Sex toys have often been considered a solo adventure, especially for women. Using sex toys as a couple is a conversation that can be awkward for some, but well worth the results. When it comes to our pleasure, being open-minded is not a bad thing.
A few months ago, I learned through experimentation, my husband enjoys having certain toys used on him. There’s never been an issue bringing toys into bed with us, other than lack of toys, but he never expressed interest in having one for himself.
When Sex Toys and Your Man Are a Great Combination
I gave my first hand-job to completion to my husband back in October and added my vibrating bullet to the mix. While using my hand on his shaft, I placed the bullet under his testicles. It was a clear winner. Lots of lube, slippery hand up and down the shaft (paying lots of attention to the head) and a vibrator on his testicles was the perfect combination for ejaculation.
It wasn’t long after the epic hand-job we had our first experience together using a toy, on him, internally.
The same vibrating bullet from our first toy run came into play again. It’s the first time my husband ever had anything larger than a finger inserted in his anus.
After five years of being together and learning he won’t be judged, he was finally able to let go and experience the pleasure he’s desired.
Stepping Up Our Game With a Vibrating Wand
Since our first experiences, we’ve been lucky enough to add more toys to our collection. Being asked to review toys has been a blessing for many reasons, not the least of which is bulking up our collection and learning what toys we do and don’t like.
We have an awesome inflatable that’s become a go-to anytime we break out the toys. I can use it on him or he can use it on me. My favorite is using it to stimulate his p-spot. I love the orgasm this causes and the look of sheer ecstasy on his face.
Recently, we got a new vibrating wand to try. I’ll admit, I was a bit leery as I own a wand already. I wasn’t sure what owning two wands would do for me, but I was willing to try.
We’ve been due a toy night, so last night was the perfect time to test out our newest addition to the toy family.
Hubby requested to be tied up, so who am I to deny such a lovely request?
After trussing him up, I wanted to tease him a bit. He loves to tease me and make me wait and I wanted to return the favor, when he wasn’t able to do anything about it.
Yes, I’m evil.
Starting with our newest toy, the mushroom head vibrating wand , I turned it on and ran it over his thighs. The first thing I noticed is the strength of the vibrations. Holding it in your hand, it feels like it might be too much. It does have seven different settings and I flipped through them all to test them out.
Now, personally, I’m not a big fan of the changing patterns for myself. It’s frustrating when you’re trying to get off to have the pattern and intensity changed. If we’re playing and not going straight for the O, then it’s awesome. But if I’m using it alone, I go for the single pattern vibration.
Once you place the toy on the body, the vibrations are diffused. Hubby said it felt fantastic across his entire cock and balls. I have to agree, as he was attempting to break the restraints to buck off the bed.
Taking Teasing to Pleasing
I had my fun teasing with the vibrating wand and decided to add oral to the mix. That’s always a winning combination and this time was no different. It wasn’t long before he was ready to come out of the restraints and get down to more fun.
Taking matters into my own hands again, I rode cowgirl for a while before letting him have his way with me.
It was time to let him test the vibrating wand on myself, so I could see just how great it is.
The large surface of the wand’s end covers a lot of area. I love how it covers my entire clit and the area around it, giving good targeted vibrations.
It’s curved shape fits easily in your hand and the curves of your body making it easy to hold while getting the pleasure you desire.
Due to the shape, it’s perfect for holding between your bodies while having missionary sex. It also worked well in doggy and cowgirl.
The Final O
After more orgasms than I can count, it was time to call it a night. Our new toy is an awesome new addition to our toy collection and definitely goes on top. We love that we can both enjoy it and use it in different positions. The curved shape makes it easy to hold without causing discomfort over time to your hand and the large head gives you diffused vibration over your body.
Talking about what you want with your partner makes your time together so much more fun. You’re in for the adventure of a lifetime when you have an open-minded partner. Don’t let societal pressures and expectations stop you from getting everything you both desire.
Originally posted on Medium.