

You can get your very own FUN FACTORY VIM direct from the company for $169 with free shipping. If you shop using my links, you’ll not only get a quality product, you’ll also be supporting my work and I’ll earn a small commission.

This article contains affiliate links to other companies as well, and I may earn a small commission if you treat yourself to their products. If you shop at Betty’s Toy Box (Liberator Link) and use my code DEMI, you’ll get 10 percent off your entire order.

If You’re Looking For the Best Rabbit Vibrator Compare These

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Fun Factory Lady Bi
Fun Factory Miss Bi

Rabbit vibrators are one of the most recognizable sex toys available. This is owing in part to their coverage on shows like Sex and the City as far back as the late 90s. If you watched the show, you may remember the episode, The Turtle and the Hare where Miranda lends Charlotte her rabbit. While clearly, they couldn’t show exactly what happened, it was pretty obvious based on the fact that Charlotte didn’t want to leave the house, a grand time was had. I guess you could say she found the best rabbit vibrator for her.

Sex toys in general have come a long way since 1998, thankfully. And we have a lot more choices now, which can sometimes be overwhelming. If you’re looking for the best rabbit vibrator out there, you may find multiple choices even within one company, but don’t worry, I’m going to narrow down the choices for you and help you out.

Which is the Best Rabbit Vibrator? Miss Bi or Lady Bi?

Fun Factory has some of the best sex toys on the market, hands down. Their powerful, rumbly motors, ergonomic handles, and easy to navigate controls make their toys well worth owning. So it stands to reason, if you’re looking for the best rabbit vibrator, they’re a great choice. But which one should you choose? Well, it depends on your body and how you like to receive your pleasure. Let’s break down the specifications of each of their rabbit vibrators so you can decide for yourself.

Fun Factory Miss Bi Specifications

  • Two strong motors for customizable sensations
  • Designed to hug the clit & G-spot
  • Flexible clitoral arm adapts to any body
  • Girthy in the right places
  • Save your favorite vibration setting

One thing I hear a lot from folks when they’re talking about rabbit vibrators is they want to be able to control the vibrations separately, from the internal arm and the clitoral arm. Fun Factory has you covered. Personally, I enjoy more vibrations internally and a little less on my clit, so being able to adjust these vibrations my way makes all the difference.

I also love how flexible the clitoral arm is and the width. Too often this piece on a rabbit is so narrow it gives pinpoint vibrations to my clit and that is just not the kind of stimulation I need. It’s too much and takes me out of the headspace I need to be in. The shape of the clitoral arm allows the rumbling vibration to be dispersed which is a much better feeling.

The base is super-girthy, too, to please your sensitive vaginal opening. With minimal stroking, rubbing, or thrusting, you can get maximum pleasure. One thing I do hear a lot is how “short” Miss Bi is. Fun Factory based the length on tester feedback. People stated they craved more girth, a shorter length, and a pronounced G-spot curve. And, it’s anal safe. That clitoral arm? Feels pretty damn fantastic tickling the perineum.

Right now, when you add Miss Bi to your cart, you’ll see a 20 percent discount through 3/29/2023 when you buy from Fun Factory.

Fun Factory Lady Bi Specifications

  • Two super-strong, rumbling motors
  • Hits the clit and the a-spot, getting you extra turned on and lubed up
  • Designed to satisfy the size queen who wants it all
  • Firm-yet-flexible silicone for perfect pressure
  • Easy-control (even with lube hands!) loop handle

Calling size queens! If you want a longer insertable length, Lady Bi may be the better choice for you. If you want to be wetter, more turned on, and to experience deeper sensations than ever before, then you want a long, strong vibe that’s going to hit your a-spot, the area close to the cervix that has been shown to increase arousal. Obviously all bodies are different, so this vibe may not hit that spot for you, and angles do matter.

Like the Miss Bi, the Lady Bi also has two powerful, rumbling motors, in a design that’s long and firm, for size lovers who crave dual stimulation. Need firmer pressure on your clit to get you where you’re going? They adapted their signature FlexiFUN Technology™ to make Lady Bi flexible-but-not-too-flexible, so you can enjoy a more intense pressure from a shaft that adapts to your motion. Plus, the length gives you more options for play, whether that means vibrating the arousal-triggering a-spot or simply having greater mobility.

If you want to know more about A-spot stimulation and how it can work for you, I highly recommend reading up on it from my dear friend, Cy over on her blog at Super Smash Cache. She is the A-spot Queen.

Comparing the Lady Bi and Miss Bi side by side

Rabbit vibrator
Power TypeMovementDimensionsBattery LifeCharging Time
Miss BiUSB rechargeable with included charger6 speeds and 6 patternsInsertable length: 3.15 in External vibrator length: 1.38 in
30-60 min6-8 hours
Lady BiUSB rechargeable with included charger6 speeds and 6 patternsInsertable length: 4.5 in
External vibrator length: 1.97 in		30-60 min6-8 hours

Final Thoughts

So which is the best rabbit vibrator? That’s up to you and your body. Personally, I enjoy them both depending on what kind of pleasure I am seeking that day. The Lady Bi feels fantastic when I want a deeper penetration and to make myself squirt more easily. The Miss Bi is perfect when I want more girth at the vaginal opening and a more dispersed rumbling vibration across my entire clit. Plus, I have found it’s really fun to use anally, too. You can also use Lady Bi anally, they’re both anal safe.

This article contains affiliate links, so when you treat yourself while shopping at Fun Factory, I may earn a small commission. Right now, through 3/29/2023 when you add Miss Bi to your cart, you’ll receive 20 percent off.

Womanizer Classic 2 Review–A Popular Classic Is Renewed

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Womanizer Classic 2

The ever popular Womanizer Classic has gotten an upgrade, now the Classic 2, read on to see how Womanizer took one of their iconic designs and made it even better.

The Womanizer Classic is one of the most popular toys in Womanizer’s line of iconic toys and I was excited to see it get an upgrade. The Classic 2 is an updated version of the original can be considered an essential to your bedroom. If you’re new to clitoral stimulators, this toy is a pressure wave stimulator, using Womanizer’s patented Pleasure Air technology, the same as their Starlet 3 that I recently reviewed. However, this model is a much nicer toy and the price point and added features reflect that.

What’s improved from the Classic to the Classic 2?

The size is approximately the same, both models are what’s considered full size pressure wave toys with comfortable handles and a sleek design. The Classic 2 now has 10 intensity levels, an increase from 8 in the previous model. The new model comes in two colors, Black and Bordeaux, whereas the original only came in one color. It comes with two stimulation heads, medium and small (in a separate pouch) and you are welcome to order other sizes direct from Womanizer.

What are the specs of the Classic 2?

ColorsRun TimeCharge TimeHead MaterialBody MaterialsWeightDimensions
Black, Bordeaux180 min120 minSiliconeFull soft touch surface & silicone buttons118 g148 mm x 48 mm x 35 mm

Manufacturer Warranty: 5 years

Box includes: Womanizer Classic 2 clitoral simulator, additional stimulation head, cotton storage pouch, USB charging cable (AC adapter not included), quick start guide, safety instructions

It charges with the included USB charging cable and note, the LED light is in the clitoral stimulating head, and will come on and flash when charging. 120 minutes to charge, 180 minutes of use.

There are three round control buttons. The ON/OFF button is near the bottom of the toy, and sits flush with the surface. The other two buttons are located in the middle of the body. These (+) and (–) buttons sit a bit above the surface of the toy. The (–) is smaller than the (+) button. There’s a tiny gap between them. All three buttons take firm pressure to press down and make a loud click sound.

What are the features?

Pleasure Air Technology, unique to all Womanizer products, means your clitoris is stimulated without direct contact. Gentle air vibrations suck and massage at the same time, giving you an experience unlike any other toy you’ve experienced. Since this product has this technology, this also means there’s no vibration transfer. This is great for anyone with limited hand mobility or general mobility issues. It’s also helpful for those who’ve found the intensity of other clitoral stimulators on the market to be too much.

To turn the Classic 2 on, press and hold the ON/OFF button for two seconds. Increase intensity by tapping the (+), decrease by tapping the (-). Turn it off by pressing the ON/OFF button again for two seconds.

But don’t worry, the Classic 2 has more than one setting, in fact, it boasts 10 intensity levels, so you’re sure to find the right fit for you. Whether you prefer gentle or OMG, you can cycle through and find a level that’s sure to please you. Once you have and you’ve experienced the pleasure you seek, there’s even an Afterglow setting (briefly tap the ON/OFF button), which automatically puts the Classic 2 on its lowest setting, allowing you to ride the waves without feeling the most intense setting you may have wanted before you hit the high notes.

How well does it perform?

In reading other reviews of the Classic and the Classic 2 one thing I noticed is some people with sensitive clits saying the original was already too intense for them and being concerned that adding more intensity levels wasn’t going to help them any. I’m impressed that Womanizer added a lower setting when they revamped the Classic 2, so people with sensitive clits could enjoy more settings, instead of feeling like they weren’t getting something new with this improved toy.

Too often, I feel like toy companies are going for more intensity instead of understanding you can add more without necessarily making everything a jackhammer. Don’t get me wrong, I don’t want every toy to feel “weak” so to speak, but an understanding that every body is different is important.

The new Afterglow feature is nice for multiple reasons. Whether you have a sensitive clit or not, once you’ve orgasmed the first time, your clit can get a little sensitive and if you’re going for more than one O, it’s nice to slow things down a bit and that feature helps. You can also use it to edge yourself and make things last, and ramp things up for an even bigger finish.

Overall, I really enjoyed this toy and it’s definitely become a staple in my rotation of clitoral stimulators. I love the materials the body is constructed of, the matte finish is nice, it doesn’t get slippery if your hand has lube on it (which mine usually does!) and that’s a really nice touch.

Final Thoughts

I recently reviewed the Womanizer Starlet 3 and created this chart to compare it with the Classic 2. Price wise, there’s a pretty significant gap. They’re similar toys in so far as what they do, but luxury definitely wins the day. If you can afford to save for the Classic 2, I highly recommend it. But if you want a more affordable option, you won’t be disappointed with the Starlet 3 until the Classic 2 becomes available for your budget.


Classic 2 The Essential Clitoral StimulatorStarlet 3 Compact Sized Clitoral Stimulator
ColorsBlack, BordeauxTurquoise, indigo, violet, pink, gray
Intensity levels106
materialFull soft touch surface & silicone buttonsABS & silicone head
Charging time12030
Run time18030
Special featuresAfterglowNone
Water resistanceWaterproof (IPX7)Waterproof (IPX7)

Thank you to Betty’s Toy Box for providing the Classic 2 in exchange for an honest review. The links contained in this article are affiliate links, so if you treat yourself while shopping, I’ll earn a small commission. Use my code DEMI while shopping at Betty’s and save 10 percent on your entire order. Shipping is free when you spend $69.

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This Romance Book Subscription Box Brings More Than Words

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Subscription box, we all the term now–they’ve been around for a number of years and at this point, you can get most anything you desire within a little (or large) cardboard box delivered right to your door. Since the pandemic began, people have relied on them to diversify their palates, whether that be food or fashion, and now, even with books and sexual wellness items. Why not couple the two?

Melissa Saavedra is the Latina founder of Steamy Lit, a romance book and sexual wellness subscription box service which offers recipients a vibrator and a selection of self-care items to enjoy along with their steamy novels. Don’t worry, if you’re not interested in receiving a toy, you can choose a box that doesn’t have one.

A US Navy veteran, Melissa launched the inclusive product, to not only open the lines of communication around sexual wellness but to also diversify readers book shelves by amplifying the voices of authors who have been historically underrepresented in the publishing world. In particular female authors, people of colors and authors from the LGBTQ+ community.

How Does The Steam Box Subscription Box Work?

Every quarter, your box is curated with three to four books for that season, plus three or four items from women-owned small businesses, and vibes/sexual wellness items. Not everything comes at once. Your first box contains one book, your items from the small businesses, and your vibe/wellness items. Your other books will follow every two months so you never run out of steamy content!

Subscription Boxes Available

Annual–Boxes for all four quarters. These are full boxes, products, books, and vibes.

Semi-annual-– Boxes for two quarters. These are full boxes, products, books, and vibes.

Quarterly— You can choose a book only subscription (just the books). No Vibes (only books and products). Full box (books, products, and vibes)

They also have merch! Personally, I love some of the t-shirts and I really want to get this one:

From The Steam Box Merch Shop

Quarterly boxes begin at $55 USD every three months

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The box I received is the Latine/x Romance Special Edition Box. It contains three books, Love Me, Maddie Mendoza by Amy Oliveria; The Sunset Job by Max Walker; and On the Hustle by Adriana Herrerra with a special NSFW vellum exclusive insert. It also included Candle from Heka Remedies, Concha bath bomb from Loquita Bath and Body, Passion fruit lotion bar from Pachamama Is Mother Earth, Vibe and lube from Maude, and Bookmark from Fandom Sleeves. This special edition box is still available and is currently on sale for $99 USD.

5 percent of each box is donated to Latinx in Publishing, an organization committed to supporting and increasing the number of Latinx people that work in publishing, and promoting literature by, for, and about Latinx people.

You can check out my reel on Instagram where I show you each item.

I love that Steamy Lit is a woman owned business and their attention to detail. The box arrived quickly and is full of items I will actually use. The candle smells delicious, the lotion bar feels divine on my skin, and I can’t wait for an opportunity to use the bath bomb. In the past when I’ve tried other sexual wellness subscription boxes, I found a lot of them to be cheap feeling. The “extra” items were not well made, and felt like something you’d find in a crackerjack box if you catch my drift.

They reminded me of the old-school toys you’d get from seedy sex toy shops back in the day, when everything took AAA batteries and died after you used them once. ABS plastic and just not decent quality. If you got any other perks, they felt like they came from Dollar Tree.

It just wasn’t the quality I expected from a subscription box service when I was paying decent money.

With Steamy Lit, I feel like I am getting more than my money’s worth. These are full size products, the vibe is a brand I know and trust, and let’s be frank, I’m not afraid to use it or the amazing self-care products that have been included. And that bookmark? How cute is that?

**This is a sponsored post. I was provided this subscription box in exchange for an honest review. Thank you to Steamy Lit for providing this box and a quality product and service. This article contains affiliate links, so if you decide to treat yourself while shopping, I may earn a small commission. To learn more, get in contact with me here.

Why You Should Be Using Lube and Which Types

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There are a ton of brands of lube on the market today, so it can be difficult to know exactly what type you should be using for your adult fun. First, let’s get the shame out of the way, shall we? There shouldn’t be any. I remember the first time I brought up using lube in the bedroom. I hadn’t been married to my first husband for very long and I was pretty young, not quite 21 years old. Back then, I couldn’t express why I was having issues with self lubrication, but now I can tell you it probably had a lot to do with stress. Regardless of why, adding a little wetness from a bottle should never have been an issue, but apparently, according to him, it was.

He made me feel like I shouldn’t need it and even asking about it was a personal affront to him. Guys, don’t do this, ever. If your partner says they want to use lube or even if they don’t, and they break out the bottle during sexy time, go with it. Lube, just like sex toys, is a bonus feature in the bedroom, not something to be shamed about. It enhances things, it doesn’t take away from a damn thing.

It’s 2023 and I really feel like I shouldn’t have to make this statement but using lube is absolutely necessary when doing anything anal, just in case you weren’t aware. The anus is not self lubricating. Just putting that out there.

What types of lube are there?

Water based lube

When you think of using lube, water based lube is what probably comes to mind first. It’s the most basic lube available and literally goes with everything. You can use it with all of your sex toys, it’s compatible with latex condoms, and it’s typically available at your local drugstore. But be aware, not all water based lubes are created equal and there are some ingredients you’re going to want to avoid.

Remember: Your skin is an organ! Any product you use on your body gets absorbed into your body.

Ingredients to Avoid: Parabens (synthetic preservative that mimics estrogen), Glycerin (can cause yeast infections and UTIs if you are prone to them, if not, then this is fine. It is widely used in lubricants so it’s difficult to avoid), benzocaine (a numbing agent, we’ll talk more about this later), Propylene glycol (this is an ingredient in antifreeze!), Nonoxynol-9 (this is a spermicide that can lead to BV in some women, as it kills the good bacteria in your vagina).

My favorite water based lubricants also have ingredients that moisturize and don’t leave a sticky residue. Since they are water based, they don’t always have a ton of staying power, but the good news is, adding just a few drops of water reactivates the lube and you’re good to go!

Demeter’s Water Based Lube Recommendations

Gleam by Velvet Co–Formulated using purely sea-kelp-based glycerin, this top-selling lubricant is designed to provide a silky smooth, and comforting glide with no sticky or tacky residue. Sea kelp based glycerol is excellent for skin that is prone to dry irritating conditions. The sea kelp provides Omega 3 which soothes and softens, reducing sensitivity.

Sliquid Naturals Satin–Moisturizes with aloe, carageenan, and vitamin E, it doubles as a long-lasting lube. You can use it daily for relief from vaginal dryness. Cruelty free and vegan.

Sliquid Naturals Sassy–Formulated for anal play, but definitely can be used for any type of play, this extra cushiony water based lube is never tested on animals and vegan. No scent, no taste, glycerin-free and paraben-free.

Pros of Water Based Lube:

  • It doesn’t stain your sheets
  • Washes off easily in water
  • Compatible with sex toys/condoms

Cons of Water Based Lube:

  • May not be thick enough/long-lasting enough for anal/long sex sessions.
  • Some people find it to be too sticky.

Silicone based lube

If you have sensitive skin or you really enjoy having sex in the shower, silicone lube is a great option for you. One of the pros of water based lube is that it washes away easily with water, but that’s a con if you’re having a good time in the bath or shower–but with silicone lube, that’s not a problem. It stays put and has the added bonus of leaving your skin feeling pretty amazing. It’s also compatible with latex condoms. It is not, however, compatible with your silicone sex toys, as it can erode them and cause damage, leaving them susceptible to bacteria, which is never a good thing.

Silicone lube is also fantastic for anal play, but remember, if you’re going to be incorporating a toy, be sure it’s not a silicone one (or cover it with a condom just to be on the safe side).

Demeter’s Silicone Lube Recommendations

Wicked Sensual Care Ultra–Sensuous and long lasting, it feels silky smooth on your skin. Paraben free. Never sticky. No aftertaste. Vegan no animal by products or testing, Made in the USA, glycerin free, Propylene glycol free. Use code DEMI to get 10 percent off when shopping at Betty’s.

JO Premium Original–Their original silicone lubricant, paraben and glycerin free, buttery smooth with a soft finish, won’t wash away easily in water, and compatible with most toys. This lube is condom friendly (not with polyurethane) and is FDA licensed. Use code DEMI10 to receive 10 percent off anything you purchase from the JO store when you shop.

Pros of Silicone Lube:

  • Good for sensitive skin
  • Long lasting
  • Made with high quality ingredients
  • Safe to use with most condoms

Cons of silicone lube:

  • Not safe to use with most silicone sex toys

Hybrid Lubes

So is there an in-between? Of course there is. If you really like the pros of water based lubes but also want some staying power of silicone lubes–but you want to be able to use it with your silicone toys, then hybrid lube is going to be your new best friend. It’s really the best of both worlds. You can use it with toys, condoms, in the shower, the tub, for anal, not have to worry about re-applying very often, and for the most part it doesn’t stain (though it can, so I would still recommend putting down something like The Layer or Liberator Throw just in case)

Demeter’s Hybrid Lube Recommendations

Wicked Sensual Care Hybrid–A water and silicone hybrid, unscented and flavor free, super silky water based lube that is easy to clean as well as toy and latex friendly, blended in harmony with a rich bodied silicone that lasts and lasts. This fusion hybrid lube is an excellent choice for all types of play. Use code DEMI to get 10 percent off when shopping at Betty’s.

Sliquid Silk–Sliquid is one of my favorite lubes, so it’s no wonder their hybrid makes the list. A water and silicone mix, glycerin free and paraben free, hypoallergenic and non-toxic. Uniquely blended to emulate your body’s own natural lubrication. Use code DEMI to get 10 percent off when shopping at Betty’s.

Pros of Hybrid Lube:

  • Best of both worlds (all the pros of water and silicone based lubes)
  • Safe for use with all your sex toys
  • Safe for use with latex condoms
  • Long lasting (washes off easier in water than regular silicone lube, but not as easy as regular water based lube)

Cons of Hybrid Lube:

  • Not quite as long lasting as straight silicone lube
  • Doesn’t wash off as easily as water based lube

Oil based lubes with and without CBD

I’ll admit, oil based lube wasn’t even on my radar until a couple of years ago, unless you counted baby oil. Let’s not talk about that (don’t use baby oil as lube). We live and learn, right?

Then I was introduced to Foria and I’ve never looked back. Their CBD infused oil based lubricant and arousal oils have been a game changer for me and I am happy to tell everyone I know about them. For those who would rather not have CBD in their oil, they have a line of botanical infused oils as well, CBD free. Today, they’ve announced the release of a study with astounding results surrounding their melts product, a fast acting CBD suppository, designed to help lubricate and ease tension.

  • 95% of women found that Foria’s Intimacy Melts (fast-acting CBD suppositories designed to help lubricate and ease tension) increased internal glide during penetration
  • 92% of participants experienced increased pleasure while using Intimacy Melts
  • The study also found a statistically significant improvement in participants’ ability to achieve relaxation during sex following the use of the Intimacy Melts

I can personally attest to these results. I’ve been using the melts for over a year now and can’t imagine not using them on a regular basis. One thing to note with any oil based lubricant is, they’re not compatible with latex condoms. In theory, lambskin should be okay with oil based lube, but always check the packaging of the condom to be sure.

Demeter’s Oil Based Lube Recommendations

Foria Sex Oil with CBD–With just two clean ingredients – 400mg broad-spectrum CBD and organic coconut oil – it’s designed to provide all-natural lubrication, ease discomfort, enhance arousal, and assist with penetration both vaginally and anally.

Coconu Oil Based Lube–Coconu is a natural, coconut oil-based lubricant that’s silky smooth, non-sticky and safe for toys. If you want natural ingredients, no parabens, petroleum or glycerin, then Coconu is the right choice for you.

Pros of Oil Based Lube:

  • Can also be used as massage oil
  • Long lasting
  • Can help ease tension (if it contains CBD)

Cons of Oil Based Lube:

  • Staining
  • Can’t be used with condoms

Flavored Lubes

When giving oral, flavored lubes can really up your game. They not only add lubrication but making your partner taste even more delicious can encourage you to go for broke. Companies like Wicked Sensual Care have so many varieties to choose from–don’t limit yourself to only using one, you can mix and match multiple flavors to create a combination that tickles your fancy. One of my favorites is combining brown sugar and peach–it tastes like peach cobbler!

Demeter’s Flavored Lube Recommendations

Wicked Sensual Care Mango–Any of the flavored lubes in Wicked Sensual Care’s line are great, but the Mango is probably my favorite overall. Use code DEMI to receive 10 percent off your order.

JO Sweet and Bubbly–This set features Champagne and Chocolate Covered Strawberry, which you can combine for a real treat. Use code DEMI10 to receive 10 percent off your order.

JO Champagne and Red Velvet Cake–Featuring a Champagne and Red Velvet Cake, can be used separately or together for a different take on sweet and bubbly. Part of their 20 year anniversary collection. Use code DEMI10 to receive 10 percent off your order.

Bonus Lube Recommendation

Pulse is a lube warming system I just adore. When you purchase your warmer, you can choose water based, oil based, and/or massage oil. How cool is that? As much as I love my bottles of different lubes for various purposes, one of the best things I ever did for myself was invest in this system. When using lube, it can be a shock to your body when it’s cold–almost as much as rolling over into the wet spot! I don’t use it all the time, but when I want to treat myself, especially during self-care sessions, I definitely reach for the lube from Pulse.

When should you be using lube?

Whenever the hell you want to.

Beyond that, using lube every time you have sex can make things slicker, more fun, and just plain sexier. Something I learned only a few years ago when I got into sex education was using lube more frequently while giving oral (and receiving!) can be so fun and make things go down a lot easier. Pun fully intended.

Using lube when you’re masturbating is also fantastic, whether you’re incorporating toys into your play or not. Wetter is always better and when you’re engaging in solo play, why not romance yourself? The stress of the day can cause vaginal dryness, but that doesn’t mean you’re not turned on, so adding lubricant can aid in bringing you pleasure instead of focusing on anxiety about whether you’re really in the mood or not.

There are many reasons why our bodies may not produce enough natural lubrication. Let’s do away with the idea that just because we aren’t wet doesn’t mean we aren’t sexually excited, because that simply may not be the case. Certain medications, stress, and illness can all lead to lack of lubrication–all things that using lube can easily correct.

We need to change the narrative around using lube. There’s no reason to be ashamed about it, using lube is normal and does nothing but add to the fun.

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Why the Fun Factory Bootie Fem is My New Favorite Butt Plug

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Butts are great. We all have them and if you do things right when it comes to preparation, booty play can be truly orgasmic. Time, lube, and patience are your three amigos. Personally, I like to add toys to the mix any time the opportunity arises. When it comes to anal play, butt plugs are one of my favorite ways to do this. Butt plugs don’t have to be gendered by any means, but let’s face it, there are a lot of male centered versions on the market that target the p-spot. While that’s awesome, where are plugs for vulva owners? Don’t worry, Fun Factory has entered the chat with the Bootie Fem.

What is the Fun Factory Bootie Fem?

Bootie Fem is a specially designed butt plug, just for vulva owners. The tulip design is not only pretty, it’s practical–providing a lube channel for easier insertion. It’s perfect for beginners to anal play with its slim design, measuring just 1.14 inches at its widest point, and has an asymmetrical base making it comfortable to wear during vaginal penetration.

Specs of the Bootie Fem/What’s in the Box

The Bootie Fem is a discreet, medical grade silicone butt plug by Fun Factory. It’s available in two colors, rose and dark taupe (which I would call purple) and one size only. It’s non-porous, hypoallergenic, and easy to clean. You can boil it if you’d like and dry, or just wash with soap and water. It comes in a recyclable box, with the toy, instructions for use, and some fun suggestions/games for you and your partner if you’d like to try.

This is considered a beginner butt plug as it’s on the small side, 3.34 inches in length and only 1.14 inches at its widest point. But don’t let that stop you from grabbing one if you’re a more advanced anal enthusiast. The shape of this plug does something intriguing for PiV (penis in vagina) play (or any type of insertion in vagina) because of its design.

What it’s Like Using the Fun Factory Bootie Fem

Let’s get to why you’re really here. How is using this pretty butt plug any different than a traditional plug? That’s exactly what I wanted to know when I was first approached. I’ll admit, I’m a sucker for a gimmick, but only if it actually does what it says it will. So, does the Bootie Fem really temporarily change the shape of the vaginal canal for PiV sex? Can it guide your partner’s penis or a dildo to your g-spot?

Yes, yes it can.

Not everyone enjoys g-spot stimulation, but thankfully I am one of those people who absolutely does. It’s one of the surest ways to make me squirt, which is something else I’m a huge fan of. Using this adorable little butt plug was a no brainer for me if that was on the table, so of course I said yes to receiving one in exchange for an honest review.

Plus, I really enjoy anal play.

I don’t currently have a local partner but that doesn’t mean I can’t enjoy using a butt plug during masturbation and also incorporate a dildo for some PiV fun, so that’s exactly what I did. Thanks to Betty’s Toy Box, I have a lovely sex stool that makes it much easier to accomplish this feat.

Using lube is 100 percent required when engaging in anal play. Since the Bootie Fem is a silicone toy, you’ll want to use a water based or hybrid lube–I like Sliquid Sassy because it’s thick and water based, but their Silk (hybrid) is great too and safe to use with all Fun Factory toys.

The lube channels in the top of the tulip design of the Bootie Fem are great, they capture the lube and make it easier for you to slide the plug into place. If you’re new to butt play especially, take some time to relax first. Romance yourself. And hey, having an orgasm (or three) beforehand never hurt anyone.

I decided to go all in for my first play session with this toy and incorporate a dildo (I used the Limba Flex in medium), my magic wand mini, and the plug. Go big or go home, right? After inserting the Bootie Fem, I was ready to ride the Limba which I’d already attached to my sex stool ahead of time. I love that the base of the plug is asymmetrical, that’s definitely been an issue in the past with other butt plugs and vaginal penetration. It doesn’t stop it from happening, it just makes it a little more of a pain in the ass–pun intended.

Slowly sliding onto the dildo, I could tell a little difference in how it felt entering my body once compared to normal. I wouldn’t say it was a huge change, but it was enough to notice. I chose the Limba Flex because it’s guaranteed to hit my g-spot when I thrust in and out during masturbation, so I knew it would be a great dildo to use for this experiment. It was definitely a great choice, thanks to the plug pressing against my canal and guiding the dildo towards my g-spot even more, and being hands-free, I was able to use the wand to stimulate my clit and get the full range of pleasure I was hoping for.

I won’t lie. I had my first orgasm pretty damn quickly with all the stimulation I had going on but I wasn’t anywhere near ready to stop. Having the ability to ride the dildo as hard and fast as I wanted to allowed me to not only control the depth and pressure at which I was being pounded, it also let me edge myself with the wand. And, I could even hold it on my clit and make an orgasm go on and on long after it could have been over. When I have a feeling of fullness and I’m being made to squirt, adding a clitoral orgasm to the mix just puts me over the top, so this play session was really just beyond and I can’t find anything to complain about.

Pros and Cons of the Bootie Fem

You’ve read all the pros of this cute little butt plug and to be fair the only con I can come up with is personal–I would love for Fun Factory to offer it in a larger size at some point. I love that it’s for beginners and am glad they’re offering this discreet size at launch, but I think there are others out there, like me, who love anal play and would really enjoy the option to have a larger size available. It would also be nice to have less feminine color options available as well. Just because someone has a vulva doesn’t mean they identify as female and these colors are pretty feminine. Otherwise, this toy is pretty damn perfect.

If you’re ready to get your Bootie Fem, head on over to Fun Factory and grab yours today. Right now, they’re 20 percent off, along with a ton of other items during their Valentine’s Day Sale, going on now through February 14th. Links in this post are affiliate links, so if you treat yourself to anything while you shop, I may earn a small commission at no additional cost to you.

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The Best Sex Blanket I’ve Ever Owned as a Squirter

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Sex can get messy, especially when one partner is a squirter and a sex blanket can fix that with ease. I can’t tell you how many sets of sheets, mattress covers, and mattresses, among other things, I ruined before I finally found ways to protect the surfaces I have sex on. One of the first items I was introduced to was a simple medical item, a washable chux pad. They were placed on the bed when I had my children, but I never considered using them during sex. Fairly inexpensive and washable, but they’re not exactly pretty. If you’re using them with your regular partner, you may care more about function than fashion, but if you want something that’s a little prettier and more discreet, I’ve found something that works just as well to fit the bill.

So, What to Do? Get a Sex Blanket!

Recently, the makers of The Layer reached out and asked if I would be interested in trying their product. The Layer is a woman owned and operated company, and their product is made in the USA. Just like a chux pad, The Layer lays on top of your sheets and under you when you’re ready to have some adult fun, and nothing gets through! It’s also the perfect size and shape to put on the couch, or anywhere you’re having fun. It’s round, so no worries about which way you place it! It’s always the right way. One side is luxurious soft, organic cotton fleece, the other is waterproof magic. It’s not noisy, we’ll leave the sounds up to you. It absorbs all sexy-time messes, even menstrual blood. Because it’s not white, like chux pads, there’s no worry of stains showing. It’s a sex blanket but it’s functional for all sorts of things not related to sex as well and I always love a multi-use product.

The Layer is super thin and 40 inches in diameter, so it fits easily in a night table, an overnight bag, or even in your glove compartment. They also sell an attractive clutch for discretion and cleanliness, perfect for that hot date. It’s been tested to withstand over 300 washings and is 100 percent eco-friendly. You can machine or hand wash in warm water, no bleach, no fabric softener, and medium tumble dry.

My review is mentioned in this podcast <3

Real World Experience With This Awesome Sex Blanket

It’s all well and good for a company to tell you how well this sex blanket works, but using it in the real world is what we really want. I’m a prolific squirter and I love using lube. My husband also thinks it’s great to make me squirt as much as humanly possible. In fact, I believe he’s made it his life’s goal to dehydrate me every single time we have sex. As I’m sure you’ve heard, no one wants to sleep in the wet spot. It’s cold, it’s uncomfortable, and it sucks.

The day we received The Layer in the mail, we knew we’d be trying it out that night. I couldn’t believe how thin it was and honestly, wasn’t sure how much liquid it would hold. I’ve soaked through chux pads before, so I was a bit leery this thin sex blanket would handle what I could dish out. But I was definitely willing to try. I told the hubby ahead of time he was free to attempt to make as much of a mess as he wanted. Because we’ve definitely had to have conversations before about holding back to keep the mess down, which sucks! But in our current living situation, only being able to do laundry on a limited basis and owning two sets of sheets, we’ve got to be careful.

Getting Down to Business

So we broke out the lube and some toys and got busy. Really busy. I was concerned The Layer may not be wide enough to accommodate everything we got into. We were all over the place! But we managed to stay on the blanket for the most part, and when we didn’t, we weren’t making too much of a mess. We used our current favorite sex oil, Foria’s Intimacy Sex Oil with CBD, which typically doesn’t stain anyway and definitely didn’t show on The Layer. After a couple of hours of intense, super wet play, it was time to see if this sex blanket lived up to its promises.

I slowly pulled it down to the end of the bed, almost expecting to see at least a tiny bit of moisture underneath. Much to my delight and surprise, the sheets were bone dry! The Layer totally lived up to the hype and kept every bit of liquid ensconced in it’s comfy fibers where it belongs. No one slept in the wet spot that night, and they’ll never have to again.

Final Thoughts

We love The Layer and know you will too. If you go to their website, and sign up for their newsletter, you’ll get a code for 10 percent off your order immediately. This isn’t an affiliate link, but I was given my Layer in exchange for my honest review. I recommend it to anyone who wants to keep the surfaces where they have sex clean and dry.

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